Do u consider str8 guys to be more limited in sex?

[Sharp-edge]

Maybe it's me but I've got a feeling that gay guys tend to explore more the "pleasure" side. Poppers, sounding, anal penetration, fisting, edging and so on. I think these are very rare for str8 people and that maybe the even feel shy about talking about these things with their gf. Of course not all gay guys like all these but at least they know their existence or they have tried some of them. I have watched women fuck guys with strapon and it's almost sad. The woman doesnt feel a thing because it's a dildo and she does know how to fuck (obviously). Plus sometimes the dildo seems too small.

[BootmanLA]

What you are describing may or may not be true "on average". 

In the U.S., going back 70 or 80 years (and more), "nice" girls and women didn't do things like perform oral sex on a man. (They also were generally expected to wait for sex until marriage, or at least engagement, and entire industries, like women's boarding houses in larger cities (where the women had curfews and had to sign in every evening unless they were away visiting family), sprang up to help enforce those rules.)

Obviously, that didn't apply to everyone; women with money could always find ways to have fun. Those rules really only applied to middle-class women and working-class women, even as men in those categories were given a lot more freedom to sow wild oats before marriage and to indulge other interests afterward. Men who could afford it could always find sex workers to indulge in anything wilder than missionary-position sex: anal sex, oral sex, or pretty much any kind of fetish he might have; men with lesser resources could still have discreet dalliances with disreputable women (with the woman, not the man, paying the price of reputation).

Certainly that changed with the sexual revolution of the 60's and 70's, especially with the advent of the birth control pill, striking down laws barring contraceptives sale, and so forth. But not for all women, and not in all aspects, and certainly not all at once. Some women, for instance, were perfectly OK with becoming sexually active before marriage or engagement, but draw the line at anything other than masturbating a man or missionary-position sex, because all the rest was "kinky" and "degenerate" (which, well, it may be, but that's what appeals to some people).

By contrast: gay men, when they first start experimenting, found *everything* they might enjoy was on the "kinky, degenerate" list - so perhaps it was easier to go from one form of kink to another. If you're already sucking a man's dick or getting fucked by one, how far a leap is it, really, to start fingering a man's hole to orgasm and then, eventually, using an entire hand? So yeah, gay men may well be more likely to try out "exploring new things".

Along those lines: according to sex researchers, anal sex between gay men wasn't particularly common before the sexual revolution; same-sex sexual acts were much more oriented toward oral, or mutual/cooperative masturbation, or even just frottage; this is borne out with interviews conducted of older-generation gay men over the past several decades. Just as the sexual revolution shifted straight women's range of "acceptable" behaviors to include premarital sex, it shifted gay men's range of "acceptable" (ie somewhat mainstream) behavior to include fucking, fisting, water sports, and a lot more, as well as dramatically increased rates of partner change (aka, in some manifestations, promiscuity).

And incidentally, that's one reason (among many) that HIV was able to spread so rapidly when it hit our community. Given that the first cases (among gay men) were reported in 1981, that would put the earliest infections in the mid-1970's, when anal sex had become substantially more popular (and even expected) among gay men over the preceding 10-15 years. It might not have had such impact were the sexual practices of gay men in 1975-1980 the same, statistically speaking, as those of 1945-1950. (That's not a blame-laying point; that's just an epidemiological prediction based on what we know of the virus and how it spreads.)