Short-circuiting a lecture when getting testing

[sfversboi]

I just tune them out. But for my first HIV test I had to meet with this mid 20's guy who ask me lots of questions, I just played really dumb. Then he told me be honest with me, I got to work late this morning, I met a fuck who took longer to cum in me, so I was late. I ask him if he had a cum load in him and he said yes, it's about half hour old. He barebacks all the times, yet counseled guys not to bareback. After I sign a form, then he took me to the place where they draw blood.

[bearbandit]

After years of refusing STI work-ups, either because you can't catch anything from a porn DVD or because you can't catch anything from a bit of bondage and torture, I'm going to have ask for a full screening on Monday week when I have HIV clinic after pigging out at a biohazard party last month. I'd just decided it was time for a change... I can imagine the start of the lecture (my consultant can be quite directive at times) but if he starts I plan to ask he'd rather I bb'ed with other poz guys or followed up on the "pls fuk me bare Daddy" messages I get on Grindr from young guys who've barely heard of HIV.

[Blueyedsoul]

I agree with you Teen Slut. I teach at a medical school here in California and trust me when I say this, it is best to feign a genuine intent and accept the mild inconvenience. The snarkiness and often times combative nature only adds fuel to a bad fire. It just reinforces a belief - whether fair or not - that our behavior of barebacking and for others 'bug chasing' - is mental. Now, do not get me wrong, I am not saying anyone here is mental however most medical professionals do think that actively seeking a life threatening illness which could be easily prevented as mental. Whether we like it or not, our proclivities are not of the mainstream. I have literally had doctors who I teach with - who are very open minded and some gay tell me in casual conversation that the behavior escapes them and that it can only be chalked up to a mental disorder. Once that's in your charts, look out. I find my self taking the FDA Home Access Blood Kit which is both convenient and anonymous. Same for the OralQuick swab.

[cumluver]

the place near me, here in LA never gives me a lecture although i don't usually tell them i got bareback gang banged by 12 guys... lol - they do ask about if you practice safe sex and every time or how often? i think its just for statistics.

its free they test for and treat most STD's - I think it is sponsored by AHF

[PhoenixGeoff]

Up where I live every time you pick up an STD you get a call from the state health dept. I have the guy calling me now from the last experience with gonno. Now that I have his number I just ignore it. They always want to know who gave to to me. and do I practice safe sex. Ummm NO, that is why i got gonno

I have to say this is the most infuriating thing to deal with. The state health department here does the same thing except they will threaten you with civil commitment. I've always told them:

(1) I don't appreciate them traipsing through my medical records and violating my doctor-patient relationship

(2) I refuse to give them the name of any of my partners; I do whatever informing I can personally. It's none of their business.

(3) They are contributing to the spread of STDs by harassing and threatening people who are doing the right thing and getting tested and treated.

And, considering I'm usually a pretty mild mannered guy, I have absolutely no trouble whatsoever going off on them every time they contact me.

There was one point where I'd made an appointment with my doctor and discovered that they'd been passed that information and had someone waiting to ambush me there. I went off on both of them (though to be fair, the doctor has little choice in the matter; they're forced to cooperate with the state). I currently have a policy of never making appointments to be seen for anything. The state has made it so that I cannot trust any medical professionals at all here, so I have to fend for myself.

I personally have no objections to the collection of anonymous epidemiological data; that's a legitimate public health function. I also have no problems with participating in medical studies; I just signed up for one right now. I do my best to be pleasant and cooperative with staff.

But what I will not stand for is interference from the state government in how I choose to conduct my personal affairs. Frankly, I'm tired of being singled out because of my HIV status and I'm tired of government spies snooping through my life and trying to get me to "make better choices".

I'm basically a pretty easy-going guy who can get along with pretty much anyone. It takes a hell of a lot to get me angry at someone. I can count on one hand the number of times I've ever been driven into a rage by anyone.

But if ever they happen to drive me off the deep end and thus make me decide to go out in a blaze of glory, I can guarantee that it will happen at 4300 Cherry Creek S. Dr. in Denver. And God knows the bastards will deserve it. I hate each and every one of those government snoops and petty extortionists with the white-hot rage of a thousand suns.