emotional connections

[powerbottom64]

Hey guys....I am a proud load taking bottom...been barebacking for years now, sure I have taken many anonymous loads, but in reality I dig an emotional connection to the men in my life. I have been with my husband for 12 years and currently have a steady boyfreind as well. I was getting fucked by my husbands brother for awhile, and I have my regular fuck buds...I love them all in different ways. In case your wondering, my hubby is the greatest man in the world, but one isn't enough and he isn't as attentive as he used to be. He says he is tired all the time. So I took on "Jake" as my boyfreind. We started off as freinds, then became fuckbuds, then he wanted more and I gladly obliged. I spend 2 nights a week with hime, we go on outings and he fucks me like a jack rabbit them sends me home to my hubby, with a dripping wet ass of course. When I am with my other fuck buds, I feel emotion with them too. I like a lot of kissing and body contact, and rough cuddling, lots of hot bod contact. Love a big man topping me and then laying on top of me after the breeding! Anyway does anyone else feel this way about thier BF's FB's and other hook ups? I cant be the only sappy man here!

[fskn]

It's not sappy at all! Love is a powerful feeling, and it need not be restricted to one person, in one specific kind of relationship, lasting forever. This isn't a scarcity situation.

Even for a quick, anonymous fuck in a bathhouse I want to cuddle, roughhouse, and kiss. If I monitor what's going on in my mind, sometimes I feel genuine love even if not a word has been spoken between me and the man I'm breeding.

You are in an enviable position to be able to love your husband, your boyfriend, and multiple fuckbuddies, at the same time. It's emotionally healthy (provided that there is no jealousy between parties), and it probably heightens sexual pleasure, too.

Edited June 13, 2013 by fskn
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[losttop]

Hey guys....I am a proud load taking bottom...been barebacking for years now, sure I have taken many anonymous loads, but in reality I dig an emotional connection to the men in my life. I have been with my husband for 12 years and currently have a steady boyfreind as well. I was getting fucked by my husbands brother for awhile, and I have my regular fuck buds...I love them all in different ways. In case your wondering, my hubby is the greatest man in the world, but one isn't enough and he isn't as attentive as he used to be. He says he is tired all the time. So I took on "Jake" as my boyfreind. We started off as freinds, then became fuckbuds, then he wanted more and I gladly obliged. I spend 2 nights a week with hime, we go on outings and he fucks me like a jack rabbit them sends me home to my hubby, with a dripping wet ass of course. When I am with my other fuck buds, I feel emotion with them too. I like a lot of kissing and body contact, and rough cuddling, lots of hot bod contact. Love a big man topping me and then laying on top of me after the breeding! Anyway does anyone else feel this way about thier BF's FB's and other hook ups? I cant be the only sappy man here!

Being fucked by my husbands brother.... That's kind of where I draw the line.... Bad Jerry springer shows come to mind.... Think u r also confusing feelings with lust.... Two total different things.... Good for u that ur husband and bf puts up with that....ur husband just probably loves u and therefor puts up with it.... Or he has maybe same arrangement going and thinks.... It's all good.... As for the bf....he doesn't have to be involved with u bills wise and can just fuck u.... Like twice a week was it? Sounds like he has pretty sweet deal too.... And u keep believing that having ur hole drip with cum is love...

[einathens]

emotional connection is the point of nonprocreative sex. sometimes the connection lasts for a lifetime, and sometimes it's for a few frenzied moments, but sex is definitely more satisfying when you feel something for the one(s) you're sharing it with.

[fuckboy20]

Not gonna lie. As soon as I saw the thread title and saw "einathens" I thought he was the op and thought I was being summoned . But that's because you are one of the few one this forum who really does reason and rationalize about everything. Something I admire. Not that others don't I'm just calling you out personally and in publicc. But thats because we know each other.

*wink wink*

@losttop:Was that really neccesary losttop? The guy knows that he needs multiple guys in his life and he recognizes it and so do the partners/fuck buds involved. As long as everyone is kosher with it why should you have to give it a jerry springer outlook. By the way saying something is "Jerry Springer" case is really lame.

@einathens/OP:

This is one of the reasons why I became an escort actually. When I was younger around 18 I'd have sex with a bunch of guys some guys I wasn't always into but I was not strong enough at that point to call it off or end it during or even before. But one thing I noticed was the guys were really happy. Even if I fucked with a condom back then it still made them happy. Just spending time with me for some reignited an old spark that they thought might have disappeared over time or just in general made them happy. And that in turn made me happy.

So when I considered escorting I thought back to that. And while in the past I have been sort of a bb cum slut. I've always been somewhat selective, and not like I have a high standard except being attracted to the guy, that's more than some do. There were only a few occasions where I was in a dark room or somewhere when it was truly anonymous. But with fuck buds in the past or guys I hooked up with. There was always an emotional connection. Even a top who would literally just fuck me and sometimes fuck me with just spit and make me take it I loved the feeling of him in me, I loved making out with him, and the lust I had for him but after he came that was it. But I at least knew that. I did almost fall for..well I did for a TN fuckbud I had with a huge dick who reminded me that just because I'm a bottom doesn't mean I have to "Serve" or "take it" from every top. I can still be human. And more recently a bear bud I hooked up with quite frequently treated me sort of like a partner/sex toy but when he realized my job is for shit, no health insurance, and poz I became just a fuck hole to him. And that hurt a little because I actually did have an emotional connection with him and he did with me but he severed it.

And within the last few weeks I've fallen for a Sir and his partner in another state and I am very well on the process to becoming his boy. I've played with a few guys since talking with him with his consent and with a client it felt very awkward because I have a lot of feeling for my Sir now. And with the man who we had a "poz" thing with there was so much emotion when we made out, held each other, and when he fucked me and when we were laying down next to each other. Basically I've come to realize how much emotion I show and give during sex. I'm not just a fish, I'm not just a hole. Yeah I have a hot ass and I'm a pig but I do feel a connection with a top, bottom, verse, or whoever I'm with. Because the simple fact is that there wouldn't be sex with them if there wasn't anything at all. But that being said that doesn't mean I get all mushy for the guy I'm with.

It's that I analyze and recognize that, "I think I'm lusting after this man" or "In another time..we might have actually been an alright pair". Stuff like that sometimes. But I've chosen to be with my Sir so even if I continue to hook up with guys before we meet just because I might feel emotions for another man or develop a crush on him or lust for him doesn't mean I'll act on it. I'll just think of it as hot sex with a hot man and leave it at that. But maybe I've always known this. Because everytime I have sex with a man, every time I kiss a man, we embrace, or I feel his touch and I moan, groan, and wimper I feel every minute of it. Just like when I'm on my knees sucking a man's cock, on my back, or bent over feeling his cock go up my ass. I feel every second of it and everything that's going on. And strangely enough it always feels different and it always "feels" each and every time. Even now as much as I want to think about sex I don't know it until it's actually happening. I can remember it but the feeling of remembering and feeling in the moment is completely different.

FEELINGS!

But yes to guys who strictly want NSA I'd probably be the worse fucking candidate because of feelings. But at the same time I read men I'm with and I understand chemistry. If the top just wants to fuck and nut I don't dare try to kiss or be affectioniate or show that to the top. I present a hole for the top to use and fuck and thank afterwards with no body contact. And I used to think I liked that but maybe not so much anymore. Proof is in the pudding since I've became poz I've barely hooked up and that every encounter since poz has actually been physical and emotional contact..except at the bookstore. WHY DID THAT CUTE CUBAN BOY USE A FUCKING CONDOM DAMMIT. And why didn't I realize he had a condom on. And how dare that guy stick his ass in a glory hole and me fucking him raw say, "Oh wear a condom." Naive naive naive boy. But enough ranting.

Nothing wrong with feeling or wanting to have emotion for a guy even if it's with most hook ups. It just means that with the right guys whether they are bf's, fuck buds, or just fucks. It will be explosive sex and with a lover or partner you'll both be really fucking happy to have each other. There will always be cumdumps and holes to use if needed. Everyone has their role to fill and be filled

[powerbottom64]

Just so ya know my hubbys brother, came onto me, (even though he is "straight" and married to a woman), I know it does sound very Jerry Springer. He used to come over, it was a power thing. He enjoyed using me and I enjoyed submitting. He must've grown tired of it as he hasn't wanted any for several months. probably just as well, thats one I will never tell my hubby about. But all the other guys, yes, it is mutual, we have an open relationship and are not threatened by others in our lives. I do still have sex with my hubby. It isn't what it used to be. Mostly I take care of his needs and then I jerk off. So I need to go out to get fucked since he hasnt done that in a long time. After 2 years of him not fucking me I told him I will be getting that elsewhere, he gave me his blessing. He likes it when I come home with the scent of other men on me.

[Guest]

I don't really define it as being in love, looking back, yet I had a Male friend in High school, I became a bit more closer to, than other friends. I mentioned him once, in an earlier post, Ryan. We started out by skinny dipping in his pool together. Over time, it progressed to mutual massage ( with happy endings) and then to oral sex. we never kissed or showed that type of intimacy; he claimed that as long as we did not kiss we where not on our way to being gay.  I enjoyed this arraignment, and our friendship, we had our little sessions almost once a week. 

Lately, I find myself reminiscing back to these fond memories, and would like to meet another man, I can have a similar friendship with. 

[hungry_hole]

On 6/13/2013 at 1:26 AM, powerbottom64 said:

...does anyone else feel this way about their BF's FB's and other hook ups?

Especially with anonymous sex, I feel an incredible emotional connection when a guy is breeding me, almost in-love.