Local Church as Gay Hot Spot

[brnbk]

I noticed a curious phenomenon in a downtown church that I started attending. Some gay men showed up at Mass and a lot of them are looking to hook up. I only started attending the church a few months ago and am unsure how long this phenomenon has existed. Our city does not have a gay space in the downtown/centretown area as the old Sauna and gay bar shut down roughly before CoVID. Interestingly, even an older church associated with the church I attend shut its doors last decade and is now a performing arts center.  

It makes sense to me that gay men would use a local church as a gay-social center since gay men have contributed for generations to the Church in terms of finances but also other resources. There is a certain old-school charm to see gay men eager to cruise/meet other gay men in the real world. For centuries, christian men have courted/met their wives in a church, and it's only fair that gays be allowed such an opportunity as well. 

I am wondering, has anyone else observed such a phenomenon in their city where in the absence of gay spaces in the city the local church has emerged as a meet/hook-up spot for gays?

 

 

Edited October 28, 2024 by brnbk

[Willing]

On 10/28/2024 at 12:48 PM, brnbk said:

I noticed a curious phenomenon in a downtown church that I started attending. Some gay men showed up at Mass and a lot of them are looking to hook up. I only started attending the church a few months ago and am unsure how long this phenomenon has existed. Our city does not have a gay space in the downtown/centretown area as the old Sauna and gay bar shut down roughly before CoVID. Interestingly, even an older church associated with the church I attend shut its doors last decade and is now a performing arts center.  

It makes sense to me that gay men would use a local church as a gay-social center since gay men have contributed for generations to the Church in terms of finances but also other resources. There is a certain old-school charm to see gay men eager to cruise/meet other gay men in the real world. For centuries, christian men have courted/met their wives in a church, and it's only fair that gays be allowed such an opportunity as well. 

I am wondering, has anyone else observed such a phenomenon in their city where in the absence of gay spaces in the city the local church has emerged as a meet/hook-up spot for gays?

 

 

Anointed in cum🙏

[topblkmale]

On 10/28/2024 at 12:48 PM, brnbk said:

I noticed a curious phenomenon in a downtown church that I started attending. Some gay men showed up at Mass and a lot of them are looking to hook up. I only started attending the church a few months ago and am unsure how long this phenomenon has existed. Our city does not have a gay space in the downtown/centretown area as the old Sauna and gay bar shut down roughly before CoVID. Interestingly, even an older church associated with the church I attend shut its doors last decade and is now a performing arts center.  

It makes sense to me that gay men would use a local church as a gay-social center since gay men have contributed for generations to the Church in terms of finances but also other resources. There is a certain old-school charm to see gay men eager to cruise/meet other gay men in the real world. For centuries, christian men have courted/met their wives in a church, and it's only fair that gays be allowed such an opportunity as well. 

I am wondering, has anyone else observed such a phenomenon in their city where in the absence of gay spaces in the city the local church has emerged as a meet/hook-up spot for gays?

 

 

 

It's very common in Brooklyn, New York.

At least three of my former fuck buddies are current clergy men at various churches in Brooklyn.

 

[phillygwm]

I've thought about this.  I was raised Catholic:  Grade school, high school, and university (the last was a bit accidental.  Long story.)  Obviously, the Catholic church wasn't/isn't the most welcoming so I fell away and now consider myself agnostic.

In my not-very-gay suburban town, there are two churches (one UCC, one Unitarian) which are openly gay welcoming.  The UCC even flies the rainbow flag (but not the US flag) on its flagpole.  I've thought about going but haven't thus far.  Part of that is that I'd feel hypocritical at the UCC since I'm not a Christian.  Unitarians are squishier when it comes to beliefs so that might not be as bad.  But old habits die hard; my idea of a religious service is "smells and bells."  Watching a livestream, I just didn't get into someone reading an excerpt from Winnie the Pooh.

That said, I'm single and have a handful of gay friends (none sexual.)  My social anxiety has kind of held me back from trying but, if I ever decide to go, it would strictly be for the purpose of expanding my social -- and ideally sexual -- circle.  

Edited March 9 by phillygwm

[SomewhereonNeptune]

On 10/28/2024 at 12:48 PM, brnbk said:

I noticed a curious phenomenon in a downtown church that I started attending. Some gay men showed up at Mass and a lot of them are looking to hook up. I only started attending the church a few months ago and am unsure how long this phenomenon has existed. Our city does not have a gay space in the downtown/centretown area as the old Sauna and gay bar shut down roughly before CoVID. Interestingly, even an older church associated with the church I attend shut its doors last decade and is now a performing arts center.  

It makes sense to me that gay men would use a local church as a gay-social center since gay men have contributed for generations to the Church in terms of finances but also other resources. There is a certain old-school charm to see gay men eager to cruise/meet other gay men in the real world. For centuries, christian men have courted/met their wives in a church, and it's only fair that gays be allowed such an opportunity as well. 

I am wondering, has anyone else observed such a phenomenon in their city where in the absence of gay spaces in the city the local church has emerged as a meet/hook-up spot for gays?

Given the experience that a lot of guys had in younger years with priests (maybe as altar boys getting flute practice), I see the logic in a church-as-cruise-spot. 

And every Unitarian service I've ever attended has been more like a seminar panel than a church service, so the comment about 'squishy' rings true for me.

[Close2MyBro]

When I lived in Cleveland there was a gay catholic priest who was known to be a regular at the sex clubs. I wouldn't be surprised if it's a gay friendly church that the guys are just there for the cruising. Most of the gay sports leagues like gay softball or bowling was mostly just a way to meet more men to have sex with.

[Bwccummer]

Area at that could see on one side if one is discreet meet others at a church. However, my own experience is one Baptist church very un lgbtq friendly, another in saw names signed anti Same sex marriage petition was a pastor for a different Baptist Church in local area. 

One church was in area that tried satellite or campus location. It was a bit odd watching a video of a service by a pastor at another location. Even weirder is one could watch same service video online so started wondering why go. Eventually closed church location. For awhile watched service online.  However, as checked Wesleyan church beliefs on website in a obscure video was on how anti lgbtq. However, website in other places seemed to welcome all so seems a bit confusing message. Eventually quit watching service online.

In area nearby tried an Adventist church where complained about Archie Comic book having a gay character that makes a reason not want to return. Gets tiring hearing such views. At least talk about a book or movie that would want to read or watch be a better option than seems churches complain about a book, movie, etc. 

If go into another nearby area know some lgbtq friendly churches so see better to go there. I am trying to work to attend but find experience of some churches can hurt and find hesitant to be in a possible situation where maybe hurt again. I guess find need time to recover from other churches.

If one can find success in meeting at church or locations hope works out.

[Falls727]

I love when my priest uses to bless me with his cum; in my mouth, in face, in my ass!!

[jd13]

I used to have a friend who was an organist for a prominent Anglican church in London. He said the clergy was chock full of gay men, and the congregation was an equal mix of elderly locals, music lovers who came to hear him play - he was a talented organist and the organ itself was remarkable (puns probably intended! 🤣) - and gay men on the cruise.

He invited me to listen one time, and I was successful in both enjoying the music and cruising a couple who took me off to the toilets in the park behind the church to fuck and breed me, in a double act which if I am honest is the closest I ever come to praying. That was a happy Sunday!

My friend also knew all the gossip about the gay clergy. He used to tell a story about the Bishop of [ Diocese Redacted! 🤣 ] who went to the doctor complaining of a problem with his rectum, saying "I've got soreness and a rash right at the entrance here", to which the doctor replied: "Your Grace, most people refer to it as the exit!" 🤣

He also had a gay-married Canandian clergy couple as neighbours for a while. Never told my friend this but while he was out of his apartment one hot summer day, I went over shirtless, knocked on the door "just to say hi" to be answered by the older one who invited me in, told me his husband was out (which I already knew). Apparently my reptutation had preceded me. We did it in the kitchen. I never told my friend about it, to this day.

That was also a happy Sunday!

Edited Monday at 10:17 AM by jd13