Hello everybody. I hope you are all right.
I would like to know what the experience is like for people who are in a relationship where one is top and the other versatile.
I met a guy about 2 months ago, and for 1 month we have been in a serious relationship. At first, we just met in grindr and had nothing emotional. I already knew that he was active, he also already knew that I was versatile, but it was just casual. However, as I got to know him I started to like him a lot, because we get along very well and we have an incredible connection. So one day he just told me he was starting to have feeling about me, then we start a relationship.I feel like i'm the happiest guy in the world when i'm next to him (we have some differences such as age, where he is 38 years old and I am 24 , I am more emotional and he is more skeptical and rational (I even understand the fact that he is more rational from what he told me about past relationships that were terrible for him)).
At first, I didn't mind being more bottom, however, I want to continue being versatile, but he has already told me that he has no desire to bottom, that he has tried a few times and that in a previous relationship he already did it to please and felt bad, that he can't get horny. He said he wouldn't mind opening up the relationship or doing a threesome, but I don't like that idea, as I'm monogamous, and I'm super uncomfortable with the idea of getting involved with someone else while i'm in a serious relationship. The problem is that I'm getting a little anxious about this, because I love him so much, and I would have no problem waiting as long as it takes for him to warm up to the idea. But from what I know of him, I don't know if he would change his mind or think about it, even more so because he already said that he didn't like it the other times he tried it and that the last time we talked about it he was a little afraid for not being able to satisfy me when I desire to be top.
I'm lost, I feel like I'm being selfish for thinking about something that maybe won't happen, but it's unfair for me to also neglect something that I know I'll want over time.
I would like to ask what I should do in this situation, as above all I love him very much, and I wouldn't want to do anything that could hurt his feelings.
