Staying clean during long weekends?

[lycis]

Say you're going to something like IML or Folsom and want to get up to fun for a few days.

How do ya'll do it?

For context, my mid-30s husband is a fisting bottom and is "so loose" now that he has trouble playing around at all unless he's completely 100% squeaky clean (36 hours of fasting + Imodium). Even here, he STILL sometimes doesn't end up clean (no clue how... does tea or booze contribute to solids? even if it did it seems nuts that we'd have to cut even that!!)

So... even just casual playing around has been a problem. I can't really fuck him at all unless it's the weekend and he's done the full fasting prep. It really is enough for him to not feel secure doing it even if no fisting is planned (he always wants to be in the mood for it).

Now consider something like Folsom. We've really dropped off doing stuff like that since our 20's specifically because of the cleaning issue. Before, we could get by because he still wasn't "too loose" to where his bowels were hypersensitive to literally any solids.  And he could easily fast for 2 days and not be out of energy. Now, his bowels seem to be hyper active to any food and he goes several times a day (IBS?). And if he's been fasting for 24 hours, his energy levels nosedive to the point where he just isn't in the mood anymore. It's clear that his body needs him to eat something during the day in order for him to have energy. So how the hell do we do something that lasts 2-3 days?

He's tried fiber... it helps sometimes but it isn't a magic bullet. I think part of the problem is that because he's been fisting for so long, his colon is just super sensitive. It tends to be very hyper active. Our diet is average (healthy mix of fats/grains/veggies/meats), but it's nothing too crazy. 

I just want to get him to the point where he feels like he can have a night or two of hard fucking without being worried and without losing energy. Or getting him to the point where he can eat during the day and be ok for playing around later. I'm all out of ideas though... I think if we can find a routine that he feels confident in, it'll open these kinds of events up for us again and will help his sex drive too (it's gone way down ever since he's started running into problems getting clean even while fasting).

Edited January 9 by lycis

[PhoenixTriad]

I think it's time to talk openly and honestly with a medical specialist. 

[foryouruse]

He probably needs to explore whether his gut is having problems like Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth, Digestive Enzyme production, Crohn's, Regular Colitis or Microscopic Colitis or just sensitivity to a Protozoa. Also, over-cleaning can push bacteria up as well as wear down the lining. I tend to think a gay gastrointestinal guy is the best bet since your partner is young and this isn’t expected at his age. Some of us have inherited stomach problems and some will be affected by partying, drinking or really, really prepping hard for dates. You can also suggest he keep logs of food, prep he’s doing and how he feels until he gets into the doctor. Meanwhile, he may want to read on the SIBO/Low Fodmap diet and if the first doctor says it is all in his head, switch doctors.

Edited January 9 by foryouruse

[phukhole]

Agreed, it's time for a dr consult.  I know many fisting bottoms, and each of them have their own regiment for heavy play weekends, but none of them seem to have the issues your husband is having.   Excessive play CAN irritate the bowels, but after a rest period, that should return to normal.  Be frank with the Dr and if he gives any judgmental push back, change doctors.  He's there to help/heal you not judge you.

[Close2MyBro]

Are there any recreational drugs involved? Many recreational drugs can play havoc on normal digestive function. You can search the internet and find various articles about this topic.

[lycis]

Ty for the suggestions!