dom/sub

[tallslenderguy]

A big part of my sexuality is being submissive (obviously like lots of bottoms). I have a profile on Recon, but have never hooked with anyone from there. Seems many who identify as "Dom" also identify as Sadist. I'm submissive but not into pain. Sex for me is about pleasure, not pain, though I get some get pleasure from pain or from causing it, that's not me. For me, being "sub" is mostly a psychological thing more than it is physical.  

My chemistry responds to mind fuck, or what i think of as 'intelligent' dominance (for lack of a better term) vs brute force. I have a second degree black belt and feel inclined to back kick into next Tuesday someone I perceive as a bully lol. I've never done it, but that's the response force evokes in me. It doesn't get me hot at all but makes me feel violent like a cornered animal. Obviously, this is not appealing to a lot of guys who identify as Dom lol. On the other hand, a Dominate top who is subtle and uses psychology to get what he wants gets me very slutty. The idea of hypnosis is a huge turn on to me, especially the idea of someone using it on the sly. I'm also turned on by the idea of being groomed because, to me, "grooming" requires intelligence and finese, and for me that makes sex so much hotter to involve the mind too. I don't think what I describe is really true grooming or hypnosis because each would require innocence on my part, or ignorance of what's going on. I guess that's part of what makes it hot, the notion that the top is getting away with something to fulfill his desire.