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I can usually do a decent job of cleaning out 2-3 times in less than 30 minutes. I eat fiber as well and my ex used to laugh at me all the time about the proverbial coffee + shit every morning. Something to be said for regularity and predictability (I learned when I started to bottom). If I'm going to have a good ass play session in the sling with big toys or friends with toys, cocks and fists... I really take my time and can be squeaky clean in an hour. I bought a shower set that really helps the entire process. I can start things 'moving along' and step over to the toilet a few times... then a lot of rinsing out. You need to be cautious with the diverter valve to make sure you don't have TOO much pressure, you could do some internal damage when you slide the tool into your rectum. More pressure doesn't necessarily make for a 'faster' cleanout. The other part I have learned is 'mindful'. I find when I relax and let the water and my guts have a nice little dance together... things flow out better. Talk about getting in touch with your 'inner feelings'... but, seriously... it is something you can learn to manage and it also helps open up the second hole and have things flow. The nice thing about the shower attachment is that I have had bottom buddies here and we are playing - and they get that panicked look on their face... we know that look right? So, I just help them adjust the water, show them how the unit works... and let them 'clean up' a little. Shit happens at times. Some folks like it. In my experience, most are a little mortified. So having a setup that allows my bottom or flip-flop partner the opportunity to feel like he is squeaky clean - makes both of us happy. Especially when I blow my load and lick it out of his hole afterwards.

I usually ask them a question... like... "Did you enjoy that load of creamy cum?" or "I enjoyed seeding your hole". Either way... it gives them yet another reason to say "thanks for the hot load" to me. GRIN. Cheers

@DarkroomTaker - holy crap!! This is my younger FWB thing as well. Nice to see there is someone else out there that enjoys this kinda play. He loves that I'm a business exec and he always asks me to start off our play session ..... in my office clothes. Of course, clothes don't last long and I typically end up leaving on a jock, dress shoes and socks... in fact, when he runs the camera POV in some of our home made videos, he often focuses the camera down onto his and mine shoes and socks. He says it really turns his crank. He is a fan of the Men at Play series of porn. Any of the videos that I have seen, the top is wrapped, so part of our role play is him topping the exec Daddy raw and I beg him to seed and breed my ass. He always shoots harder on 'dress up' fuck days. Grin. Cheers

I have a regular FWB that is 30 years younger than me and he says he absolutely loves my Daddy ass. He told me he is turned on by the fact that I enjoy sucking his cock, letting him eat my ass and load me up. For him - it is a fantasy scene with role play that allows him to show his inner piggy. For me - it is a hot younger, hairy, hung uncut guy who loves to fuck. We have made a few home videos together and I always enjoy recalling the fuck scenes while stroking off and watching our fun. He is a mature minded young guy and really gets into the whole younger fucking older Daddy role play. I think this is what makes it so hot for both of us. We both enjoy it. He has told me a number of times how much he loves the way I can handle his big cock and it always puts him over the edge when I tell him to breed me or load me up with his cum. His comments to me over the years that we have been fucking is... the sex is not complicated by younger 'immaturity' (his words) and he knows that when I bottom for him, I will always work his cock with my mouth and my hole and there is never any doubt that he will be loading me up a couple of times per session. I have also met a few 20 somethings who were NOT shy at all about asking if they could top me and fuck me raw. There seems to be a lot more younger guys being vocal about this and frankly, I love the variation. Your Daddy is a lucky guy!! Cheers

That was a great question... good for you. Many of us went through the same 'anguish' (?)... and I agree with a lot of the other posters... don't sweat it too much. Medical professionals are used to it... and the samples are tiny. In Ontario, Canada (at my PrEP clinic), they provide you with two pre-configured bags and labels + your lab test requisitions. This way, you can do your swabs at home and then package up and take to your local lab within a day or so, at your convenience. Our medical system works such that I can take it to ANY lab for processing as part of our health care. When I show up with my two labelled samples (oral, anal swabs) they take the samples and my lab requisitions. I give up 3 vials of blood and a bottle of piss. And I'm on my way. The whole thing takes about 5-10 minutes. I believe we are fortunate to have this kind of system. I have a couple of friends who are lab techs and know about my open lifestyle. I asked about the swabs. Their comments were along the lines of "we don't even see clean/dirty.. we are just processing multi samples an hour"..... and they reassured me everyone is used to it. It took me a couple of tests to relax... but mind over matter.

I was a late bloomer. I remember as a kid, fooling around a little with some of my friends in the neighborhood... poking around a little, a little bit of touching. Sucked my first cock at 13 with my best friend. He sucked me. We were amateurs and didn't know what we were doing. He moved away and the guy-guy stuff stopped. I ended up chasing women for a while and got married young. She came from a religious family where sex was only for making babies.... lol. I convinced her that was a religious lie and our sex life was... OK. In my early 40's, the sex was dried up. Noticed the cocks in the porn I stroked off to as much as the pussy. I realized I liked the look of a man's hole and I liked the look of his balls swinging back and forth and was determined to try it out at least once. I realized very quickly that sex with a man was more open and could be animalistic. I am versatile, so I loved sucking a hard cock, licking balls and eating a guy's hole before fucking it. I also came to realize that I enjoyed having my hole rimmed and played with... and finally, fucked one day. I was hooked! Her and I separated and stayed connected due to having two kids. The kids were a little surprised when I 'came out', but they supported me. I found a guy and we moved in together and had some really great sex.... one on one as well as group. I never wore a condom when I fucked or got fucked by another guy and really enjoyed cum and raw fucking. Eventually even tried some watersports and liked that as well. Here's the interesting part though... I still fuck chicks now and then if the mood strikes me. The chicks tend to be pretty open minded and really like good, hard raunchy sex... my kinda girls. I've actually fucked with a few married couples over the years... but if I had to select ... I would pick guys. They are easier to deal with. And in my opinion, the sex is still hotter. I live in Canada. We are pretty open minded about gay lifestyles (for the most part) so transitioning was easy. A few of my friends thought I had lost my mind, but they settled down quickly and realized.... I was still... me. And they openly accepted my male partner. It was a hell of a journey though.

See if you can find a dildo with a 'base' on it.... that way, you can sit down on it slowly at your own speed and control the opening of your hole. Slow breaths. Focus on relaxing the muscles while you stretch and loosen up. Once you feel comfortable with that dildo.... think about graduating UP a size! Good luck!

I am always happy to receive cut or uncut in my wet mouth and tight hole... and I always love feeling hot cum seeping from the head into my second ring. Having said that - I am uncut and I love playing with another uncut guy... tongue and lick and nibble his foreskin, stretch it with my lips and gently with my teeth (there is a fine line between making him gasp in pain vs. pleasure with the stretching). I love swirling my tongue around the sensitive head and sucking JUST the tip of an uncut cock. I have found uncut cocks to have more sensitive heads and really enjoy the attention to their skin. And of course, the right amount of foreskin 'bunches' up around the edge of my hole as he slides into me... a little extra thrill. But being a cum junkie, I really enjoy it when my uncut top pulls out and slowly feeds me his very cummy cock straight from my ass. The foreskin usually has a little extra juice and cum and I find it always tastes amazing. I travel a lot. I find lots of uncut sexy men in Europe. I love that. And mostly cut guys in "Americas", with an increase in uncut for the French studs from Quebec. (my unscientific poll) LOL I echo the comments of others. I love both... but would likely DIVE onto an uncut cock if I could only pick one. Cheers men!

I'm vesratile... so I guess I can answer from both angles (so to speak). For me? It's about the connection. I love verbal talk and dirty talk on a good day. Some guys don't take to it very well, so, I back off. Whether I'm topping or bottoming. But the guys that DO appear to enjoy it? Let's do it!!! When I am topping a guy, I only fuck raw. As some others have already stated - if I met you on BBRT or BZ or any other site where I say I fuck raw - don't be surprised when I don't suit up. In fact, when I'm fucking I start talking to the bottom and asking him questions.... none of this 'is it good baby' shit.... I ask him if he can feel me swell my head up in his hole? Does he like it when I open his second hole? I tell him I haven't decided where I will shoot my load... on the outside of his hole or inside his hole or right up deep in his second ring. Usually the bottom starts talking back - if he is into that kinda thing. Then the game is on. And I mix up asking him questions with telling him what I am going to do TO him. I find that most bottoms are happy to hear my teasing them about where they will get my seed... or telling them to GRIP my cock with their hole and squeeze it... almost ALL do it!!! So, the entire conversation about cumming and breeding and dirty talk is all underway. A couple of folks have suggested making sure that is clear right up front. When I am getting fucked, I squeeze and grip the guy's cock as it slides in/out. Seeing which methods get the groans of appreciation. Then I will ask him if he can feel my ass ring squeezing his cock? Most will start answering right away. Then it is a little banter to see if the top is into this kind of talk... (in my experience a LOT enjoy this play). If he is not into it, then I just tell him what his cock feels like in my guts, and when he bottoms out, I tell him I can 'feel that'... etc. That also seems to turn guys on a lot. I certainly don't like going on and on about do it man, or shoot it now man etc... I agree that this is no fun at all... almost 'performance pressure'. I've also noticed that when I hookup for a quick pump-and-dump - the other guy is usually horny and in a piggy mood and willing to talk back/forth while pounding in a load to my hole or taking mine in their hole. It's all about the connection for me....

IMHO, a well thought out start to a list that is sure to grow @rawTOP. I also lived through a lot of the HIV days and was actually in a sero-discordant relationship for about 12 years, and so when PrEP became available, it was an obvious choice to me to help be proactive about my health and lower risk with my undetectable partner. And I agree, this is a virus that will make some folks pause and think about things.... everyone will have to do what is right for them. I hope they are respectful of others in that process. I (used to) travel all over the world as part of my job. Mostly Europe, Africa, USA and Canada. Obviously, that isn't happening right now and I don't see a huge, quick turnaround. And that suits me fine, as I have a job that allows me to work at home - when I'm not working in airports. I've been alone in my home office since the second week of March. I've left the house 3 times, after dinner when the crowds in the grocery store are dwindling. I'm in/out like a ninja buying what I need, while wearing a mask and gloves. And then straight home to 'wash' some of my groceries. I stay in touch with my FWB's a few times a week. It's a relatively small list. I have realized this was likely a good thing. Why? In discussion with two of my closest FWB's we realized we have been isolating ourselves quite a bit from everyone. All limited to our once or twice a month foray for food. Masked. One has asthma (like me) and one had kidney issues years ago and is on a disability pension. We have really watched our P's and Q's. Internet meetings only with family and friends. Rob called me yesterday and said... "I haven't had sex in 12 weeks. I haven't left my house in 12 weeks. I'm losing it. What about you?" My response was that I had gone out for some groceries 3 times in the last 12 weeks. That's it. We have been FWB for years and we trust one another. And so, we got together yesterday and had a good solid romp. We're both versatile so there was some good breeding going on. I think this will be my new normal for a while. We even talked about that part and agreed this was about as risky as we would get. He went home to his house and I plan to stay in mine until sometime next week when I need some supplies. Masked. Gloved. I DO like the idea of pump n' dumps or gloryhole fucks tho.... maybe on the back deck? Hmmm. Great thread. I will be curious to see what others have to say and their experiences...

I agree... this will be interesting to follow.

I have built a collection over the years. Being vers, I like to play with the toys in either the giving or receiving positions. Two of the bigger (girth) toys were given to me as presents from a fellow ass-pig who is introducing me to fisting. They are for practice solo sessions. I started out small and started working my way up the size chart. I have had every one of these toys in my ass to the root! (Some took a LOT longer than others - grin).

Happy Birthday BZ... I'm just a rookie compared to the seasoned veterans who have been here for many years... But I have enjoyed my short time ! Cheers to all

Being the geek I am, I copied the text into a spreadsheet and counted everything up - good livin' and a wild imagination got me a 358. Being the geek I am, I looked that the 'stuff' I would still like to try and the stuff I'm not really interested in trying (different strokes etc....). I would still like to add another 91 to the list. Let's all get healthy and get ready for happier naked times! Cheers men!

I tried the trays.. and I DID get freezer burn. So I went to a similar method as @FelchingPisser... used a long, thinner shot glass and dumped a condom inside... then started filling it up (the fun part). I put into a zip lock bag in my freezer. No more freezer burns. And I found that all I really needed to do was hold the shot glass in my hand for a few minutes. The heat from my hands warmed up the condom enough to slip out of the shot glass, turn it inside out and voila!!! Great times. A 3 inch long, round piece of frozen cum... great for playing around the outside of the hole to make it sloppy, or tease the hole open or more....the first time I inserted one entire piece inside it was an amazing mixture of cold and feeling it melt inside your hot guts. That was a huge turn-on!

I have some toys of MANY sizes so I can progressively and slowly increase during an ass play session. I clean out well and plan for a good 30-60 minutes of ass play with my toys while watching porn and stroking slow. I am very fortunate to have 2 FB's who LOVE ass play. They take their time. They use a combination of toys, fingers, mouth, tongue, cock and more toys. It is a journey of exploration that typically ends with a nice gradual introduction of a fist. I agree with comments about the numbing cream. Poppers and/or a slow tantric pace are good. I've learned one cannot rush ass play. Take your time and open up a couple or three times a week and 'train'. Enjoy the ride (no pun intended). Grin

I have found a lot of younger guys are very straightforward about wanting to enjoy the older/younger dynamic. It took me a while to get my head around it. I tend to enjoy a hot suck and fuck with 40/50/60 year old guys. They tend to know what they like and are open to having open sex. Younger guys aren't always sure. I have been thrilled to meet some exceptions though. But they tend to be kinda interesting to talk to and really into some open minded sex as well. Youngest I have done in the last 5 years is 20. He was already completed college and headed to medical school. Smart bugger. Interesting and sexy as fuck. He wanted to fuck ME. It was a hot session. The next youngest was 27. Versatile and hot as fuck. We spent many hours. So IMHO - keep legal but if a younger guy tracks me down - and he isn't a goof... I'm game! Cheers

I find EV men VERY sexy.... such a wide variety of sexy men. And I really love uncut cock - and most of their actors are uncut European studs. VERY hot fuckers!

They walk among us. Sigh. Like a lot of the others here, I too have been contacted by a few horny fools. I explain that I had prostate cancer a number of years ago and some lung issues + asthma and thanks... but horny as I am .... not worth the risk. My regular FB's and I have gotten creative with some on-line banter, sexting and even some fantasy video chatting with 'masks' for role play and discretion. It isn't the same. It will likely never be the same. Our world has had a reality check. I see a lot of responsible folks here. Kudos. This guy? A special, selfish kind of stupid. Karma deals with these guys. I DID laugh at the ICU pic tho... seriously dude. MOST patients in ICU are not in a position to take selfies. Gawdddddd.

I was the 'third guy in' for a couple in a similar situation to yours.... they were married (to each other). I was divorced and single. He contacted me from a 'site' and explained that his wife was pretty hot and he loved her a lot but she needed more cock than he could give her. And they both were cool with him getting involved in M/M stuff. It started off as great sex a few times a month and progress into a friendship (with definite benefits). Most nights I was lucky to enjoy her while he watched or participated. And then she would watch or participate with he and I. We got to know one another's kinks and it was a great sexual relationship and friendship. He took a promotion and they moved far enough away that we had to grope, kiss and have one really hot fucking night before they left. I highly recommend experimenting - especially if your partner is open to experimenting!!! It's a journey and it is a lot of fun if your partner approves and is involved somewhat (IMHO). Enjoy!

I love talking dirty while topping or bottoming. I work it into the slutty talk. Does he like this? Should I do more that? It works whether you're giving or taking. Some guys get off on the dirty talk and start talking back and it can get real interesting... you can both really 'steer' how the fuck is happening in real time. Some guys appreciate that you ask and are either shy or so focused on the fuck at hand that their answers are short and blunt. That can be a turn on as well. You know they are listening and responding. I love it when I'm fucking a guy and he squeezes my cock on the in/out thrusts. But when I have the position I like - I just tell him - "stay there" and hold him where I like him. Most bottoms get it. If they don't, I'm quick to say "stop moving or I'll stop fucking". That usually gets compliance. LOL. And I really pay attention to the cock in my hole and the action of its owner. I love to squeeze and open and see what he likes. Then do more of it. I'm experienced enough to 'watch' for the signals from a good solid top. And if the guy doesn't seem to be 'getting there', I ask him if there is anything he would 'like'. That usually works as well Some guys are just shy about asking or telling when they play. Me? That's half the play (fucking is the other half) GRIN. I love the answers on this one... all over the place. Cheers

Definitely in my ass. Then I would ask him to slow stroke and churn it all around my guts. Once he has my hole coated and his cock coated with cum.... I would get to lick it all off his cock. So, a little of best of both worlds. GRIN

All good advice. Start small to medium and work your way up. The bonus? You'll end up with a bit of a toy collection (which is good!!). If it's just hole stretching, you can buy toys that are tapered - smaller at head and widen. It will help stretch. If you get one with a suction cup on the end, you can 'anchor' it and that way sit down on it or in the shower (or any other surface that will hold your toy). That way, you are in control of the speed. Great way to start. Vibrators are great, in that, they come in all sizes and shapes as well. They can be a 'fixed' buzz or more useful are the 'variable' ones that buzz at different rates or pulses even!! Last point is - make sure you use the right lube for the right toy. As pointed out by others - some lubes will damage some types of toys. Try to avoid PVC toys containing phthalates.. they often cause rashes etc and can be bad for you in general. I like the Google "How To Buy A Dildo" suggestion from @funpozbottom. You will find sites with visuals, descriptions of sizes and descriptions of functions. There are some great sites out there... use a reputable one to ensure you don't end up frustrated with junk!! Some of these toys can be expensive - but well worth it. Start small!!!

I still a higher ratio of younger guys wanting an older daddy to fuck them vs. younger guys looking to fuck a daddy. But I definitely agree with your comments around the younger guys in my area are a hell of a lot more versatile. In my opinion, it makes for a really great time... especially with repeat guys. They already know I'm willing to give or take (give AND take? Grin) and they are into the 'total' hot scene. I've also been fortunate to take a few cherries in the last year. The guys could sense that it was just about pleasure and not 'labels' and a number of us have stayed in touch. I really take my time on a man's hole ... and I find it is well worth the effort... when a guy feels you really working on his hole - he tends to really get into it. And it gets better from there. I had another guy over the weekend reach out and has been here a few times. 33 and told me right up front he was really horny and wanted some 69, rimming and fucking - give and take. Was I interested? Hell's bells ya!! We even took some time to massage one another on the table between gropes and sucks and fingering. I really enjoy those types of encounters - older OR younger. But I am enjoying watching the younger guys be very upfront about when they want some daddy ass and dick. I love it.