Poz50something

What’s the opposite of laying on a bed doing nothing, not even kissing or pulling nips, waiting to be worshipped?  That’s what I find sexy….oh …and nipples that are well-nursed. 

7 hours ago, KindaBasic said:

It does seem pathetic that people still use “clean” for STIs in 2026 

It smacks of the VD campaigns of the 1940s and ‘50s, when health professionals attached a stigma to STD transmission. During the era, women were often labelled as the reservoir and means of transmission, and it was the most socially disadvantaged groups that were targeted, including  minority races.
 

When the 1980s and the HIV AIDS epidemic occurred, we as gay men were now the corrupt vectors of disease. ‘Clean’ and ‘dirty’ take on completely different meanings, particularly among the ‘respectable’ married class. 

On 12/8/2025 at 12:55 AM, PozFunBER said:
Do you think that a strict - no drugs - biohazard breeding party would work?

Don’t know how strict German police are, but here in Montreal, if there’s an incident involving drugs, the homeowner is held liable. That means, I can be blamed even if I never touch the stuff. 

I like to call mine a fuckhole…it’s aggressive when I name the hole that I fuck a fuckhole, a cumdump. The Brits, which I take a lot of inspiration from tend to use the word ‘cunt’ more insultingly…you can say to a man ‘listen, you cunt…stop being a wanker…’ and it doesn’t carry the same transgressive meaning it does in America. 

14 minutes ago, Bimarried001 said:

My answer is always, if you are asking me that question we shouldn’t be fucking. Asking me after you been in me is just plain stupid and not worth an answer. 

These days, going to saunas and seeing that very few people use condoms is something else. 

10 hours ago, Sfmike64 said:

I have.

"I"m a filthy pig."

LOVE your response….it’s a fantastic way of disempowering pozphobia. If people were so concerned about status, use a damn condom. I think it gives the questioner plausible deniability….’I mean, I asked if he was clean, and he said yes. It’s not my fault’. Then why did you let him fuck you and cum in your ass? 

2 hours ago, muscmtl said:

 

Anyone know when "pozzing" was invented? Y'all know not real word

I remember reading about ’gift giving’ and how it was this incredible personal thing to give the virus to someone. At the time I was kinda horrified, but kinda thrilled. It may be Scott O’Hara the porn star that came up with that term. He started the quarterly men’s journal called Steam, meant to facilitate cruising and maybe it’s from there that pozzing originated. 

22 minutes ago, lupin said:

Doxy pep isn't even that effective. Really the only things we can do is test, and I'd recommend testing monthly if you are having sex with a lot of random men often enough, or if you have any symptoms. I try to be an ethical slut, but I understand my risks.

There’s also choosing not to fuck with a stranger in a situation one can’t control. …which was my point about things not really being carefree. 

7 hours ago, lupin said:

STI's, especially gono, need to not be fetishized, and hurt those that receive it from others. It ruins the fun of care free sex, and sucks having to go through the treatment process. 

But is it carefree though? Ever since I became Poz, I have been cognisant of the fact that I was careless in my sex choices. We still have the choice of not partaking in certain sex acts…I went to a sex cinema and there was this guy who had his pants down to his ankles showing a rosebud fuckhole lubed with Vaseline petroleum jelly….which would have rendered a condom useless…man, I would have loved to bend him over and fuck him but there’s always the thought:will this be the fucker who will give me chlamydia?  The hole reeked of fuck juice and sperm, but there is totally no way to prevent stds , except for DoxyPreP. 

7 hours ago, lupin said:

HIV is one thing as there isn't a known cure and only treatment you have to take meds the rest of your life.

I think that since the advent of PreP, and PEP, especially if you take your  bareback sex seriously, you needn’t worry….wish I had that in the early 2000s. I get the anxiety around not wanting to be Poz. But it’s better than dying? Like so many of my friends have. 

15 minutes ago, muscmtl said:

Fuck porn theaters, now waste of time. 

Just me? or you all still having full on sex? Asking non-big-dick guys of course😉

I went to Cinéma L’amour Friday night…I learnt thousands of ways to stimulate female porn stars clitorially, and still couldn’t have cared less… NOBODY was doing anything…they were doing the S&M thing…stand and model. There weren’t even unzipped trousers… Jeezus was it dull. There was a guy who wanted me to pork him, and he had lubed up…but maybe if he’d cleaned up his ass. 

Cutedicateguy: I am saddened each time someone new says they’re widowed, as it brings back every experience I had almost 9 years ago.  That said, welcome to the wonderful world of widowhood….it is tough. I am assuming that you are relatively new to grief and reintroducing yourself to dating…it’s a tough slog. I think that the people who tend to go on dating apps aren’t really looking for Mr.Right, rather Mr. Right Now. I  am not sure how naïve wives are…whether expect the vow to be iron clad…this isn’t 1826. Thing is, I can’t fathom why a gay man would marry a woman…especially now, that same sex marriage is here. A lot of DL men don’t have any good information on same sex, PreP or U=U…but who knows….

It’s absolutely well known that asparagus makes cum smell strange, citric fruits make your cum taste fruity…there’s a bean that comes in a large pod called ‘petai ‘ that is eaten in Indonesia,Singapore and Malaysia either dipped in hot chilli sauce or made into a side vegetable dish…there’s taste is pungent, and definitely makes cum taste bitter..

On 9/27/2021 at 9:22 AM, CocksuckerMark said:

How do I deep throat without gagging? 

Practice, practice and more practice…now get to work…

2 hours ago, pupHawaii said:

non-bb porn?  does sucking, eating ass, and frotting count?  😉

There are late 80s porn with oral sex with rubbers….

There used to be a video store called WEGA in Montreal (after the 2020 ban on gatherings killed off the porn peepshow  in the basement, the place went into a slow decline)…guess what went into the bargain tray? Mostly condomed flicks…and twink bare. But, there’s plenty of hot porn without condoms, and I remember the last time I saw condoms in porn, the performers had a haunted/hunted look being in the middle of the HIV epidemic. 

5 hours ago, PozBearWI said:

I do understand this is an unlikely, but not unheard of scenario.  Doctors do have ethical standards which if not followed risks their license to practise.  But, we are human too.  If at an appointment we decide to meet for coffee later, well then it is not during an office visit.  

We were told, in no uncertain terms, that if we wanted to date one of our clients, it would be a wait and see approach. We would have to wait about a month, I think, before we could see the client…And this is for massage therapists, where there’s a direct correlation between the healing, feel-good touch of a therapist with it’s association with sex and sexual energy. I can only imagine that there are stricter guidelines for doctors…

15 minutes ago, viking8x6 said:

My guess would be stress, generally. You described both physical stress (HIV, crypto, medication) and emotional stress (the drumbeat of political news). Stress can really fuck with your libido; it certainly does with mine. Rather than thinking of sexy fun time...

(as a book I've been reading lately puts it). Ayup. Not the recommended treatment for stress, of course, but an understandable response. 

oh, yeah, there is all of that as well.. 🙂

58 minutes ago, PozBearWI said:

I am puzzled how since I had cryptosporidium infection; and subsequently started HIV meds, my libido is just gone...  A part of my mind remains interested, yet a part of me still is just sort of yawning at that which would have been something I was always ready to enjoy.  WTF just happened?  Is it the massive political noise that fills every waking hour?  Was it a side effect of the crypto?  Does Dovato contain libido suppressing medications?  Is it simply my 78th trip around the sun I am on?  

 

[think before following links] https://www.catie.ca/catie-news/dutch-study-ties-hiv-to-erection-problems-in-middle-aged-men I think, generally, being HIV+ can be associated with lower testosterone and libido problems. "Since the late 1980s, researchers have reported that HIV-positive men have lower-than-normal levels of testosterone in their blood. This does not always normalize after HIV treatment is initiated. The reason for lower-than-normal levels of testosterone in otherwise healthy HIV-positive men is not clear." ([think before following links] https://www.catie.ca/catie-news/dutch-study-ties-hiv-to-erection-problems-in-middle-aged-men). There have also been studies indicating that HIV causes erection problems as well. 

Why I can’t stop barebacking? Because it’s fun,first of all… Secondly, the risks are minimized by PREP, triple therapy and Doxy. Thus, no real repercussions…Trust me, the moment another infection comes along, people will wrap up faster than you can say ‘protection’. It’s a lot more fun than the embarrassment of losing a hardon. 

16 hours ago, Netr said:

I need a real experience community , not a gay erotic story site

How common is it, though….real father-son interactions? Part of the reason so much porno stuff exists is because so many gay men never get along with their fathers…

1. Deep kissing. If I am fucking, and the person doesn’t like to kiss, that’s the end of it for me. 
2. nipples…love getting mine bitten hard. Love pulling on a set of big nips, and lots of gay men have them. 
3. well-formed calves…

4.  And this one is controversial…live for choke fucking…I love receiving it. Also, a few of the fuckers in the sauna love getting choked out while I fuck them.  ALWAYS ask for permission…

The dreaded HIV, the clap, and crabs…

First one ever?? The late great, sadly missed Babylon sauna in Bangkok. It was near the Malaysia Hotel near Soi Rama IV. All types went…mostly Euro tourists staying nearby and Thai ‘money’ boys. 

[think before following links] https://www.attitude.co.uk/news/world/harry-potters-matthew-lewis-is-attitudes-new-cover-guy-284729/ 
 

unlike transphobe J.K., I am not horrified by Lewis and the hair he sports on his chin. Very hot.