I'm a Straight Man, But Want Gay Sex

[ohmalewhore]

If you desire to experiment sexually with men, but are in a committed and sexual relationship with a woman ... then it's not gay sex. This is just a fantasy right now. Until you embrace the idea of being sexually active with a man and then take the next step, it's just a fantasy. Once you finally are intimate with a man, it's still not "gay sex." You're just having sex with a man - that's it. You're not gay. It's not gay.

But the only way you can determine if you want to move beyond the fantasy realm is to find a man and do it. Once you've enjoyed it, and keep going back to it, then you're crossing into a different territory. I know. I was there once. I was married, she got raped, I tried to make things work with her but she could not allow a man to touch her again, even me who had loved her for years. After we split, I began to explore BDSM as a submissive to women and they began to show me there was more to sex than just what straight porn shows.

As things moved along, one dominatrix in particular saw something in me - a desire to explore things sexually with men. She saw how I interacted with other male slaves in her stable and how I loved watching them play for her benefit. Her and I went different ways, as she wanted to move back west to the wetlands of Washington. But a chance encounter with three men outside a tranny bar soon showed me she was right. Being dragged into a van and "raped" altered me. I put the term "rape" in quotes because the first 3 times - once by each man, I wanted no part of it but I think deep down somewhere inside I really did because after each man had a turn I begged for another go. Two of the men - the ones who grabbed me - accommodated my request and because of it they let me walk away back to where they'd taken me from with me actually happy. Then guilt set in, then denial.

I tried to distance myself from that entire thing, went "straight" again and got engaged to a woman. She died at the hands of a drunk and I found myself once more floundering. Another chance encounter with a man showed me that my trip into man-on-man sex was far from over. We chatted for weeks online before he let on he was gay. We still met at a gay bar after work one evening and eventually things got hot in the bar between us. Before he could initiate the pickup, I begged him to take me back to his place. 5 minutes of a drive and an hour later I was feeling him cum in my ass and enjoying every moment of it.

Again I felt overjoyed when I left, but then the guilt and denial returned .... this time not as intense. Him and I chatted about it that night and the next night and met at the same bar that Friday night. Same result - we went back to his place and he fucked me. Several more times after that we did the same thing - I would talk to him about how I was feeling guilty and feeling that the sex we had was somehow making me wrong inside, he would listen and then talk a bit and eventually we'd meet up again and end up back in bed.

Finally after about 6 times of this he just came out and asked me when the last time was I thought about sex with a woman or even had sex with one. I admitted that I'd not thought about women since we fucked that first night. We fucked several more times before he got a transfer to Houston and I only rarely ever heard from him again when he'd come into town on business and want to "pound my pussy" for old times sake. But in all that time (about 2 years before he stopped calling because he got engaged to another man) I never once had sex with a woman and rarely, if ever, thought about a woman sexually.

Today some 15 years removed from him I still don't see myself as "gay" but I do know that it'd be nearly impossible for any woman to ever get me hard enough for sex, let alone have sex with a woman. But when I've ventured to a local ABS and gone into the theatre area or other common areas I've always been highly aroused, very horny and very eager to become somehow intimate with at least one man there.

When you can say you've given up women altogether and find 100% total attraction in every facet of sex and intimacy with a man, then you're having "gay sex."

[BannedWord]

On 11/9/2021 at 5:44 PM, ohmalewhore said:

Today some 15 years removed from him I still don't see myself as "gay" but I do know that it'd be nearly impossible for any woman to ever get me hard enough for sex, let alone have sex with a woman. 
When you can say you've given up women altogether and find 100% total attraction in every facet of sex and intimacy with a man, then you're having "gay sex."

For whatever reason, it sounds like you crave sexual intimacy with guys but seem to want the 'safety' of validation in a relationship with a woman because that's what was somehow ingrained in you. So you keep toying with a hope of a relationship with someone in a gender that you admit doesn't do it for you. Guilt? Not our place to judge, but it sure seems like you have conflicted feelings about what you 'should' do when what you really should (or want to) do is embrace your true feelings to be with other guys.

Been there as well, dude. Forget the labels and perhaps release the notion of a need to be with a woman that doesn't arouse you. Find a guy who gets you really hot and just go have a great fuck with him. Find yourself wanting more? Instantly horny? Can't wait to have him inside you? Then call it whatever you want if you can't handle the "gay" label, but realize what you really like and want and know that it's certainly not 'straight".

Good luck!

[ohmalewhore]

On 12/16/2021 at 10:07 AM, SRQDude said:

For whatever reason, it sounds like you crave sexual intimacy with guys but seem to want the 'safety' of validation in a relationship with a woman because that's what was somehow ingrained in you. So you keep toying with a hope of a relationship with someone in a gender that you admit doesn't do it for you. Guilt? Not our place to judge, but it sure seems like you have conflicted feelings about what you 'should' do when what you really should (or want to) do is embrace your true feelings to be with other guys.

Been there as well, dude. Forget the labels and perhaps release the notion of a need to be with a woman that doesn't arouse you. Find a guy who gets you really hot and just go have a great fuck with him. Find yourself wanting more? Instantly horny? Can't wait to have him inside you? Then call it whatever you want if you can't handle the "gay" label, but realize what you really like and want and know that it's certainly not 'straight".

Good luck!

Not sure what your day job is, but please don't quit it to become a shrink!

Yes, I am very attracted to men. I crave sex with men. I crave even the intimacy that can come from a romantic thing with guys, but I've only found that once. When someone spends the bulk of their life with heterosexual feelings, it's not easy to just flick a switch and say "hey guess what I'm gay" especially living in areas that are still beyond homophobic. But until I find a guy that I could share more than just sex with .... that's where it remains. I'd never say I am straight, because I am not. But until I learn and feel and explore all of what it means to be homosexual, yeah I won't say that I am gay.

Don't like the truth? Tough.

[Guest]

3 hours ago, ohmalewhore said:

Not sure what your day job is, but please don't quit it to become a shrink!

Yes, I am very attracted to men. I crave sex with men. I crave even the intimacy that can come from a romantic thing with guys, but I've only found that once. When someone spends the bulk of their life with heterosexual feelings, it's not easy to just flick a switch and say "hey guess what I'm gay" especially living in areas that are still beyond homophobic. But until I find a guy that I could share more than just sex with .... that's where it remains. I'd never say I am straight, because I am not. But until I learn and feel and explore all of what it means to be homosexual, yeah I won't say that I am gay.

Don't like the truth? Tough.

Totally agree with you. 

[OhNoDontPozMe]

I’m a straight guy who loves getting fucked and sucking on cock. Cum is mmmmmmmmm mmmmmmm good. Man on man is different than man and woman. Both are fun. Go sit on a dick and you’ll agree 

[Guest]

On 4/23/2017 at 4:20 PM, Guest yelrom said:

I am married to lovely woman but all I can think of is me being fucked. I love the feeling of a cock inside me. Go for it enjoy it

I am married too, and wife knows I live a Bisexual lifestyle, and is OK with it. My favorite venues are Bathhouses, and Glory holes, because It gets me right down to the experience of having my Ass fucked. its the experience and the act that I pursue, not an attraction to other men.

[downtownswallow]

Sigh....you're not straight if you're considering gay sex.  Perhaps you're bi, but the straight label won't fit any more.  Nothing wrong with being gay, bi, straight..whatever...but asserting that you're still straight is likely tied to not wanting to commit to a different view of your true sexuality.

[Poz2play]

On 4/25/2017 at 3:31 PM, cman54 said:

Hi Bob. I`m in about the same situation as you. Been "straight" all of my life but I have always been a bit interested in men and cock. I had a chance when I was very young to suck one and I did not do it. That is something I think about and have regretted ever sense. Now I am single again and I am going to have sex with some men for sure.  I`m going to be very open to it all and just try stuff. 

I was living a straight lifestyle up until 6 years ago when I seroconverted and started started having bareback sex with a secret boyfriend who seroconverted and is the father of my aids babies he still stops by tog give me a load or two I’m no longer interested in a straight relationship just I like trans girls with 

[Guest]

On 4/16/2017 at 4:46 PM, Bob123456 said:

Okay, where do I start?  Well, let me say I'm struggling at the moment as far as my sexuality is concerned.  I know I'm straight, but the thought of gay sex is really turning me on.  The thought of taking cock and sliding into a hot sexy man pussy is overwhelming.  Tasting cum, feeling it spray over my body is turning me on like crazy.  If you hadn't guessed as much, I'm a virgin at least in regards to gay sex.

I really want to experience gay sex, but I'm in a relationship and don't want to hurt or harm my partner.  At this moment I'm just looking for advice.  If you have any suggestions I'd be happy to hear them.

Admitting it is the first step! Embracing it is next. 

[Guest]

On 6/4/2017 at 7:43 PM, paintedgrey said:

Think about making the day sometime soon.  You wont regret it, I only wish I had done it 10 years earlier.  Don't only think about shemales (not that ther is anything wrong with that) but embrace the male.  Do it!

This is good advice, but I'd suggest referring to us as trans women, not shemales. The latter is a porn term that many take offense to. Feel free to dm me if you need more "trans 101". 🙂

[Guest]

"Once gay always gay" there is no turning back, gays and trans give the best bj a d sex ever. 

[sussexcumdump]

Hey, I don't label myself at all. All my relationships have been with women, I've been married to a woman, I emotionally connect with women, I ind women insanely attractive, BUT, I love dick! The smell of it, the feeling of it in my hands, mouth and ass. The hard pounding of a guy thrusting his big hard dick inside me until he cums,breeding my hole. Its fucking intoxicating. I've never looked at a man and thought "he's cute, I'd date him". Or found a guy attractive, BUT THAT DICK THOUGH! man I need my share of dick up my hole!

 

So my advice is go explore, have fun but be safe to protect your partner

[downtownswallow]

If you haven't had sex with a man but are willing, then you're at least bi-curious.... definitely not exclusively hetero.  If you've sucked dick then you're bi at the minimum.

[Yog1B3ar]

I'm happily married man pre covid times I was getting more curious about gay sex and I watched lot gay porn and decided I wanted to try it. The first time I done it was as a bottom and not looked backed since its the best feeling ever. I even done bareback, I love the feeling of been used.

[Doccer19677]

That’s great just bend over and take cock raw