tallslenderguy

i am attracted to opposite dynamic, for me there's a lot of mind fuck to it, Total Top/total bottom, Younger/older, Smaller/ larger, etc.. Mixes that defy stereotype. Butt, for me, at the root of it is desire, lust. my type is a Guy Who can openly and unabashedly express His lust. Forceful, bullying feel compensatory to me, like they are trying to prove something or make me want them, which is a total miss on their pari, a disconnect. Confidence vs presumption. Lust vs force. Someone Who is willing to be vulnerable with Their lust fucks and impregnates my soul.

There's several threads on BZ discussing the "second hole." It's not an actual sphincter, it's the sigmoid curve, butt to the bottom and Top, pushing into it feels like penetrating another sphincter because of the resistance. One of my favorite reasons for a Man getting there is, to me, it's the impregnation spot. When a Man breeds me there, His seed stays and gets absorbed. Here' a pic of what is being encountered. ❤️

my energy and lust is linked to the Top, when i feel His desire and lust, mine kicks in. i don't really feel exhausted until after i stop. Edging without cumming also keeps me amped up.

i won't deny i have specific taste in Men, but when i see the look of hunger in His eyes, or He simply tells me He wants or needs to fuck... then eyes me as a possibility, pretty much everything else goes out the window. i met a guy a few years back in Palm Springs. Visually, my favorite part of a Man is His ass, which is always ironic to me because pretty much the only things i do with a Mans ass are touch, maul, kiss, lick, rest my head on, and sigh a lot. i can 'worship' a Mans ass right along with HIs Cock, i'm just not a penetrator. So this guy would not have turned my head, He had lost His legs in a childhood accident and they were amputated all the way up to His ass, so He had no ass to speak of. He cock seemed sort of reconstructed too. But He messaged me and wanted to fuck, explaining His situation ahead of time. i am around different people all the time, i'm a critical care nurse, so i've learned that different is just different, not "disabled." (no one has every ability, so in a real sense, we are all abled and we are all disabled). We had a great time together. But again, my on button is a Man wants/needs to fuck, at that point, not much else matters to me... my switch is flipped by that and i'm presenting. Honestly, my desire runs at the surface, if Men had any idea how much i want them.....

i do love verbal, but only if it's real, spontaneous. If it's contrived or rehearsed, it's a turn off. If it's a genuine expression of lust or need? Hell yeah. Force, bullying are a turn off. When a Top knows how badly i want Him though and says so, that is a total turn on. i love when a Top tells me He is going to cum, in all it's forms: "I'm coming, I'm breeding you, take My load, do you want My load?, there's so many ways, but the point is His expression of lust/need. From me? i make a lot of moans and sighs, all involuntary, it's as if the Top is fucking those things out of me. A lot of the words that come to mind are incoherent lol. There are some Guys Who fuck in a way where i feel Their control and ownership, a sort of taking possession in a non forceful, but undeniable way. i've had complete strangers fuck me that way and have had to literally bite my mattress to keep from telling them how much i love them. And yeah, it's the L word that wants to escape my lips.

i appreciate that you thought and wrestled with this. The one thing that stands out to me is "he was obviously green lit." i'm guessing that he made the choice to come to the sex party and found a way to get there and be there. To me, that shows choice, desire, need. Also, if he was "getting plowed bareback continuously," my guess is he had prepped for the occasion, which is another expression of desire in my book.

idk... i subscribe to the spectrum theory of human sexuality, and i think it's more than linear, it's multidimensional, and human sexuality is complex. i was married to a woman for half my life, we fucked often and i played the role of top in the relationship. i was tied into a straight identity because of religious conditioning, but the fact that i had sex with a woman, didn't ever make me straight (even though i tried to be straight for a long time), and the fact that i played the role of a top, didn't ever change my being wired bottom. Words, labels, are never the thing, they are descriptors we use to try and convey a message, in this case, who and how we are. If this Guy perceives himself as straight and that's what He is conveying to me, then i'm going to take Him at face value. i'm not connecting to His identity, i'm connecting to His lust/need to penetrate, fuck, have His pleasure and orgasm inside of me and leave His seed inside of me. Those four things outweigh any notions or thoughts i might have about Him being straight or gay. If we're talking romantic tangle? Yeah, i'm going to give thought to His identity as a straight. To me, that means there's a barrier to connecting on other levels, and i would not want that barrier in a lover. If it's important to Him to maintain that He's straight, it's telling me He is not 100% available for a romantic, loving relationship. The truth is, i don't find that kind of open availability from most guys identifying as gay either. i'll receive what's wanted/needed from either, i love connecting with a Man as much as i can.

i'm pretty much total bottom and fucked a guy once in 15 years. Maybe about a year ago a guy approached me on Squirt. A sweet university student from Iran stating he wanted to be fucked for the first time. Despite being bottom, i find a guys ass is the most visually beautiful part of his body, and his was no exception. And he really felt like the real thing, a virgin and a babe in the woods. i didn't want his first experience to be a bad one, so i ended up picking him up at university housing and bringing him to my place. As noted, i'm very bottom wired. i get hard as a rock when a Top wants to penetrate and breed me, but i stay soft at the prospect of having my penis used, especially for fucking. So i told him i might not be able to perform and i popped a viagra before picking him up. i did manage to get hard enough to penetrate him, but he was so tight, even after rimming and fingering him for quite some time while i was sucking him. i laid him on his back, used a liberal amount of lube. He never complained of pain, but the whole time i was trying to get in without hurting him, he had his eyes shut and was pushing back against me with his legs. He was fighting it and begging for it at the same time. i managed to get about half way in, but i couldn't stay hard enough to penetrate his fighting hole. Well, that and it was just super tight. i sucked him off and he was really happy with his first experience, he hits me up regularly. i haven't hooked with him again, but we remain friends. He's a totally sweet guy. i'm just not top. As for my own hole? It sometimes hurts if a Guy just shoves in without lube or is exceptionally large, but i don't have an ass pucker anymore, i have a slash that has been molded by a few thousand Tops to receive cock. i can squeeze and milk with my inner muscles, but access is not an issue, and i never squeeze when a Man is entering me. If He wants to penetrate me, i want Him and am open. i think that's a big part of it, if a bottom is nervous or inexperienced and clench, their hole will naturally tighten. Part of opening is in the head, not in the hole.

i'm only the third to respond to this, so am curious to read other responses. my ideal orgasm is the one a Man puts inside of me and it's based on mutual need/desire. When i am getting bred regularly under the aforementioned parameters, i do not need or want my own orgasm. But, lol, i don't always have that. So i will often go a long time, days... maybe 10? edging, before i will finally release the tension and cum. It's not any one fantasy, but the elements are similar. It's never about me actually having or using my "cock." i have a penis, but i don't relate to having what i perceive as a "cock," that is wired for penetrating,fucking, breeding. i'm total bottom, so i'm wired for receiving all of that and more. So, if i do masturbate, it's because i haven't had a Mans orgasm inside of me in awhile. my need/desire is for His orgasm inside of me, but if that is missing, masturbation is about quieting that tension of desire/need that i have for Him, not about pleasuring myself. While having my orgasm feels good physically, it doesn't meet my needs/desires as a bottom, that can only happen when a Man orgasm's inside of me. So, the kinds of fantasies that get me rock hard are never about me having or using a my penis, they are always about a Mans desire/need to cock me. And, yeah, that generally works, though i am always disappointed after... it's never fulfilling or satisfying, just temporarily reduces the tension and need for a Man.

i think our sexuality has myriad expression, infinite even. As a bottom, i get gratification from my Top and i believe the opposite is true as well. i think our sexuality is a more complex expression of basic nature. At the base of nature, there are atoms, protons, electrons, neutrons. It's not a perfect example, but i see those as roots of the more complex sexual presentation of Top, bottom, versatile. When there is 'chemistry' oppositely charged protons and electrons naturally attract, connect, bond. i think the same is similarly true about Tops, bottoms, versatile. There's not just one result of those attractions, there are innumerable expressions of those bonds. As a total bottom, one of the things i love is when a Top wants to open, mold my hole. To me, it is another form of fucking, inseminating, impregnating. Those are all ways a Top can put His mark, claim territory, possess, occupy. To me, fucking with the penis is just one of many ways a Top expresses what i see as Their "Cock." To me, "Cock" is way more than a penis. Part of my being 'total bottom' is i have a penis, but i don't have a "Cock." i don't have the needs/desires and resultant energy and expression that a Top has, my needs/desires/energy and expression correspond to a Top as an opposite, a "bottom." The desire/need that i have for a Top is expressed and experienced in the things mentioned above, and in so many ways, not just in His putting HIs penis inside of me. When that connection and bond happens, it involves the exercise of my sexual energy... and His. We're all different, but i have connected with Men who absolutely experience a release of Their sexual energy by opening and molding a bottom. Orgasm, is just one expression of sexual energy as i see and experience it, and as many of the Tops i have been with see and experience Their corresponding sexuality as well.

^^this^^ Words can be used to try and convey how we feel or think. Word's can also be used i a compensatory way, to try and create a feeling or support a notion/thought. When it comes to my sexuality, i prefer the former over the latter. my sexuality is real, not something i play at.

Nope... no imaginary friends here.

For me, the parameters for receiving a Mans Cock lust/need are different than receiving a kiss. For the former, looks don't factor in as much, if He needs/wants to breed me, that triggers my reciprocal need/want to receive Him and be there for Him. It's not an altruistic response, i want it as much as He does. Lust and need are different than romance, and i don't feel that with every guy too the same degree. i can experience romantic feelings with a guy when there's a certain vibe, energy between us, and always experience lust/need with Him, but romance is more mysterious for me. A lotta Tops like to rim as well, so who knows where that mouth has been. If i've sucked His cock prior to being fucked, i'll have cock breath, which is awesome. Also, what ktopper said. Force, a bullying attitude shuts me down, but when a Top gets in my head, mind fucks me in a way that evokes the sub in me, kissing can also be a part of Him possessing and Domming me. Re the OP... i suspect the excuse he gave was more convenient than true, but who knows?

Personally i don't like "roll play" at all. i was in a religious culture half my life. i was married to a woman and was the top with a woman in that relationship. For me, that was "roll play." Don't get me wrong, i love the dynamic of a Young Top with an older bottom, i love the mind fuck of it... when it's a real, honest expression of who and how we are. Being a bottom and a cocksucker is real to me, it's not a "roll" that i play. i only want to be with someone who needs/wants to fuck and be sucked as much as i need/want to be bred or suck Him. Once i had the real thing, "role play" just feels incomplete while the real thing is awesome.

idk... i don't think of it as "cleaning cock." If a Man want's me to suck His cock, especially if He presents it, i wanna receive it. i was in PS at a gay resort once, a Guy wanted to spit in my mouth and it didn't arouse me in the least. He spat on His cock and offered it to me and i immediately went down on Him.

6 for me. And it's always been that way. Of the thousands of Men i have received, i can count on one hand the number of times they used a condom... and that was never by my choice. For me the "risk" is Him leaving with His desire/need not completely satisfied. The "load" is important and awesome, but what His load represents is more important to me. Sort of like asking, what my risk level is for eating because i might get food poisoning? Do i purposely 'chase?' No, i don't want a disease... but i don't use that as criteria for whether or not a Man can enter and breed me. If He wants/needs to breed me, that evokes my own want/need to connect and have Him as a part of me. There's always risk in life, and this is a vital part of life for me. As to when i converted? i'd had thousands of Men and was actually testing to go on PrEP when i discovered i was poz. i'm grateful it happened in an era where there are meds and i can be undetectable. i went on meds immediately and have been undetectable since.

pepper just makes me sneeze.

For me tone matters more than the word used. i have a FB Who is a Muscle Boy. i'm always laying prone with Him (flat on my belly), and He alternates between pounding me and sweetly kissing my neck and shoulders. He will also hold me this certain way where i feel completely contained, controlled. His tone is never bullying, mean or forceful... and i'm glad because to me, those things are not powerful at all but compensatory. One time after He bred me He casually commented: "I like to bitch you." That totally melted me.

Ditto dat Ddawg. When i saw the subject title, i was all prepared to write about how it depends a lot on the Top. To me, a Mans orgasm is a hole lot more than His cum, so much of Who and how He is can go into it... but yeah, in this case it depends on what Ddawg said. Some guys dribble. i don't cum very often because my total bottom wiring really only wants the orgasm a Man puts in me... but if i don't get enough of that, i will masturbate to relieve the tension. One day in noticed my headboard was cum splattered. i think in my case it's a matter of infrequency and edging. i'll edge for hours, sometimes days, before i finally allow myself to shoot, so the volume is usually large and, well, my head board is over my head. Better chance of feeling that kind of orgasm than a dribble. Either way, it doesn't matter to me. What i really want is His pleasure and satisfied need/desire 'inside' of me. If He gets that fucking me, i'm in heaven.

Society is mostly heteronormative, and a big part of that is what's become the 'traditiona' notion of intimate relationship: i.e. marriage, monogamy. Society, and the dominant cultures like religions, set the tone for everyone whether it fits or not. Individuals can choose to try and conform to "the norm" or one can custom make a relationship that fits who they actually are, not who society presumes everyone should be. As i see it, relationship should be custom made by the individuals involved, based on who and how each is. That requires self knowledge, the ability to articulate that knowledge and the willingness to risk openness, vulnerability. 1. Know who you are, your most vital wants/needs 2. Learn how to express and explain those wants/needs. 3. Find someone else who does one and two and is the Yang to your yin, or vice versa.

lol... this is not a hard one. Wear a cage and write "bottom bitch" on your ass with a felt tip pen.

i have a little different take on this. Speculating. Your cousin reads to me like a guy who is closeted Bi (at the very least) or gay and is homophobic. The only way he can experience his desire and attraction to men is by telling himself, and those he fucks, that he only "does it for money." That's his 'beard' so to speak. It may be that the fact he is so unsettled and has made kids with women but has never settled into a straight relationship... is because he's not straight and cannot/has not accepted that. Not to burst your bubble, but i don't think he's "superior" at all, i think he's a scared guy who has not come to terms with who and how he is. And, of course, i don't know this guy, just the way it looks to me. i'm a total bottom and i love Dom Men, but to me guys who call themselves "dom" and bully, force, are mean , are faux dom. They use those things to compensate, they're a big truck with plastic balls hanging from the tail gate. To me, a real Dom knows a sub wants/needs to submit and please and knows He wants to be in control and be pleased. To me, it's attraction of opposites, not superior. But i understand this is a very individual thing, psychological and emotional.

What do you crave most? Cock or loads deep in you? Cock... but to me, "cock" is more than penis, it's also the drive, desire, need of the Top to penetrate, fuck, inseminate, possess, etc.. In that vein, i crave His orgasm most, His ultimate satisfaction inside of me. Do you ever feel satisfied or are the cravings insatiable? i feel satisfied when my Top feels satisfied. How many loads does it take to turn you into an “any cock, any hole, any load” guy? For me it's not a question of number of loads, but the Tops need to breed. Pretty much if a Guy expresses a need/desire to breed me, it opens/evokes my need/desire to be bred. How old were you when you first realized it was about your hole/pussy/cunt and not your cock? Was it innate and there from the beginning or did you learn it over time? 7 The hottest opening line I ever heard was, “I don’t care about my cock.” Do you even think about cumming? Do you have a need to? i have a need for orgasm, a Tops orgasm inside of me. If i am not getting that enough i will masturbate to relieve the tension, but it's a disappointment. my need is for my Tops orgasm inside of me and that becomes my orgasm. When you are home alone, do you play with your hole or your dick? my penis. i'm not top and have no desire/need to penetrate even myself, i need a Top for that. i'll edge my penis to get/keep me horny to receive a Tops cock, not because i want to cum. Are you afraid of how deep your cravings are and the levels you will submit to in an effort to satisfy them? No, it's a big part of the motivation. That connection of His desire/need to be submitted to and satisfied connects to my need desire to submit and satisfy. Do you tell your friends about your cumdump desires or are those separate and secret? i share it in places like BZ where there are Guys/guys with similar feelings. What would you choose…sucking a hot guy’s huge dick or taking a taking a heavy-set Daddy’s load up your ass? For me it's more about the desire/need energy being expressed by the Top. All things being equal? my ass is my primary receptive opening for a Mans need to penetrate and release. Anonymous sesssions or do you prefer to see who is fucking you? It's not about seeing my Tops face, it's about receiving His fuck energy... so however He wants is how i want. Is there anything mor important to you than taking loads? Yes, receiving and satisfying a Tops need/desire.

"Up my ass." i''m one of those guys (not unique lol) who will empty the contents of a found condom into my hole. It's definitely not the preferred method of delivery, but i hate to see a Mans seed wasted, i feel it belongs in someone. my sole (soul?) focus is not on a Mans cum though, probably equally, if not more, on His orgasm that results in ejaculation. The greatest bond for me is when a Man desires/needs to release, and He wants to release in me. Consequently, His piss can be a similar breeding bond, depending on whether He feels similarly. That said? Definitely in my ass, as deep as i can get it... around the curve/through the 'second hole' where He can be retained and absorbed.

i like some indication when a Man plants His orgasm inside of me. For me, His orgasm is almost as important as the seed that cums with it. Very loud isn't necessary for me, but it that Him and it's real, i want it. Contrived, or trying to hard is a turn off... can tell when someone is trying to copy porn or putting on some sort of act on how He thinks He's supposed to be. For instance, i'll never say to a Top: "talk dirty to me." Not because i don't love it, but i want it to be real, spontaneous. Fucking is intimate and vulnerable, it can be a chance for two guys to connect at a deep level. i don't have a standard way i want to receive His orgasm, but i do want to know when it's happening. The only time that is a challenge is with Guys Who fuck through Their orgasm. Some Guys slam balls deep, and that is a language all its own. Some Guys keep fucking while they are having Their orgasm, and it can be harder to tell. i have a FB Who is a muscle Boy. He pounds me very hard when fucking, but alternates between lying on top of me and holding my body in various ways. When i am giving Him oral, He is very verbal. When He is fucking, He is not. 90% of the time, i cannot tell when He cums. His fucking is so energetic, but when He is done, He is not one to linger inside of me. He pulls out, gets up and takes a shower. It can feel very sudden going from pounding to suddenly gone. i often finger myself after to reassure myself He has cum, and i am always gaped and sloppy with cum. my favorite is a Top Who wants me to know He has cum though, Who wants to make a point of letting me know He's bred me.