Hard to find goal oriented tops?

[4realz]

A lot of the fantasy here is very goal oriented (mount, breed, bail) which totally works for me. I don't have a problem finding bottoms that want a quick breeding, but it seems hard to find tops who are interested... it seems like a lot of guys want more "connected" sex and/or long(er) sessions.

What's your experience of this? Do you lean more toward goal oriented sex or more toward open ended sex? How easy/difficult has it been for you to find the right type of guys to get what you want?

[Cumhunt]

Most of the men I hook up with may want only a quick fuck but once we get naked they end up staying and fucking much longer. And then wanting to fuck more. If not right away then sometime soon again. I think when men find something they like they like to keep it close so they can get frequent access to it. I prefer long fuck sessions and I usually get them. not always but probably 7 of 10 fucks

[thick]

i dont like anon. I guess I have grown older to an age where it just seems impersonal and cold to pump, dump and go . I find sex relaxing and try to make it enjoyable. not a business transaction type thing

[bearbandit]

I like to talk before and afterwards: the first gives me a better idea of what he's after, while the latter gives me an idea of how it was for him. I always reckon on the first time being a shadow of what it could be: you need to know what he likes and the only way to find out is by trying and talking about it. Cum'n'go? I've got toys for that...

[NWUSHorny]

Totally versatile into no strings sex here, although I do like to see and explore a guy before fucking, I am typically out of there afterward. I find gloryhole and darkroom where you can't see, fucks unsatisfying (just as well use a dildo or a fleshlight if it has to be that anonymous).

I too find it much easier to find bottoms and versatile guys that think the same way, than tops. The other possibility is that tops that think this way aren't into versatile guys, not sure which.

[hungry_hole]

I much prefer anon sex scenes because for me anon sex is no more than sex with myself such as masturbation and watching porn alone, but enhanced by the presence of other bodies that I somehow make them part of my fantasy. Sexuality is not something I like sharing with anyone else so I mostly enjoy anon sex. I enjoy strong loving relationships but sex is usually not part of the mix.