Vers btm but stuck in the btm area - need help

[Guest SecretCumWhore]

I want to be 100% vers, however I seem to be (I wanna assume it’s selfishness?) bottom minded.  I watch porn and admire buffer / aggressive / dominant men in sex. Yet I also get off in these videos when they are really pounding some 18-19yo twink hard (say they are a 37 year old jacked muscle daddy) ... 

at this point I’m watching the slim twink loving how smooth his skin is... his moans... his tiny ass / hole, how easy he is to manipulate in bed and then I’m rock hard again. 

Now that’s all while watching those kinda porn videos (which I’ve done a lot of during covid)

now let jump to sex physically with another person. They are larger size and muscular compared to me... and I become fully btm oriented. To point where I’m not even hard as we are playing... except when his cock is inside me and I’m stroking. I’d like to be able to get hard looking at a guy... stay hard (maybe he wants to suck or deep throat me for foreplay before we begin fucking).  Maybe we wanna 69?  Maybe after topping me he wants me to fuck him? (He’s got a beautiful jock ass).  
 

im tempted to start watching more videos of just bottoms playing with their holes or something. Then try slowly stroking and using poppers to be aroused. Once I can maintain a hard on for awhile just by thinking about it... maybe try the same thing but this time just solo muscle jack’s daddies. Showing their buff ass cheeks and maybe I can get maintain an erection longer over time....

But other than those ideas... does anyone else have any tricks they’ve tried to and had success from becoming “I can only perform as a btm”.  To.....   “I can do both throughout the night”?
 

 

[BreedingTop71]

Sounds like you are fighting your own nature. That’s always a losing proposition. Why not be a proud bottom? Seems like that’s where your body wants you to go. 

[BootmanLA]

On 1/29/2021 at 3:56 AM, SecretCumWhore said:

But other than those ideas... does anyone else have any tricks they’ve tried to and had success from becoming “I can only perform as a btm”.  To.....   “I can do both throughout the night”?

As a general rule: sex therapists suggest that if particular stimuli bring out an effect or behavior you want to discourage, then avoid those stimuli.

So, for instance: if watching particular types of porn makes you want to get fucked and you can't get hard, then STOP WATCHING THAT KIND OF PORN. If being with guys who are bigger, beefier, more muscular makes you soft and want to get fucked, STOP HOOKING UP WITH THOSE KIND OF GUYS.

Find what DOES turn you on and get you hard to stay hard, and focus on that. If that's porn with twinks getting nailed hard, watch that. But at the same time, don't jack off excessively - edge a lot, but don't let yourself cum. Build up some stamina for staying hard, and get used to not being all "cum fast and done". Then, hook up with a twink like the ones you like seeing get fucked, and -surprise - I'll bet you get turned on watching his reactions.

 

[fagclit87]

3 hours ago, BreedingTop71 said:

Sounds like you are fighting your own nature. That’s always a losing proposition. Why not be a proud bottom? Seems like that’s where your body wants you to go. 

BreedingTop71 has helped me embrace my inner faggotry. And my body has transformed through chastity, focusing on my pussy as my primary sexual organ and embracing my feminine nature.