Rant.

[BadBob214]

I live in rural Ireland. There are no saunas and very few cruising spots here. The only way to realistically hook up is using apps. These have, at least, made it possible as in the past it was VERY difficult to meet guys. However, the amount of responses where men don't read my profile before messaging drives me nuts.

My profile; Easy going masculine, versatile gay guy. Good hygiene and expect same. No bottom only guys and no guys into cross dressing (No offence intended just not my thing) Can travel CANNOT accommodate. 

Seems fairly fucking simple. Had 27 replies between Thursday and this morning. 19 were from guys who are bottom only. 16 of which can't accommodate AND are bottom only. 12 of these have profile photos of them wearing dresses, suspenders and stockings or panties. Additionally, 4 more can't accommodate. 

Do guys not read profiles? Drives me fucking nuts!!!

Edited Sunday at 08:45 AM by BadBob214

[rawfuckingonly]

1 hour ago, BadBob214 said:

I live in rural Ireland. There are no saunas and very few cruising spots here. The only way to realistically hook up is using apps. These have, at least, made it possible as in the past it was VERY difficult to meet guys. However, the amount of responses where men don't read my profile before messaging drives me nuts.

My profile; Easy going masculine, versatile gay guy. Good hygiene and expect same. No bottom only guys and no guys into cross dressing (No offence intended just not my thing) Can travel CANNOT accommodate. 

Seems fairly fucking simple. Had 27 replies between Thursday and this morning. 19 were from guys who are bottom only. 16 of which can't accommodate AND are bottom only. 12 of these have profile photos of them wearing dresses, suspenders and stockings or panties. Additionally, 4 more can't accommodate. 

Do guys not read profiles? Drives me fucking nuts!!!

 

1 hour ago, BadBob214 said:

12 of these have profile photos of them wearing dresses

HAHAHAHA!

(I'm going to bed. More on this, later LOL)

 

 

Edited Sunday at 10:26 AM by rawfuckingonly

[BadBob214]

31 minutes ago, rawfuckingonly said:

 

HAHAHAHA!

(I'm going to bed. More on this, later LOL)

 

 

Female clothing really. So, dresses and nighties etc. 🫣

[topblkmale]

6 hours ago, BadBob214 said:

I live in rural Ireland. There are no saunas and very few cruising spots here. The only way to realistically hook up is using apps. These have, at least, made it possible as in the past it was VERY difficult to meet guys. However, the amount of responses where men don't read my profile before messaging drives me nuts.

My profile; Easy going masculine, versatile gay guy. Good hygiene and expect same. No bottom only guys and no guys into cross dressing (No offence intended just not my thing) Can travel CANNOT accommodate. 

Seems fairly fucking simple. Had 27 replies between Thursday and this morning. 19 were from guys who are bottom only. 16 of which can't accommodate AND are bottom only. 12 of these have profile photos of them wearing dresses, suspenders and stockings or panties. Additionally, 4 more can't accommodate. 

Do guys not read profiles? Drives me fucking nuts!!!

 

Your profile is too long for gay apps. Its a 12 second read which is WAY TOO LONG.

Most guys (on apps) have a reading comprehension attention span of between 3 to 5 seconds.

• shorten &
• use
• bullet
• points

 

 

[phillygwm]

10 hours ago, BadBob214 said:

Do guys not read profiles? Drives me fucking nuts!!!

OF COURSE they can read.  They just think that the comments don't apply to them.

When I was young, I relied on old fashioned personal ads in these things called newspapers 🙂  I stated that I wanted guys under X years old (i.e. my age range.)  I couldn't believe the number of responses that started "I'm 64 but look and act much younger."  Now that I'm much closer to 64 than 24, I'd like to think I'm not like those guys.

[cockfun69]

Similar for me, so I travel nearly 1.5hr for the nearest regional sauna for a monthly fuck fest (top/vers/btm). How are far you from Dublin or Belfast?

[Alexpdx]

I was monogamous with my wife for much of the era in which hookup/dating apps emerged. My female friends would complain constantly about how awful men were - I didn’t disbelieve them, but I was puzzled - I couldn’t conceive of people behaving that badly.
 

Then I got divorced and started using the apps and I get it (to my dismay). So many men feel entitled to sex/having their needs met. It’s just awful. I just discovered Sniffies has a limit of 500 blocks. I know this because it’s giving me a warning that I’m close to my limit!  Haha.  

[NWUSHorny]

14 hours ago, BadBob214 said:

Female clothing really. So, dresses and nighties etc. 🫣

Same problem here. Not just the apps, but everywhere men do in person cruising for hookups.

We also have a surplus of "sides" that are absolutely convinced that they can show me how to have the sex of my life without penetration and more often than not having to even touch each others "icky dick."

Edited yesterday at 01:15 AM by NWUSHorny

[SomewhereonNeptune]

5 hours ago, phillygwm said:

When I was young, I relied on old fashioned personal ads in these things called newspapers 🙂  I stated that I wanted guys under X years old (i.e. my age range.)  I couldn't believe the number of responses that started "I'm 64 but look and act much younger."  Now that I'm much closer to 64 than 24, I'd like to think I'm not like those guys.

City Paper, or PGN? I did a City Paper personal once about 30-something years ago and it was...an "interesting" experience. But in re to apps, I've had a similar experience. Mine says "no pic, no chat", give me a bit of opening banter, and here is what I'm NOT looking for (list). Amazingly, it's like my profile outcome excludes anything and everything I was seeking. 🙄

[phillygwm]

8 hours ago, SomewhereonNeptune said:

City Paper, or PGN? I did a City Paper personal once about 30-something years ago and it was...an "interesting" experience. But in re to apps, I've had a similar experience. Mine says "no pic, no chat", give me a bit of opening banter, and here is what I'm NOT looking for (list). Amazingly, it's like my profile outcome excludes anything and everything I was seeking. 🙄

PGN.  And even Philly Mag for a while.  I never liked ads which were full of "thou shalt nots"  Sure, if there are hard nos, include them, but many people are looking for one race, must be muscle bound, young, self-suffient, etc.  A fantasy, though I suppose someone like that would be available for rent 🙂

[badubydo]

People in fact do not read profiles. 
 

my profile on sniffies and Grindr (before I deleted it) said I cannot host. 
 

I had people message me. We agree to meet up, then they go “what’s your address?” 

Excuse me? What does my profile say? Then they go “well I can’t host. Car play?” 
 

then they want ME to find a place to fuck. Like what? 

 

I consider myself a versatile bottom. More bottom. My profiles/bios state that. They also say who I will top. (Younger/fem/smooth/slender/skinny)
 

I still get hairy/overweight/old guys sending me ass pictures. 

 

 

 

Edited 21 hours ago by badubydo

[SomewhereonNeptune]

15 hours ago, phillygwm said:

PGN.  And even Philly Mag for a while.  I never liked ads which were full of "thou shalt nots"  Sure, if there are hard nos, include them, but many people are looking for one race, must be muscle bound, young, self-suffient, etc.  A fantasy, though I suppose someone like that would be available for rent 🙂

I, too, don't like About Me's that focus more on "About you", or everything I do not want. So I try to balance it to be informative. Like...

• Have a pic
• Please do not just wink/smile/oink and give me nothing on what you're about.
• Please be local, I don't involve my travel agent in my sex life.

All pretty basic things. And like the post below...

10 hours ago, badubydo said:

People in fact do not read profiles. 
my profile on sniffies and Grindr (before I deleted it) said I cannot host. 
I had people message me. We agree to meet up, then they go “what’s your address?” 
Excuse me? What does my profile say? Then they go “well I can’t host. Car play?” 
then they want ME to find a place to fuck. Like what? 
I consider myself a versatile bottom. More bottom. My profiles/bios state that. They also say who I will top. (Younger/fem/smooth/slender/skinny)
I still get hairy/overweight/old guys sending me ass pictures. 

Yep. Every single one will go through and ask questions already answered if they read my profile rather than use the profile info as a jumping off for conversation.

There is one app/site where the location for literally thousands of guys is dead center of Kansas (Cheyney, KS). I looked up the town. There are more people on apps that say they're from there than actual residents. 🤣 If I see that in a profile, my block game is on point. 

We should probably post the common indicators to determine a bogus profile. Like dudes who say "Am" versus "I am" or "I'm" is indicative of Nigerian/Ghanian scammers.

[BarebackedBear]

It's a hookup app / site, not the reading comprehension section of the SATs. Nobody's reading profiles and even if they are they're skimming for stuff that gets them hard. I honestly don't get bent out of shape when guys message me who are definitely not what I'm interested in, I just have a pretty firm "no reply" policy:

• No face pic, no chat. Doesn't have to be public, but you have to send me a face pic if you don't have one posted.
• I don't respond to the automated "one click" messages the apps let you send.
• If you live so far away feasibly we'll never hook up, I don't respond (this isn't a pen pal service).
• If your first message to me is asking if I have more pics, I don't respond. I'm not here to provide spank material.

The one thing I will gripe about is guys who will message me saying "I wish you topped." How do you even respond to that? I'm sorry I'm not the daddy bear of your fantasies who's going to rip your butthole open stem to stern? FWIW I do top, occasionally, but it's rare someone trips my trigger in that way & when they do I reach out to them so I list myself as bottom on my profiles.