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2 hours ago, ErosWired said:

Would you care to elaborate on that? Because I now have a mental image that cannot be right...

Haha... maybe wiggling isn't the best word... Rocking or swinging back and forwards a little so there is some forwards and backwards motion shows you're engaged and willing. If you're just motionless you could be asleep!

Similar experiences here at the Luton Greenhouse Sauna. So many guys 'come for a look' and then disappear. I think that sauna is a bit too vanilla and most of the action goes on in private. The sling at SOP has a much higher success rate - it helps if you engage someone before going to the sling so they come and play. Then others seem to join in... If you just go to the sling alone and lay there, it seems to never happen. Also I wonder if the sling being in a well lit area isn't helpful - certainly the ones at Luton Greenhouse are in a room that's lit enough to see and I struggle with them. The sling in the basement of Darlaston Greenhouse is in pitch black (no blindfold needed) and seems a lot more successful. I also find not just laying there but massaging my hole and wiggling suggestively helps. Making the chains jangle also attracts attention if it's quiet. 

"Expectant" is an interesting word and I think it cuts both ways. 

So I was at the sauna last night and it was pretty quiet. Too many bottoms fighting over basically no tops, nobody willing to be versatile. So I decided to switch sides, popped a viagra and put a cock ring on to let the fun begin. 

what I found was most of the bottoms were really lazy and unengaging - they bend over and stick their ass out in your direction expectantly, and that's it. When I top I like bottoms I play with at least to engage somehow - show they want it, or appreciate the attention. Maybe that's a little sucking or nipple play. Maybe it's an encouraging hand exploring. Even something verbal. Just something beyond waggling a bent over arse in my direction expectantly. That's the way to guarantee I'm rock hard and ready.   SO I guess you could say it's about attitude, and I'd put attitude over looks every time. 

When I bottom, that is how I behave - I work for it - I set myself apart from lazy bottoms - ensure my top is hard and satisfied, rather just than expecting him to perform a service.   

For me, that is a factor in keeping tops hard and interested. These days now that PrEP is so accessible, clubs and saunas seem to be overrun with bottoms and it gets very competitive. You need a USP to stand out - for some that's their looks/physique. For those of us not as blessed in that regard, attitude is what counts. 

Switching roles like I did last night gives an interesting perspective - it did make me think about the behaviour of the bottoms - what worked, what didn't, what was attractive behaviour and what wasn't. I learned a few things I intend to try next time I'm out and about... 

Sounds like you had a great time, nonetheless.  

Real-life encounters in saunas/bath houses and cruising clubs are often sometimes a bit weird compared to the sanitised versions we hear about in stories and see in porn. I like the real-ness of it, and a weird experience makes for a more interesting experience so long as it doesn't spoil it. I usually only write about the ones that were a bit different on here and don't bother talking about the ones that were "just a load".