Sex After Cancer

[russdog502]

I haven't met anyone with my particular issue, but I know they must be out there.  About 5 years ago I was diagnosed with stage 3 anal cancer.  I went through chemo and aggressive radiation which left me very ill for over a year. I'm still not 100%. The radiation destroyed my ass and genital area.  It took 4 years for me to have a relatively painless bowel movement without blood.  I'm still sensitive "down there", but I can at least touch my asshole without screaming in pain.  Unfortunately for me as a gay man (and a black man), the radiation shrank my dick and made me impotent for a year.  I can get an erection now and 'cum', but I can't ejaculate or feel an orgasm.  The tubes and vesicles in my balls and internal sex organs were destroyed by radiation.  I lost at least 2" in length and .5" in girth.  It's as if I have someone else's (small) penis.  I don't recognize it.  All this has made it difficult to feel sexy and believe I have something to offer a man.  I used to attend sex parties, sex clubs, cruise glory holes, etc..., but I feel like I can't contribute.  I still like sucking dick, but guys want to play with all of me sometimes and I'm very self-conscious.  I want to try getting fucked again to see if my ass can take it, but it's been 6 years since I've had a cock in my ass.  I love raw cock, and have been lucky to stay HIV- so far.  I tried to go on PrEP last year, and after my first blood test, they yanked me off of it immediately.  Apparently I have damaged kidneys also as a result of radiation and cannot ever take PrEP. 

Has anyone had any similar experiences with cancer treatment and side-effects?  With all the ass-fucking out there someone has to have dealt with anal cancer or know someone who has.  How have they resumed their sex lives?  Ever hear of a penis shrinking from radiation exposure?  I try not to get embarrassed about it and just accept myself as it is now, but my social life in down to nothing.

Thanks for listening.  I'll still suck your hot cock and eat that load!

[dadoc]

As an MD, I can relate...just remember you sexual side is only one part of you!

 

Do whatever makes you comfortable...go for some older guys who have ED...like the old ocean liner adage-the voyage is half the fun...don’t worry about the destination 

Edited April 28, 2019 by drscorpio
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[russdog502]

Thank you.  I'm a bit gun shy.  Someone would have to be really patient.  I'm usually open to getting to know people.

[SwineyTodd]

Thanks for sharing. After 10 chemos (for Castleman's disease), last one in end of september, I don't feel so sexual these days -takes me longer to build up -both stamina and plain horniness, and despite cumming I feel the orgasms are not so intense anymore. Been told it might well be a year before I'm back to my old self. So got prescription for caverject (Viagra =headache), and hoping to regain "my old self" eventually. Not entirely similar to what You have gone through, but can relate to some of the effects from treatment.