I think what helps for me is that I know that guys have preferences. Some guys like extremely masculine guys with body hair, rippling muscles, and an overal manly demeanor, and some guys like the polar opposite. And no matter how hot I may think a guy is, or how much I want to fuck him, or him to fuck me, he may not want me because of his type, but odds are there's probably a guy ill also find attractive who will want me because I AM his type. And when that guy shows up, I just look for common factors in what turns him on to things I like to do, and go from there. He can afford to be pick and choosey, so ill just show him what I've got to offer and how it'll benefit him, and if he goes for it, he goes for it, if not, no big deal, there's always another day, or another guy.