sinfuljock Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 Does it seem that to anyone else that, similar to gender differences in women vs men as far as slut/stud, bottoms who have a lot of sex or cheat are considered sluts/whores while tops that do the same are considered studs/more masculine etc?
TigerMilner Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 Because we are. Because they are. It's how it works.
seaguy Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 Its probably due to the top being the more dominant role so of course they are going to refer to themselves using positive terms like stud, daddy, man of the house and the submissive bottom gets the unflattering titles slut, whore, tramp....
cam1972 Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 Because we are. Because they are. It's how it works. If bottoms are slut/whores, then tops are slut/whores also. This is what drives me crazy in the gay community. It's ok for the bottom to be called a faggot while the top can be called straight... I know there is a sub-culture where this is popular, but it is becoming the mindset of many I talk with. If you are into fucking men and only men, you are no less a gay man than the man who takes the cock up his ass. To me, that sounds as tho they are ashamed to be gay. Same goes with the topic here. If a bottom is a slut/whore for sleeping around, then so is the top. 2
VersatileBreeder Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 If bottoms are slut/whores, then tops are slut/whores also. This is what drives me crazy in the gay community. It's ok for the bottom to be called a faggot while the top can be called straight... I know there is a sub-culture where this is popular, but it is becoming the mindset of many I talk with. If you are into fucking men and only men, you are no less a gay man than the man who takes the cock up his ass. To me, that sounds as tho they are ashamed to be gay. Same goes with the topic here. If a bottom is a slut/whore for sleeping around, then so is the top. cam1972, I couldn't agree with you more. I think of all the times I would see Craigslist ads with guys claiming they are "straight" and only top. If you ask them if they bottom at all, they reply "no, I'm straight." It's actually kind of funny. Correct me if I'm wrong but the last time I checked, straight guys play with women ONLY. I don't know. Maybe I'm just old fashioned. 1
VersatileBreeder Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 To reply to the OP, I think women have it way worse than gay men that bottom. I've seen plenty of bottom men refer to themselves as sluts, whores, cumdumps, cumsluts, pigs, etc and have pretty much a sense of pride about it. You would never find a woman label herself in such a way. To women, it's derogatory. No woman wants to be called a slut/whore, even if they are one. The double standard takes me back to college, when I can remember any time someone's name came up and if they were notorious for being promiscuous, they were spoken about very differently, depending on if it was a guy or a girl. The girls that slept around were sluts and whores, etc. But a dude that slept around was "the man," macho, a stud, etc. Very, very much a double standard and I'm sure it still is today.
VersatileBreeder Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 And to add a little humor to this thread, one of my favorite comics, the Australian stand-up comedian Jim Jeffries, rationalized the difference between sluts and studs in a hilarious fashion. To quote him, he once said in one of his stand up acts... "Every single time a man sleeps with a lot of women, he's called a stud. But if a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she's called a slut. And people think this is unfair. Nah. It's completely fair. And I'll tell you why, right. Cause it's fuckin' easy to be a slut. It's fuckin' HARD to be a stud. To be a stud, you have to be witty, charming, well dressed, have nice shoes and a fake job. To be a slut, you just have to be... there. There are fat ugly sluts out there. There are no fat ugly studs. I've met slutty dwarves, I've never met a stud dwarf. Maybe in their own realm, but none that have crossed over to our world. And when I say sluts, I don't mean that as a bad word. I love sluts, I fuckin' need 'em in my life, sluts." He goes on to explain the difference between sluts and "nice girls." It's hysterical. Funny as it is though, just like with most observational comedy, there's no denying that there is definitely some truth to it...
seaguy Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 gay guys who refer to themselves as straight or straight acting are usually closet cases. 1
BlindRawFucker Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 If bottoms are sluts and tops are studs, what are we versatile guys?
sinfuljock Posted August 1, 2014 Author Report Posted August 1, 2014 If bottoms are sluts and tops are studs, what are we versatile guys? Lucky? 2
skeptik73 Posted August 1, 2014 Report Posted August 1, 2014 Those of us that take it up the butt.... the more enthusiastic about it we are... that is what slutty is. Topping is part of a necessary biological function. Taking it up the butt is a kind of makeshift solution to satisify the physical need for stimulation of guys who have no sexual interest in females. Bottoms are a sort of willing brainwashees. For the cause. Hopefully, over time, an increasing flood FTMs will make bottoming obsolete. In this light, I don't see it as a double standard.
cam1972 Posted August 2, 2014 Report Posted August 2, 2014 Those of us that take it up the butt.... the more enthusiastic about it we are... that is what slutty is.Topping is part of a necessary biological function. Taking it up the butt is a kind of makeshift solution to satisify the physical need for stimulation of guys who have no sexual interest in females. Bottoms are a sort of willing brainwashees. For the cause. Hopefully, over time, an increasing flood FTMs will make bottoming obsolete. In this light, I don't see it as a double standard. So... I've been brainwashed.... Hmmmm.... Yet.... I never had access to gay porn growing up. Wasn't molested as a child. Didn't even know anything about gay culture. Didn't know the terms top and bottom.. Yet I wondered why it was only women who could date other men and have sex with them... And wanting to have a man inside me... And that was when I was jacking off before I could even ejaculate... So I was very young. Could you please tell me where and when I was brainwashed? I'm not doing anything for the cause. I'm doing it because it feels damn good. Period. I'm sorry... But respectfully... I disagree...
sinfuljock Posted August 2, 2014 Author Report Posted August 2, 2014 So... I've been brainwashed.... Hmmmm.... Yet.... I never had access to gay porn growing up. Wasn't molested as a child. Didn't even know anything about gay culture. Didn't know the terms top and bottom.. Yet I wondered why it was only women who could date other men and have sex with them... And wanting to have a man inside me... And that was when I was jacking off before I could even ejaculate... So I was very young. Could you please tell me where and when I was brainwashed? I'm not doing anything for the cause. I'm doing it because it feels damn good. Period. I'm sorry... But respectfully... I disagree... This exactly
sinfuljock Posted August 2, 2014 Author Report Posted August 2, 2014 And to add a little humor to this thread, one of my favorite comics, the Australian stand-up comedian Jim Jeffries, rationalized the difference between sluts and studs in a hilarious fashion. To quote him, he once said in one of his stand up acts... "Every single time a man sleeps with a lot of women, he's called a stud. But if a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she's called a slut. And people think this is unfair. Nah. It's completely fair. And I'll tell you why, right. Cause it's fuckin' easy to be a slut. It's fuckin' HARD to be a stud. To be a stud, you have to be witty, charming, well dressed, have nice shoes and a fake job. To be a slut, you just have to be... there. There are fat ugly sluts out there. There are no fat ugly studs. I've met slutty dwarves, I've never met a stud dwarf. Maybe in their own realm, but none that have crossed over to our world. And when I say sluts, I don't mean that as a bad word. I love sluts, I fuckin' need 'em in my life, sluts." He goes on to explain the difference between sluts and "nice girls." It's hysterical. Funny as it is though, just like with most observational comedy, there's no denying that there is definitely some truth to it... That was great! thanks! Here's the link if anyone wants some non-sexual entertainment http://youtu.be/qqrJp-EKy-w
CallMeSir Posted August 2, 2014 Report Posted August 2, 2014 This is what drives me crazy in the gay community. It's ok for the bottom to be called a faggot while the top can be called straight... I know there is a sub-culture where this is popular. In all my years I have never seen a sub-culture where a guy who fucks other guys is called straight. A LOT of bottoms on here, BBRT and other sites are self-described "faggots", "whores", "sluts" and "cumdumps" searching for tops who will treat them as such. You cannot separate the emotional and psychological influences that are at the core of everyone of us. Search for what drives you and let others search for what drives them. FWIW, I have always thought that it takes a real man to give up his cunt to another man. 3
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