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I understand this sentiment. Giving a man pleasure in my hole matters, but earning their seed is the gold standard for pleasuring them fully.

I wouldn't discount simply sliding into subspace. Like hypnosis, daydreaming, etc. subspace is a trance-like altered state of consciousness that experiences and stimuli can help us access. Maybe hypnosis greased the wheels, maybe not. Everyone has a baseline level of susceptibility and for some people it's easy to make the slide into trance. Wanting to be in trance is a BIG part of getting there.

Am I the only person who saw this as an object lesson of what a bottom should NOT do? It seems the bottom keeps putting his hand in the way to stop the top fucking, often just as he's getting into a good rhythm and starting to enjoy it. I get that we all have limits to what we can cope with, but I found it incredibly frustrating to watch. The top was hot AF (and one of my many types), but the video just left me cold because I felt the bottom underdelivered. The top seemed grateful at the end though, so... 🤷🏻‍♂️

After a hiatus we got a lot of plot lines moving forward and characters moving further through their story arcs. Experiences make their marks on us, so it remains to be seen how the Assmunch character will react when he finishes processing his sexual assault (I think non-consensual sex still counts as sex). We know some of Sleeper's backstory and what others have in mind for him, now we start to see who Sleeper is becoming and what he might have in mind for himself. It feels like this part of the story is setting up some bigger developments. I'm looking forward to seeing what they are. Thanks Assmunch!

It is a tough ask. Quality of life is an ineffable and individual thing that doesn't lend itself to easy quantification across the human population.

Men get hole. Once you present it, they get it until they are satisfied. Nothing changes the decision, but things you learn from the experience can make it more or less hot for both depending on how they are wired and their specific kinks. It doesn't signify to me as a bottom how a breeder identifies themselves. In that moment, they need to rut in hole to plant their nut. Attentive bottoms can use what they learn of the breeder (how they fuck, what the say) to make the experience better for them. Some men signal their straightness and their deeply repressed need to fuck and seed men with the urgency and intensity of their fuck. With some men, cheating on their wives and girlfriends is what drives them, or simply getting relief when their libido and needs aren't being met by them. There are plenty of men who just enjoy hole, fucking it as hard as they want, as long as they want, and as often as they want. They don't much care about what others think of them, just how good the hole was and when they can get it again. For bottoms, we want a man to fuck and nut in us with whatever energy and mindset they bring into the room and, when they are done, we want to do the same for the men who follow.

This genre of writing isn't my thing. In general, I think images that are discordant or conflict with what I imagine from reading a piece of writing ruin the experience for me. Since everyone's imagination is different, using images just invites readers to get hung up on how the images don't match what you see from reading the story. Layer on top of that the inauthentic and clearly unreal images from Generative AI and it's even more jarring for me. When I see a story or a post with these kinds of AI images I actively avoid reading them for those reasons.

It depends on your budget and what kind of community you want around you. It sounds like White Center, Delridge, and West Seattle might work for you as it's the area lots of gay men are moving to that's less expensive than around Capitol Hill. It's between downtown and the general area you mentioned. Are you looking for plenty of playmates around you at specific times? Walking distance to anything in particular? More naked friends are always better. I can connect you with some local nudists if that's helpful as well. Cheers.

Getting 100% of what you want now and in the future from one person is, in my experience, staggeringly unlikely. If that were the standard almost no-one would be in a relationship with anyone else. As Dan Savage often opines, and I've come to agree, there is no such person as "the one" who can give you everything you want. They might be a .75 and that's when we round them up to "the one".

In my experience, understanding how and why open relationships can work and might even be essential for some people is something that is more likely to happen the more life you live. Changes in needs and desires, illness, incapacity, etc. aren't things anyone plans on, but they do happen. Once it does, how do you move forward with someone you love? You find a way, and open relationships are one strategy. I prefer to give people the space to decide what works for them and not judge them once they do.

I told them that I worked in machine learning building systems to identify fake profiles like theirs. They then tried to prove how "not fake" they were. I thanked them for becoming part of the training set for the ML system I was working on, and for having such clear tells in their fake profiles and behaviors. It was around here that I got a lot of directions to have sex with my mother in improbable ways and told they would get all my money. These were the profiles that would block me. If you get a profile that presents as local, but you suspect they are spoofing their location the quickest way to sort the genuine from the fake if by asking them what neighborhood they are in. Real locals know what neighborhood they are in and will share the name of theirs with you. The fakes don't have the local knowledge and will send a location pin where they allegedly are. A real person would be very, very unlikely to share their real location. If they give a neighborhood, you can also ask them about landmarks that only have local context. Grindr's Tap feature is the way these bad actors reached out to me most often, so the recent app change so that free profiles can only see taps in the last 3 hours renders the feature almost useless for bad actors as well as us. It also means that all the attempts to do demand generation for social media homepages, massage and sex worker profiles, etc. are blunted when they target free accounts. With the Tap features engineering problems on top of this, we can expect all solicitation to shift from taps to direct messaging fairly soon.

That's part of their strategy. By sequestering more and more basic functionality behind their paywalls, they *are* looking to drive subscription rates up. At the same time, they are making the "free" experience so compromised in terms of user flow and actions (frequent advertising interruptions) that users are driven to find a solution by either subscribing or closing the app frequently. Grindr is also flooded with a plethora of bad actors targeting different groups with various scams and Personally Identifying Information (PII) mining. In the US and in my location, I'm targeted by between 2 and 10 fake profiles a day from the *same* Chinese PII data-mining organization. These profiles are all looking for relationships, all have stilted English language profiles, very Euro looking Asian model pictures, and all volunteer their names, jobs, and location before beginning to ask increasingly personal questions about your job, employer, personal life, etc. I've irritated four of the people behind the fake profiles to the point of them cussing me out badly in English (they are mostly native Mandarin speakers) and monologuing on how their organization is going to get all of our money from stupid Americans like me. Frankly, Grindr is completely overwhelmed and outgunned by the various organizations and individuals unofficially extracting value from their ecosystem. So outgunned, in fact, that I'm lead to believe there is a powerful self-interest in having these entities creating fake profiles and contacting users for the purposes they do. I suspect that if we look into the user engagement and other success metrics, we'll find that the bad actors significantly drive up these metrics. Ergo, making the effort to keep up with the bad actors latest tactics and actively disrupting them doesn't positively affect their success metrics and share price. Grindr's engineering and release management is also appallingly sub-standard. They are not investing in engineering to make their app a good experience for users. They are optimizing value for their shareholders and that means some of the most intrusive data-mining and telemetry capture capabilities so they can sell actionable information about their users, and sell intrusive and badly designed ad products and inventory. Grindr's crown jewel is their user base, with a >90% reach in the LGBT+ market. Grindr forced 80 of ~179 employees to resign in the second half of 2023 if they would not show up to hub offices 2 days a week. This is largely seen as a retaliatory response to employees attempting to unionize under the umbrella of the CWA. Is it any wonder that the app user experiences have suffered? I've found so many bugs the iOS app I gave up on the idea of reporting them. Grindr users are a product to be sold and a revenue stream to be maximized, not a community that they feel a responsibility to deliver great and safe experiences.

I agree. I have a 3 close relationships with gay men who all have, or have been treated for, prostate cancer. 1 in 2 men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer in their lifetime. We better all *get* comfortable with it, because 50% of us are going to get that diagnosis. That's setting aside all the other cancers and treatments that can fuck with your libido, arousal, and erectile function. Meeting men where they are and treating them with consideration, whatever their situation, needs to be the default setting. If a guy is a great kisser, loves making out, and works my nipples I'm going to be hard and dripping in short order. When he decides it's time to fuck all the blood is eventually going to rush to my hole. Guys who like a hard dick when they fuck seem happy when I point out how much precum they have fucked out of me. Regulars will often reach around or look to see how much precum I'm oozing while they pound me out. I think they want some kind of indicator or how much they are turning you on and my leaking dick fits the bill (like my moaning and body writhing on their cock wasn't already a clue).

Surprising that grand-nephews and grand-uncles didn't make the list.

I'm with @Iker80 on this. I like what I like when I like it and so many things play into it. A man's vibe and energy is a big part of it. I think that if people felt they would not be judged for who they are attracted to and fuck, by their friends and society, lots more people would be happy and getting laid a whole bunch more by the people that really turn them on.