happynleather

Neg here and on Prep.  As far as drugs, i dont even smoke weed, i am completely drug free.   I do like my poppers however.

Is anyone else on here into ball stretching?  One of my biggest fantasies is to have a top will his metal ball stretchers fucking me while our metal stretched sacks clank together...  So fucking hot... I would absolutely travel for something like this...

I am only at 7...i need to get it in gear.  Mid Missouri here if anyone is needing to unload

Huge fan of bending over in a dark room.... one of my favorites

On 7/31/2023 at 1:50 PM, cummmmhole said:

I have a question that I'm curious if anyone here can help with.

I've bought two different ball weights. They're rings with a magnetic clamp. I never considered myself to be a person with big balls. I've always considered them pretty average but I just CANNOT get the weights all the way around.

Is there a trick that I'm missing? I'm warming them up and getting them relaxed before hand and it still seems impossible to get the weight on. Is there some sort of sleeve that I should also be buying to squeeze my balls tight to make it easier to get the weight on?

depends on the diameter you have.  Start with a very small diameter, you can leave it one and use it to pull your balls when you put on a larger one.  Ive been stretching for a while and love it

@happynleather  on twitter.  I look forward to talking with any barback slut bottoms or hard core bb tops

16 hours ago, ErosWired said:

Can you identify any particular event, observation, or realization that brought about this change of perspective? I imagine there are many in a similar situation who might benefit from the insight. I congratulate you on your accomplishment.

I do believe so.  I am a single father who has raised my son totally alone since he was 13 months old.  He is now grown and for the first time is in a very serious relationship.  I think i always felt guilty that if i was taking time for myself then i was taking time away from him.   He was the number one priority for me.  Now for the first time in many years i can live for me.   

I have been dabbling with cumdumping for several years now and never fully accepted my role.  For some reason I always felt guilty or ashamed after whoring myself.  Well finally the planets have all lined up apparently and I have finally shook this every persistent feeling of remorse.  I am finally feeling good, proud and accomplished after taking annon loads.  And more importantly I am wanting more when its over.  It is like a switch just flipped in me overnight, Has anyone else experienced this sudden extremly quick feeling of enlightenment?

Your first name (or a name you'll respond to): Scott

Your cell number (for texts and voice calls):  417-597-3808

A location (be at least as specific as a zip code):65401 - Rolla MO

Times you're generally not available: Varies (If you are traveling through this area on 1-44 or staying over in a hotel give me a call ahead of time)

Age: 48

Height: 5'8

Weight: 220

Ethnicity:white

yup, this has happened to me on multiple occasions.  I took a hell of a long trip and went to a mask party in Denver at Midtowne spa one time.  There must have been over 100 people in there easy.  I ended up only getting fucked twice.  I think the more people and more options that are offered the more time people window shop and get choosy.  I have had some of my best results when the crowd trickles in throughout the day.  

One time at band camp

I am a single parent and work social services.  My son is grown but we still live together, as we are the only family each other has.   I am not the cumdump I could be because he is in the picture but I still get loads when I can.  My biggest fear is he will find out, but part of me thinks it will be a relief to not have to hide anymore.  As far as work I say "fuck em" they are in charge of work not my life. 

5 hours ago, LetsPOZBreed said:

Definitely do not get discouraged.  In all my experiences with groups, sex clubs, and saunas, I can tell you first hand that one night shouldn't be your be-all-end-all.

Strangely, the larger the sex party, the less likely it is that you might have the all-out brain busting experience you're imagining.  I've noticed that since the introduction of PrEP that bottoming has become far more competitive than it used to be.  These big sex parties tend to have an oversupply of us.  As such, the tops have many options to choose from.  Even if you do get lucky and take cock, don't expect every guy to breed you.  Personal experience again, you just have to stick it out for a while and eventually a guy will be aching to shoot before heading off.

Open door cumdump is better, but again, if you're doing this at a location and time with many others looking for the same thing, you'll notice diminished returns.  I have gotten the most action doing this on "off" weekends (no other event going on where you have to "compete" for attention).  

With saunas as well, I've had varied experiences as of late.  One week it was lots of guys topping me; a few weeks later, every guy wanted to nut in my mouth instead of fuck me.  As someone previously mentioned, it's better if you can catch horny men over their lunch break or after work; they'll be much more willing to cum quickly and not spend hours browsing.

Bottom line, don't get discouraged.  Try it out a few more times to see if you have different experiences.  I suggest going on a weekend/day-of-week where there's not much else going on.  

Thank you for the advice, I will definitely try another night.  I think it was the fact I spent a pretty big chunk of change that weekend too, for the event that added into the frustration.  Thanks for the pep talk

8 hours ago, find91 said:

Nothing is wrong with you, men but people in general are weird. A lot of people talk about being a cumdump or fucking loaded ass but less actually follow through. sadly you just gotta keep pushing on and I would suggest lower your expectation , especially when it comes to group play. we all had nights like especially if you do sex clubs and saunas it just comes with the game. Tops get picky when they see a lot of choice and guess what happens? They don't fuck anyone because they were too picky. Like others said it looks like it was an off night, or people came in groups ( which most guys won't venture too far from their pack)

Keep your chin up if that is you in your pick you your looks are fine

Yes that is me in the pics, and thank you for the encouragement.   Thanks everyone for the responses, it helps greatly.

9 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

Couple of thoughts.  i agree with others who identify averages, cycles.  i encourage you to keep putting yourself out there, but altering expectations.  The truth is, we don't know what we're going to get when we put our self out there.  While age and looks factor in, they are not the only factors and i find it's a mistake to put to much weight on them.  I really believe other factors are more in play.  

To me, places like saunas or gay events are some of the hardest places to get sex.  If i were a Top spending $30 at a sex club, i'd get very selective and wouldn't want to shoot immediately and just go home.  From what you describe, this was an event and was more social than sexual.  For me, those venues are very hit or miss.  i go to a all gay resort in Palm Springs on a regular basis and some days while i'm there are awesome and some sexless.  And PS is a gay Mecca lol.  If you get discouraged and give up, you'll miss the on days though. 

If i am feeling very horny and cum dumpy, i get most of my quick and easy loads at an ABS during lunch or when guys are getting off work.  i find most of the guys who frequent these places at those times just wanna get off on their way home. It's not unusual for me to take half a dozen cocks in a half hour or so.  It's a different crowd and many are there to simply get off, not find the man of their dreams.

  I think another issue I have is I live in a very dead area, and not much lunch time or spontaneous play here.   But with that said you are absolutely right in the fact that I need to be willing to accept the failures in order to be there for the successes. 

I am going to register for the CLAW 2020 event. THis is my first time and I have a question.  The site does not explain what the events entail.  I want to sing up for a few but not sure what goes on.  I am especially interested in the speed dating (Ass Play (Bottom) Thu 7-8PM Fill That Hole).   What goes on at this?  If it is what I think, it may be awesome

Hey group, I just need some advice and a pick maybe a pick me up.  I am fairly new to the cumdump scene and was going to have a big cuming out over the weekend of Hibearnation in STL.  I spent a pretty good chunk of change and was really disappointed and felt kind of down on myself actually.  I started by going to the Bears at the Bath event.  the place was so packed I could only get a locker.  I laid on the fuck bench until my sternum was sore, moved to the leather bed/table with my ass up for a long time and nothing.  I was there for 3 hours.  sucked some dick but not a single taker to drop a load. It was kind of strange, everyone was kissing and cuddling but no fucking going on in the entire place that I could see.   I advertised an open door cumdump on BBRT in the hotel that hosted hibearnation and it was dead.  I had one guy who actually dropped a load in me, another came and could not get hard and two that walked in and turned away, oh and two that were bottoms and just talked "they were pretty cool though".  I got a bit discouraged and ended up leaving early actually.   Not sure what to do guys, I feel sometimes that whatever "it" is, I don't seem to have it.   Any advice or encouragement would be great

19 hours ago, BREEDmeRAW said:

You already know we have talked about this scene either in my home town or up to Chicago or down to Dallas. We even thought a 3-4 day weekend in Oklahoma City at Cabana Inn off 44 right before the 35 connector. Access to a couple Freeways with easy access to rooms and Free parking for the locals. 

Are you doing Hi-Bear-Nation this year? 

yes, I have a room reserved.  You wanna join me?

5 hours ago, BREEDmeRAW said:

I would be in a relationship with a slutty bottom for sure. Set up a scene at a motel or bathhouse where my partner is sucking my Cock while Various Men Fuck and BREED his hole. He does not need to know what the guy looks like or status.  I will eat his ass and cummy hole and then add my load to his Cum-filled ass.

We can do that scene, just pick a date....

I am setting up my first open door hotel party. I advertised it on BBRT and I plan on going solo.  It is at an event however, so I feel safer.  It is during Hibearnation in STL. and the hotel will be full of like minded people.  Here is the ad I posted, please let me know what you think. Also any tips will help.  The idea for this weekend is it is my jump into the cumdump lifestyle and im looking to start big!!!

On ‎10‎/‎8‎/‎2019 at 3:03 PM, littleK said:

This sounds awesome. I would love to move to a big city and get like a bottom roommate/boyfriend/fwb/whatever to help afford rent and egg each other on in slutting it up

I actually think this is the perfect situation for me.  I not looking for a relationship persay, but a super close friend in a situation like what you described is absolutely awesome

I just set down and made a goal list 2 nights ago.  Here it is:

GOALS BY END OF 2019 (List made on 10/8/19)

Go to Hibearnation

Host a blindfolded open door hotel party

be fucked by more that 10 men in one day

be fucked by more that 20 in a weekend

be fucked through a glory hole

bend over for anyone who wants in a dark room

post personal cell number for a cumdump hotel party

Drink piss

no load refused from no on out

set in sling in bathhouse

Goals by end of 2020

Be fucked by over 100 men in a calendar year:

repierce nipples : (completed 10/9/19) Done at kalidoscope piercing and tattoo in Springfield Missouri. Piereced with 12 gauge, will take some time before streching. I almost backed out and waited until i lost more weight, but then I though to myself, why not... Started tanning on this day as well to make my pasty ass more appealing. I did this way before my goal target.

start wearing PA again: (Completd 10/9/19) Picked up extra 12 gaug while at Kalidascope getting my nipples repierced. Slid it in myself. It went in far easier than expected. I should be up to a 10 guage by the end of December, maybe sooner. Did this way before goal target

stretch balls another 20mm = 110mm total

host at least 3 open door hotel parties

go to Pig Week

find a slut buddy

get in shape

get use to wearing chastity

Long term goals

Be a no loads refused cumdump

over 200 minimum each year

be a regular at a sex club

find a Dom to whore me out

stretch nipples to 10 or 8 guage

stretch PA to 6 or 4 guage

be locked in perminate chastity by PA

50 men in one month

be fisted

K9

have balls touch knees with stretchers

100 loads, holly shit where do I sign  up?????????????

5 hours ago, rawTOP said:

I'd like to hear some discussion on this. I've bought the domains ExposedFags.com and ExposedFag.com, as well as Exposed.men. I'm trying to get a sense for how the niche works. I know it's one of those "edge" cases that a lot of social media sites are skittish about because it can be abused and become revenge porn. I started at Twitter account, @ExposdFags, but I've been really careful not to retweet things unless it's clear the guy is giving consent by holding his ID in the pic, writing his consent on this body, etc.

 

My thinking is I'll set up the site so guys who want to be exposed enter into a literal legally binding contract. It would be a barter arrangement where I get a license to use the images, and they get exposure on my various sites. So each party gets "something of value". I'd require a photo of their ID, and them holding their ID to prove who I'm doing business with guys over 18, and that they photos they submit are of them. The photos of their ID and them holding their IDs can be kept private or distributed. Ditto with their legal name, location, etc. – guys will be able to get the level of exposure they want. Then there would be a monetary fee to cancel the license. The fee would be per image, and the cancellation fee would increase each time they request a batch of images be deleted. That will either discourage guys who aren't serious from submitting their photos, and/or attract cash slaves who want to be abused financially. [Another niche with nuances I've never quite understood.]

 

Question: Exposed Fags is a better name than Exposed Men, right?

Initially I was noticing a lot of cross-dressers labeling themselves exposed fags, and I'm not really interested in supporting cross-dressers – the audience is straight men who I want to avoid. So I thought Exposed Men might be better. But from what I've seen the guys who want to be exposed really identify with the term "fag", so I'm now thinking Exposed Fags is better.

 

Anyway, it's an understatement to say I don't have the time to develop this right now. The UK has been threatening to deploy age verification. If they actually do it, then I'll work on S3XAV.com (my age verification solution for my own sites), and since there's overlap between that project and Exposed Fags then Exposed Fags will get done relatively soon. Otherwise there's a fairly long list of stuff that's more important and it will be 3+ years before I get around to this project.

 

If you have other thoughts on this niche, I'm all ears… Just realize it's gonna be years before I get around to doing anything.

I love this idea and am in 100 percent.    I went to exposed fag and the only issue I would have personally is there are only three categories to chose from:  Fag sissy, Dominant Alpha, and depends on my mood.  I am a sub bottom cumdump but Im no sissy. I am man through and through.  I think if there was another category such as: cumdump, then it may attract more non trans and crossdresser....just a thought...but I do LOVE the idea here