How were you groomed? How do you groom? Over 18s only please

[completefaggot]

As per title. If you find a closet case or someone who hasn’t quite taken the leap yet how would you groom them? What techniques do you use? For those who have been groomed what happened? 

[blackrobe]

"Grooming" is a term used to describe the process used by sexual abusers to manipulate vulnerable minors so they can sexually abuse and rape them.

"Closet case" is a pejorative term for people who have not yet felt safe enough to come out. 

If someone is too afraid to come out, you find a way to support them and connect them to mental health and counseling resources so they can come out when they judge it's safe for them to do so. 

It seems like some education and compassion for others might be called for. 

[viking8x6]

Thanks, @blackrobe

@completefaggot, the way you phrased the original post is unfortunate at the very least. If you didn't mean it the way it sounds (per blackrobe's comment), please post a response here with a rephrased initial post that better expresses what you did mean.

[faggotsub]

For me I think it's genetics.

I have found that submitting to Superior Men comes naturally.

Though some may of them may have been abusers I have always stayed clear of bottoms and in most cases "versatile" guys.

If 72 years of constantly being told what i am and what i am for is "grooming" well maybe, but it felt right and still does. It doesn't seem like it was a choice

[completefaggot]

10 hours ago, viking8x6 said:

Thanks, @blackrobe

@completefaggot, the way you phrased the original post is unfortunate at the very least. If you didn't mean it the way it sounds (per blackrobe's comment), please post a response here with a rephrased initial post that better expresses what you did mean.

Yes exactly that. Absolutely nothing to do with minors. I suppose I mean someone who has little or no experience being corrupted by an older more experienced, probably dominant person over time. How has the older person planted the seeds of corruption

[norefusal]

i think if u understand how grooming happens you get why people are getting their hair up a bit about the subject. 

in a way, im the perfect "good grooming" story as many guys over the years used emotional manipulation in order to get me to do things i actually ended up enjoying. (m2m sex, BB, sub/dom kink, chem sex) I've used these tools to at least manipulate hesitant guys into BB for me when i topped, but the very reason i don't frequently do it is it can make you feel very icky because even if nothing bad happens it's still coercion. 

in a nutshell, it involves being very charming, and gas lighting your victim into believing this is actually what he wants deep down, you're just here to help. help him get over his fears and finally realize his true self. 

the reason why it works on guys like me, is because it's how our parents raised us - utilizing gentle abuse. abusing us while convincing us it was true love only they could give. when you're primed like that, it's easy to adjust the dynamic to include sex. 

and it's very prevalent in the gay community. most str8 treat me like i'm just another guy. but as soon as i entered my first gay bar, there was a guy convincing me i was an obvious sub bottom secretly tearing to be owned. he could just tell. when this is repeated over and over and over it's starts to feel more and more real. 

[TransInWI]

11 hours ago, completefaggot said:

Yes exactly that. Absolutely nothing to do with minors. I suppose I mean someone who has little or no experience being corrupted by an older more experienced, probably dominant person over time. How has the older person planted the seeds of corruption

"Corruption"? What's with the self hate?

[HunterCox]

LUCKILY HAD A STEPDAD WHO TRAINED ME TO BE THE CUM GULPING FAGGOT TRAINED AND USED FOR 12 YEARS

 

WISH I HAD A DAD/SON WHO I COULD HELP OUT WITH SKILLS YOUR BOYS NEED