Wanting to bareback, but afraid of the consequences.

[Guest Bottomboy502]

For as long as I can remember, I've always loved bareback sex. Condoms just seem so...wrong. I've always barebacked when I have sex, but have just been that type that is picky about who he has sex with. I make sure the person is neg, ect ect. Sadly it's backfired a lot in multiple ways. Makes it hard to find people to sleep with, and makes me afraid to go through with it sometimes if I'm not sure of the person's status.

Quite a few times I've chatted with people then been one of those people that everyone hates that chickens out and never shows. I really want to get fucked, but I've constantly been so afraid of STDs and such. Plus I can't get myself to use a condom. It just doesn't feel right unless the fuck ends with me getting a big load of cum deep in my pussy.

What are some ways that I can finally let go and be free to get the cock and cum I so desperately want? =(

[nekofox]

Only thing I can suggest personally is just go with the flow and take just a little more time here and there. All in all personally, I'm not exactly a chaser, but at the same time, I have no personal qualms about who I play with. As long as we both feel comfortable with each other (status, personality and all) that's really what it comes down to more often than anything for me. For those that I have played with, I do keep up with them as friends and all, so it's not like just a quick pump and dump play.

So, just let it go with the flow and not let the "worries" plague your mind so. Just go out, enjoy yourself and have fun.

[Snarkybitch]

You could always have a monogamous relationship with someone you trust to be faithful to you. It's not 100% foolproof, but if you really don't want to catch any diseases, it's that or condoms.

[Cumfantasy]

I consider myself lucky. I've had 3 long term relationships and my current partner and I have been together 12 years. We've always barebacked, that's probably the way to go and I've never had any STD's.

Trust is very important or lose all your inhibitions and just get fucked.

[einathens]

don't try to force yourself into any behavior you're not comfortable with.

if and when you're ready to be an NLR slut, you'll know and you'll do it.

and if you're never ready to make your fantasy into reality, that's okay too.

[Btm!]

Such a common problem. There's a desire, but then the very real consequenses. Maybe random hook-ups and being fucked unsafe by a bunch of random guys isn't for you. Maybe this is something you need to enjoy in a relationship instead. Sex should be fun and satisfaction - good sex has nothing to do with fear, panic, regret and unwanted consequences.

My advice is to just enjoy it as a fantasy - watch the bareback porn, read the stories, masterbate.. have safe sex but imagine you're being bred - until you can find a relationship where you can both be raw cum lovers in a safe environment.

[DragonSmoke]

When I decided to stop condom sex and only bareback I also accepted that I will become POZ. I have been POZ for a year and a half.

No regrets at all.

[hungryring]

Well put, Btm & Nekofox & what's an NLR Slut, Einathens?

[howiebenz]

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[hotbbbottom4u]

I think it is a cycle sort of thing. I started out thinking "no way I will have unprotected sex with someone I don't know. I then started going to group sex parties where you might ask a guy his status but was he being honest. You become even more risque because raw fucking is the best. I then started going to the baths. At first I didn't go to the darkroom. Then the thought of total strangers depositing their loads in my willing ass was just too much. I started taking all loads no questions asked. Just a natural progression.

[Guest ff-whole]

exactly, how it was with me...

and so fucking hot it is....

 

I think it is a cycle sort of thing. I started out thinking "no way I will have unprotected sex with someone I don't know. I then started going to group sex parties where you might ask a guy his status but was he being honest. You become even more risque because raw fucking is the best. I then started going to the baths. At first I didn't go to the darkroom. Then the thought of total strangers depositing their loads in my willing ass was just too much. I started taking all loads no questions asked. Just a natural progression.

Edited January 31, 2015 by ff-whole

[wow4761]

Just know this: Once you bareback and take your first load ... you aren't ever going to want it 'safer'.

The feel of a raw dick is addicting ... even makes up, somewhat, a bad lay.

[hotbbbottom4u]

I agree, once you go bare you won't go back. With me it started by having group sex.A big turnon not knowing if I was taking a toxic load or not. Just depends on your preference and if you are willing to take the risks. For me, it is.