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Hubby and I were Mono for 8 years. We started opening up during and after sex about men we'd enjoy bringing in for a 3-way, etc. -- eventually the fantasy became reality and we have been fully open for many years -- secrets can be fun (we do some temporary ones for that reason still) but its awesome to share too -- he loves to fuck me using stranger cum when I get to bed and it's fun as fuck to hear about the bots he enjoys at the gym, etc.... we had tons of rules in the beginning (e.g., only fuck when traveling, only fuck as a couple originally, always be safe (we NEVER were), never fuck the same guy more than once, no fucking friends, no fucking in our bed -- and so forth) -- all of which have been joyfully broken since then. Best O Luck!

I had a similar situation with a female (str8) and male (gay) docs -- they both only quoted what you should do to keep yourself as safe as possible "by the book" you could say. Even the gay doc didn't want to hear about open relationships, and unprotected sex, and so forth... eventually I found an amazing gay doc that "GETS IT" -- clinically he's sound and refers me to amazing specialists when needed and I feel 100% comfortable telling he and his staff absolutely anything. I tell them when I'm going to an orgy in another town or country and we set up screening afterwards, for example. I echo the other recommendations to get a better doc that is sex positive and less judgmental --Best wishes!!

my hubby goes to bed early and rises early so I can take loads while he sleeps and hop in bed for him to get sloppy seconds and catch a few winks usually! 

Great topic -- over the years I have trained myself to be able to take dick after orgasm by basically anticipating that every fuck will be with more than one man and involve me receiving more than one load -- therefore regardless of when I bust my nut, there are probably top studs to worship and service. 

I have a regular/trusted fuck pal with an XL BBC that is very into B&D --  he's been teaching me to be a more active SUBBY during sex. Including being locked up. I'm rarely locked more than 24-36 hours at the moment, but even that definitely makes me more horny (craving more cock, cum) and more focused on whatever my top needs for pleasure. Seems my other regulars are about 70/30 -- 70% NOT interested in me being locked and 30% think it's hotter than hell.

Feeling extra sexy recently, I locked up and wore only my favorite jockstrap and Adidas samba's to Slammer club in Lauderdale (my favorite US slut stop!!) -- I had a lot of looks, touches, a few kisses, a nipple rub or 3, but had less penetrative sex that any other time I've visited -- most men would walk away when they felt my cage underneath my jock. I thought this was very odd, but maybe it was a night with more bottoms than usual or it caught men off guard and they didn't know how to respond. Anywho, thanks for the super hot young black/latin stud who used me good across from the "ass up" area! I haven't decided if I will wear it next time or not -- may try it in Chicago (home of IML) and DC to see if there is a similar reaction. Happy Fucking!! 🔐🍌🕳️🌊

Mine was literally last week! Never had interest in WS, but was having sex with a super hot, hung regular pal and after 40 minutes or so he said "brb, I gotta take a piss" to which I said "go ahead" --and he did! He pissed a huge load inside of me and after finishing continue to fuck me until he unloads his 12 day load! It felt amazing -- the sloshing sound was incredible. I don't know about other WS activity, but I am definitely down for taking it up my man hole!

Fun topic and best o luck on your adventures!!! 😈 I've been successfully DP'd several times as a bottom and been a top in at least two DP situations  --

When bottoming, I learned that it's better if I've been fucked for a while so I'm open and ready to take the cocks, as several of you have noted already. I do a lot of yoga, which makes it easier to flex around bodies, legs and cocks and holes in both positions, but my most successful DP's were when both tops were 7.5" and longer -- cowboy sex position works the best for me as a bottom at least to start. 

I have an average dick at 6.5c" and have been able to successfully DP a couple of hot bubble butt bottoms with other average tops -- this takes extra flexibility and focus...I'll even give up my porn and poppers to focus on the acrobatics!  For me, DP requires more intimacy or attraction to both partners than in an average hookup or anonymous/stranger situation -- you really have to work together as a team to find and maintain the proper fit/connection and rhythms, so it helps if you're hot for or have mutual attraction for one another -- this makes everyone excited about what's happening and less anxious, too. Ultimately two dicks and two men shooing loads in your hole feels AMAZING, a real treat for all senses!! As does putting your bare dick along side someone else inside a welcoming hole 🚰🚰-- enjoy and happy breeding men!!

Cum should be savored, enjoyed, worshipped, soaked up or absorbed from one man to another I think -- to flush it down a toilet is an insult to tops, men, humanity.  Breed deep man! And, thanks for every drop! 😈

Sounds like it's time to add a great, sex-positive therapist to your support team?! The approach-avoidance feelings are 100% normal in my experience, especially during my younger years when I was trying to figure out all of the 'big questions' of life -- I'm confident you'll find a great path for yourself! 

47 minutes ago, Holeforu said:

With the use of a butt plug and your breathing techniques. I use a gape keeper from topped toys, starting from 65 (now the smallest size is 45; it used to be 65), then wear it frequently (3-5 times a day, 30 minutes each time). I did upgrade my size and very quickly being plugged, and you will notice each time the butt plugs go inside you, it gets easier and easier, while your muscle get softer and softer. 

Sometimes I use thick dildos after a long plug session to help too.

OMG -- love the Gape Keeper and Mare Maker -- use them both any night I'm not taking dick or to prepare for it.

To me it's the "power thing" that makes the difference. Son's/daughters are not always empowered to say NO to older family members -- but might fully be open to play with siblings, cousins, etc. I had a male and female cousin that I had sex play with growing up and it was awesome. I'd say I'm even grateful for it -- but it was 100% consensual every step of the way -- although we were by no means old enough to grant consent. 

I went to SYD for work just before the pandemic — I popped into Sydney Sauna, but didn’t connect with the vibe. So, headed over to 357 — stayed 3 or 4 hours and took a dozen loads — went back there 2 more nights and had planned to again, but ended up in a small hotel room orgy instead. The men at 357 were so friendly and fun — sex was happening everywhere — I played with men from early 20s to probably 70. Not sure if it is the same now days, but 4 years ago it did not disappoint!! Best of luck! Let us know how you find it!

Sounds like an amazing sex-cation! Bravo!!Sounds like an amazing sex-cation! Bravo!!

definitely a mix -- I'd say 80% of my playmates love or prefer (or even command) a pre-lubed to sloppy hole, but the other 20% are very strict about either being 'first' or having the hole perfectly fresh and unused. 

Awesome as always -- happy to see you writing again!

Mid 50s here -- on TRT and daily Cialis -- I want sex daily, crave it -- as much as always, but assume that will fall off in the next decade. My bf and hubby are thrilled with sex once a week, and I have friends that say they only breed a couple of times a year after 50. Sad, but we shall see!

I’m constantly hit up by “sides” on Sniffies — I’m cool if people just want to cuddle, but they don’t belong on hookup sites — that is for SEX. I expect they’d do better on dating apps? I’m personally here to breed!

I can get my husband off in about 3-5 minutes, but with most bottoms he lasts an hour or more — my favorite is under half an hour generally speaking, unless its a group or tag or DP situation — in those it can be hot to keep the momentum going — when I top, I’d say 10 minutes is my average. 

In my experience it just takes time and honest communication about what you want... After 25 years, I'm still completely in love with my husband and we have an awesome live-in boyfriend that we share. Plus, we are fully open to have sex with anyone else we want -- but we started out Monogamous the first 8 years, then started having 3-ways and small groups, and some cheating on the side. But, we chatted about the jealousy, saw a counselor a couple of times too and worked it out so that we have security, support and emotional side together and are free to play otherwise. Men are hunters, I don't know a straight or gay pal that hasn't had sex on the side after 8-10 years in a mono-relationship. As gay men we get to define our lives, relationships and sex a bit more openly perhaps? Maybe start with fantasy talk -- when your guy is super horny and had a drink or two, watch a video where two tops share a bottom and get him thinking about how fun/hot that would be to share you... evaluate the outcome and try again 😈 No pushing or rushing -- Best o Luck and have fun!!

Isn't great when hard cock and cum loads arrive without sitting on apps all day?!! Love these hot natural scenes.

Such a great question! I have several top pals that tell me they cum a minimum of 2x every day no matter what, then one of my BFF's (vers/top) tells me he only has orgasm when he is fucking -- which is often once a week or less and he edges the rest of the time. I love to cum daily, but as I age notice my loads are not as big unless I hold off for a couple of days. I guess its an individual thing that changes over time -- but definitely am willing to edge more if I can breed w/ bigger loads!

On 8/4/2023 at 10:27 AM, ellentonboy said:

I know I jokingly posted regarding this topic earlier but I thought I would be serious for a second.  I'v lived in both Tampa and Saint Petersburg, and about 45 minutes south of here, for over twenty years.  I assure you that there are enough tops to go around, for everyone.  

I see BBRT is mentioned, and I just happened to sign in and look at the "local parties" listed in the Tampa area.  There was a guy who already had like 17 people attending his "get together" so to speak, almost all those on the list are either top or top/vers.  Now, are these guys online at the moment?  No, because it's 10 am and more than likely they are at work.  They won't be online at 6pm or 7pm because they might be at the gym, or going out to dinner or meeting up with non-sexual friends.  It's the beginning of the weekend, people are deciding who and what they are going to do.

In my opinion, it's all about timing.  The guys logged onto various sites at the moment will more than likely not be online at midnight.  Why?  They're in bed!  I am a firm believer some guys remain signed in yet they may check their messages when they are making a decision as to who they will hook up with.  It's not difficult to find a desirable top, you just need to know when to find them.

Timing guys, timing! 

Great info man -- I've had the best luck on BBRT and Sniffies in major cities around the world, but in SP and TPA it is rare to see even a dozen tops whether its 10 AM, 5 PM, 10 PM or midnight -- I think the dynamics of online have changed, but with so many adult options closed its become hooking up at bars or word of mouth parties again.

I agree that sucking/oral is just foreplay or the precursor to real breeding/sex... but seems a lot of men are just looking for blow jobs, especially on Sniffies type platforms. Maybe that's a way for str8 and bi-men to test the waters? But I am definitely not fully satisfied with blow jobs - -giving or receiving. I think satisfaction wise for me its something like:

• Masturbation = 70% satisfying
• Mutual Masturbation, Oral Sex = 75% satisfying
• Penetration = 95% satisfying
• Penetration with breeding/DNA exchange = 100% satisfying 

Swapped oral with older male cousin when I was 5, put my dick in a female neighbor at 7, swapped anal loads around 9, craved his dick and cum regularly by 12 -- sex has always been my favorite playtime and hobby.

These days 85% of the tops I connect with want multiple loads before they put their dick in my hole, but 15% want to be the first and won't touch it with another dude's load on/inside. I  get preferences -- but in a sauna you have to go with the flow and bottoms and most tops don't want the bottom to flush out between every fuck -- savor the DNA men or is that just me? I guess their  loss! Fucking a loaded hole feels amazing to me.