Getting lectured

[totalasspig]

If I am get lectured at my doctors office, I say "Really now?" (as he is sticking a penicillin injection into my ass)

If I get lectured at the bathhouse, My dick goes limp and I throw the guy out.

If I get lectured online, I say "Everyone will be poz one day, Condoms are know to fail".

If the lecturing continues online, I say "Thank you now mind your own Fucking business and move on!"

[Verbal76]

Yeah it sounds like most of us have had our share of run-ins with idiots. I do like that there are a lot of guys into bb that just hind behind things no "no bb" or "safe sex only." It probably stems from them being embarrassed or from fear of being lectured from guys like the asshole who did it to me. If people were less judging and more free thinking I think more people would be not only open to bb but open to being open about being into bb.

It's hilarious comparing guys on BBRT with the same guys on Manhunt or Adam4Adam. On BBRT, they're all "want hot raw loads" and on the more mainstream sites, it's "safer only." I should know...I'm one of those guys? Why? Because I have friends on those sites..I ran into a coworker on Manhunt once..and...there is this expectation to "be responsible."

[SouthCal323]

The world is full of people who like to judge. Tell the anti-bb lecturers to fuck off!

[Hotload84]

On one or two occasions guys have e-mailed me (through A4A) asking, with a very antagonistic tone, "How could you, an HIV positive guy, bareback?" I didn't respond to the e-mails. I probably muttered to myself "Fucking Asshole" as I deleted the message. I also seem to recall both guys who wrote me deleted their profile from the site - one hit wonders, of a sort.

[einathens]

when i run into those guys on manhunt or a4a i send them a note saying 'i like your bbrt profile better.'

when i fuck them i make them beg for my load in their ass, and i smile quietly to myself.

[bobbie]

I was in NYC and was hiring a "rentb-y" for the evening. I contacted this hot number and during our discussion I asked if he barebacked. You would have thought that I asked him something totally inappropriate!

He wrote back that it was people like me that made his "profession" less acceptable to society. I should be ashamed of myself... that people like me are putting the gay community in jeporty. He proceeded to call me

every name in the book...how irresponsible and immoral I was! Remember...this guys a prostitute...and he is lecturing ME on morals.

Well, luckily I found someone else who had no problem with my request and fucked me raw...two loads!

[whtbt4blkck]

I've kinda had this happen to me before. Probably about 10 years ago I went out with a guy like a normal date - we went back to my place, watched some TV, then things got hot and heavy on the couch. He threw his legs around my waist, I slipped off his jeans, teased his hole with my cock, then applied some spit and started to slide it in. He moaned as I went deeper and started to fuck him...he was rock hard. I kept fucking him until I shot a load in his ass, then he came. He left shortly after that. When I asked if he wanted to go out again, he felt like I had "raped" him since I didn't ask if I could do it BB and that he didn't wanna go out with me again. He proceeded to tell me I should be more careful and make sure it's what the guy really wants.

I'm sorry - but when your throw your legs in the air and your dick's at attention...that is usually a sign that you want my cock in you. I felt lectured after that!

You are absolutely right. He's just blaming you for thinking with his dick instead of his brain. He enjoyed it so much and now he's in deep remorse, feeling guilty about feeling good about the fuck. And then he's got to blame someone else, i.e. you.

[RawPozLust]

I've never been lectured, but it doesn't surprise me that it happens. People love to judge others and feel no reticence about sharing their opinions openly, especially anonymously and online. My guess is that few of them would do so in person.

[cumlatrine]

I don't mind at all. They can be a pain in the ass, but they mean well. So, no bad feelings at all.

[kpig]

i love guys who think you have to be some kind of idiot to bareback but think placing their full confidence in a micro-thin thin layer of latex produced by a over worked wage slave doing the quailty conntrol at a sweatshop in china is being smart and responsible

[HolePunchSD]

To each his own, right? I think each of us here has heard every lecture and sermon about what we're doing and all that bullshit and you know what? It still doesn't matter.

There are more men like us out there that like to fuck & get fucked raw. We're just honest enough with ourselves not to bullshit about it. You would be surprised how many guys are quick to rip off a condom or even try to compromise ("you can fuck me raw--just don't cum in my ass"). We've heard it all, man!

Then there are those that are convinced that poz guys are the ones that spread the HIV virus: when actually, it's those that are unsure, uncertain or blantly lie about their status that spread the virus.

Pay no mind to the haters, man. For every guy that tries to lecture you on your sex life, there's FIVE others that want to breed you with no questions asked.

[Guest]

I've kinda had this happen to me before. Probably about 10 years ago I went out with a guy like a normal date - we went back to my place, watched some TV, then things got hot and heavy on the couch. He threw his legs around my waist, I slipped off his jeans, teased his hole with my cock, then applied some spit and started to slide it in. He moaned as I went deeper and started to fuck him...he was rock hard. I kept fucking him until I shot a load in his ass, then he came. He left shortly after that. When I asked if he wanted to go out again, he felt like I had "raped" him since I didn't ask if I could do it BB and that he didn't wanna go out with me again. He proceeded to tell me I should be more careful and make sure it's what the guy really wants.

I'm sorry - but when your throw your legs in the air and your dick's at attention...that is usually a sign that you want my cock in you. I felt lectured after that!

Where was his responsibility to TELL you what he wanted, or to ask for a condom. If he had done, and you proceeded to continue raw, I could see his point. But with no request and no protest, he's just a whineass having second thoughts.

[ked239]

it's happened in the past now, i usually avoid it now by saying something like you into bb or condoms? never use the word safe though, think that implies i prefer it "safe", if a guy replies condoms only, i say fair enough, then get a little cold until they lose interest, doesn't take long, and i've avoided those irritating preachers, who i can't help but get into an argument with - refuse to let myself lose an argument ever, so the preaching can go on a very long time if i don't avoid it from the outset

[fuckboy20]

I guess I'm lucky that I haven't really been preached about barebacking. I never had to because originally I was pro condoms. I was never really anti-barebacking and I believed it was cool if it was monogamous..until I learned later how often men cheat on each other. But I used condoms and some people did not. Wasn't going to judge them. I did remember though on xtube once when I watched a fucking video where the guy used condoms someone posted "The fucking condoms ruined the video the guy needed to remove the condom. Hate videos with condoms." Thought the man was crazy at first until I did start to get off on bareback porn and eventually bareback. And now I would post the same thing that condoms in videos turn me off. Well not post but just think outloud.

A guy I really liked though was condom nazi. Wouldn't even get his cock near my ass without a condom. He was a damn good fuck but did not fuck a lot (blew him and jacked him off more...greatly improved my skills though) but his whole condom thing was annoying. Only time he ever rubbed his cock against my ass was when he was drunk and stoned once. I felt him push put then he put on a condom. I haven't told people close to me I bb though but got re-assured the other night about me staying out late (I got a curfew) that I am an adult and I can do whatever I want because I probably will anyways. Still though. Might be harder for some gay men to accept barebacking especially the ones who were around during the AIDS epidemic and buried their friends so to speak or watched some of them die. Don't think it makes that right for "anyone" to judge about barebacking since gays in general are judged for being gay. But there is a HELL lot of judgement in this gay community.

[HardhatBB]

never had lectures online..alot of times men will ask if i BB before i get the same chance to ask him. When im on a site thats not "BB friendly" i just leave the safesex profile question blank, or rarely that type of thing. I can see why people dont say BB on profile, its just not politically correct..but i say im bieng GREEN because i dont throw rubbers into the enviornment Ha