Looking for some relationship advice

[phillygwm]

If your bf was interested in sex previously, it might be something medical,  Low T being only one possibility.  So maybe a trip to the doctor is warranted first.  If it isn't physiological, maybe a counselor instead.  There might be issues to unpack. 

Assuming it really is game over, sex wise, it's unfair for him to expect you to not play with others.  Monogamy is one thing, celibacy is quite another.  You need to have an uncomfortable conversation.

Edited March 8 by phillygwm

[Calstock]

I thought I would share an update and thank you all for the advice. I’m not gonna cheat and would rather have an uncomfortable conversation with my boyfriend. The guilt of cheating on him (even if he never found out) would be too much handle. I love him too much and my life is better because of him. 

my fuck buddy got really pushy and made all sorts of promises. I won’t lie, he’s wild and it really turns me on. If I was single, in a heart beat I’d be jumping in bed without a second thought.  I just can’t handle the guilt component. 
 

Someone here actually sent a private message and gave some great advice on rekindling the romance in the bedroom department. I think I’d rather go that route. 

[Calstock]

Just a quick update. Some of the advice really worked out. Dry spell with boyfriend is officially over! 

[Eagerindayton]

4 hours ago, Calstock said:

Just a quick update. Some of the advice really worked out. Dry spell with boyfriend is officially over! 

Congrats!

[Willing]

On 3/17/2025 at 4:46 PM, Calstock said:

Just a quick update. Some of the advice really worked out. Dry spell with boyfriend is officially over! 

Woo hoo 💕

[Heir2012]

So, I'm currently in a similar situation, but I'm the one outside the relationship. The guy I'm fucking is in a relationship, but sex has ended. It's been years for him. 

He and I are good friends, and we discovered that we're both compatible in bed. Because his partner isn't interested in sex, he's come to me. I'm helping fulfill that need all men have. We need to fuck! 

However, we are not in love. 

While I understand the separation of sex and love, love and trust are intertwined. If he's trusting you to not fuck around with other men, then your choice does impact that love. 

I think you need to tell him that you need sex, and if it's not from him you'll find someone else. Specify that it isn't love. You just need fucked. He can either assist or stay out of it. 

It is complex. That's why I'm acting just as a fuck buddy.