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[subchub272]

I am a divorced white male 50 in the Atlanta area. I am completely new to this scene. I have had a few bisexual encounters in the past. But recently I have felt drawn to the idea of completely embracing my submissive nature and desires. I am very submissive sexually which started when I was still 100% heterosexual and only with women. It started with strapon play with my more dominant partner and then escalted to her encouraging me to suck cock. That has been the bulk of my experience in this area.

I have been single for awhile now with the whole covid situation the last couiple years has not help with that. I have increasingingly felt myself drawn towards more gay/bi desires and embracing my submissive nature. So much so that I am envisioning more of a "big-bang" approach  quite literally and figuratively. I have heard a bit about Flex and the traditionl gay bathhouse scene appeals to me for some reason. I admit I do tend to be more the shy and reserved type in social situations, and especially somthing like this. It seems that there are options in this environment where I can be very passive and offer up myself as a submissive. There are options such as public play spaces, glory holes, and dark rooms where I might have success. Then there are also less intimidiating areas, so I could chill and just take it all in if I needed to do that. Additionally, there is the option to get a room with a bed and/or sling where I can escape or leave the door open and offer up myself to whoever chooses to enter through an open door. I am thinking that this last option may be the easiest way for me to personally start my journey as a submissive bareback slut.

I must admit that I am overweight and I definately would be considered a chub. I know because I am older and a chub that I am not that desirable to a large number of those that might be at the club. I think given how shy I can be and also because these less disirable traits that the private room with a bed and/or sling is definately the best fit so that the open door will allow tops to decide if they want to use me for their enjoyment. 

I am not quite yet ready to make this happen. I plan on starting PrEP soon, so i need to go through that process before I decide to attend. I would be interested in hearing what more experienced guys might have to say. Do you see any issue with what I am thinking? Maybe some additional tips? When might be the best time to try and do something like this at Flex where more chance of tops being ok with older chub?

[ErosWired]

I’m 55 and I have a face made for radio. I’m not overweight, but my body is unremarkable. I go to bathhouses. I get a room, I leave the door open, men come in and fuck me. It can be done.

Yes, your age will limit your potential; it’s unfortunate, but the overripe fruit at the grocery isn’t usually anyone’s first choice, is it? Still, there are plenty of men who prefer older men, and if you do a search here you’ll find whole topics discussing what it’s like being an older bottom today.

Yes, your weight will unfortunately limit your potential also, but there are men positively attracted to chubbiness, so there is potential. The key to feeling successful in a bathhouse visit is to set reasonable expectations for yourself - if you go in expecting men to form a line at your door to breed you nonstop for hours, you’re almost certainly going to go home disappointed; that almost never happens. But if you go in thinking that any encounter would be great, and you’re going to enjoy yourself no matter what happens, then you’ll be fine.

However.

Shy, bashful and reserved will get you absolutely nowhere in a bathhouse, and is a great combo for going home unfucked. If you’re going to do this, you’re going to have to first get over whatever hangups are keeping you in your shell, because mansex is a full-contact, mix-it-up, free-for-all hullabaloo of a pursuit, and if you expect to get anything out of it you’re going to have to jump in with both feet. Buck naked. With a grin.

You can’t hang back and wait for them to come pluck you off the wall, because they won’t. There’s a roiling sea of ass out here - hordes of hungry bottoms and nowhere near enough Tops to meet the need. If you want some of it, you’re going to have to be competitive, and by that I mean you’re going to have to make sure you stand out from the crowd. There’s nothing special about me at all that anyone can see at a glance, so I just throw myself out there as though I’m Michaelangelo’s David come to life and let the confidence pull them to me - once I have them, my ass is all I need to seal the deal, because the ass is good.

That’s the other thing. If you’re new at this, you probably have some things to figure out about how to bottom successfully, from cleaning out for use to conditioning your hole, lubes to use…I recommend spending some time searching through and reading the Topics on this forum rather than spending time asking broad questions on basic subjects - I assure you, just about anything you could think to ask has been covered here at some point, an likely multiple times. The search function on the site is quite robust and useful.

[120DaysofSodom]

On 3/16/2022 at 1:45 AM, subchub272 said:

I am a divorced white male 50 in the Atlanta area. I am completely new to this scene. I have had a few bisexual encounters in the past. But recently I have felt drawn to the idea of completely embracing my submissive nature and desires. I am very submissive sexually which started when I was still 100% heterosexual and only with women. It started with strapon play with my more dominant partner and then escalted to her encouraging me to suck cock. That has been the bulk of my experience in this area.

I have been single for awhile now with the whole covid situation the last couiple years has not help with that. I have increasingingly felt myself drawn towards more gay/bi desires and embracing my submissive nature. So much so that I am envisioning more of a "big-bang" approach  quite literally and figuratively. I have heard a bit about Flex and the traditionl gay bathhouse scene appeals to me for some reason. I admit I do tend to be more the shy and reserved type in social situations, and especially somthing like this. It seems that there are options in this environment where I can be very passive and offer up myself as a submissive. There are options such as public play spaces, glory holes, and dark rooms where I might have success. Then there are also less intimidiating areas, so I could chill and just take it all in if I needed to do that. Additionally, there is the option to get a room with a bed and/or sling where I can escape or leave the door open and offer up myself to whoever chooses to enter through an open door. I am thinking that this last option may be the easiest way for me to personally start my journey as a submissive bareback slut.

I must admit that I am overweight and I definately would be considered a chub. I know because I am older and a chub that I am not that desirable to a large number of those that might be at the club. I think given how shy I can be and also because these less disirable traits that the private room with a bed and/or sling is definately the best fit so that the open door will allow tops to decide if they want to use me for their enjoyment. 

I am not quite yet ready to make this happen. I plan on starting PrEP soon, so i need to go through that process before I decide to attend. I would be interested in hearing what more experienced guys might have to say. Do you see any issue with what I am thinking? Maybe some additional tips? When might be the best time to try and do something like this at Flex where more chance of tops being ok with older chub?

Never deny your nature. Embrace it. Encourage it. Nurture it. Indulge in as much pleasure as possible. That is the only meaning to life as far as I am concerned - the pursuit of all things that make us feel alive.