Great thread, even if it has gotten off topic. Most people don't appreciate unsolicited advice (or hear the advice they do ask for, unless its the opinion they already have...), but experience offered by HIV veterans really should be considered, whether it's sought out or not. Things really do get more complicated with HIV. That being said, I can't throw a rock lately without hitting a guy that's decided to embrace the virus instead of fucking in fear. It may not make much sense to those who've been ravaged by the disease and opportunistic infections, or to those who've watched friends waste away and die, but these scenarios aren't nearly as common as they were a few decades ago. I doubt many of today's poz seekers really experienced the epidemic in the 80s and 90s; I don't think they have that frame of reference. Their HIV is less visceral, easily managed by the latest medications (when they decide to go on them…), and harder to get with all these undetectable fuckers running around. Basically, HIV culture is changing, just like the virus itself mutates. I just hope every man seeking HIV infection considers the advice he's offered, plays the tape forward, and plans ahead before he commits himself to taking the load that may change his life.