Okay well now I know for sure I'm missing out on something major 😔
The only times I've even come close, and by close I mean maybe 60% of the way to an O, were when I was stretching my hole by fucking it with big dildos or being fisted. I think the mental aspect probably pays a huge part in it too because the times when I've been really put in my sub place by a guy I've been so aroused that if he had been fucking me at the time I think I might have been able to cum hands free. There's just not many guys who are able to do that to/for me though I guess. 🥺