Bottomed and barebacked for the 1st time & perplexed, need some answers.

[Guest bibayrr]

I am bi, 43, and have been exploring my man on man side lately. So I ended up having my cherry popped in Orlando by a Brazilian daddy. Just sorta happened. Started chatting and an hour later he was in my hotel room and next thing you know he is in me. Hadn't plan on barebacking but in the heat of the moment I let him. He didn't cum inside me(I know some of you will be disappointed) He was good about pulling out and then finishing off by masterbating. I realize there are still risks but I let him do it, still wondering how I gave in so easily, However, here is the thing. I didn't get hard during foreplay at all, whether he was trying to blow me or rim my ass, which he was good at cause he opened me up enough that he took me with no lube. However, I didn't get hard until he was in me. As soon as he pulled out and we tried 69, yes i went ATM my first time, I still don't believe I did that but I cleaned my ass out good beforehand, I started to get soft and then got hard when he put it in me again. He didn't make me cum. I don't know maybe daddy's don't turn me on as much as I thought it would. Or maybe I have jerked off too much, a problem that I have had with women from watching too much porn, I was edging for awhile before the or maybe because I have been getting off to beefy hairy daddy's he wasn't the right type.

So the question is in the beginning have you bottoms had issues with getting erect, was it just nerves, not the right guy, just want some honest answers and ideas. I wonder if the fantasy turns me on but the reality not so much or if I am just into ass play but not so much into guys. And I want thoughtful answers not just you shoulda let him cum in you then you would have gotten off. I will say having a raw cock in me felt pretty good.

So thoughts.

[FatFuckPigMA]

It's not uncommon for a bottom to go soft while fucking. Other parts of you are busy at the moment. The only things that matters is whether you're enjoying yourself. Trust me, jacking off after a nice, had fuck is still very pleasant.

[drscorpio]

Lots of anal/prostate stimulation can interfere with your hard on. Nothing unusual about it.

[HereInLondon]

I think you've answered your own query with the first line of your post; you're "exploring", you're still finding out what and who really gets you going.

Regardless of what your cock was doing, did you actually enjoy the meet?

And as for only getting hard when he had his cock inside you, maybe that's the thing (or one of the things) that really gets you going. Only further exploration will tell...

[Guest bibayrr]

Yeah, the more I have thought about it I really think the guy just didn't turn me on. When I think about his tongue in my mouth I just feel ewwww. Don't know why I gave up my ass raw that easily, thank god I didn't let him cum in me. I totally did get hard when he started fucking me and it felt good but overall it didn't feel right. I guess I will just keep on exploring. I do have a cuban bear daddy who keeps messaging me.

[gaymarc]

Yeah most of the time when I get fucked, if it's alot of hard fucking for a long time, I will go soft. Not because I'm not turned on. I'm very turned on, it's just that I'm so focused on what's going on in my ass that my penis basically just takes a sort of time out. It's very common when getting fucked.

[Walkerth139]

You got hard while he was fucking you, but soft the rest of the time. Sounds like a disconnect to me, (you just weren't into him) the thrill of losing your cherry would be enough to get you hard. When the attraction is right you'll be hard as a rock. If the lack of hard on continues, You might consider Viagra. You'll figure it out.