Stop Cheating?

[drscorpio]

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. You need a man who loves you because you are a promiscuous slut. You can find a man like that; there are lots of them on here. When your boyfriend finds out what you have been doing he is going to be hurt. 

[HMR89]

I was thinking over this a few days ago and here's my answer (I've never cheated on my guy. I certainly enjoy being a cock tease though ): if you're in a relationship, put yourself in your partner's shoes. Would he cheat on you? If so, how would you react? Think from his point of view. Everyone's different and so, you need to put yourself in their shoes. If you feel like you and he have different approaches to life and that cheating is something that you can't control then, be single or date someone who's into the things that you're into. This way you're wasting the life of a guy who loves you because he thinks of you in a certain way. That's because of the IMAGE you've created for him. And you're wasting your own time because you can do all of this without putting him at risk of getting infected by your suitors (indirectly) and he can be with someone who wants the same things he does.

Come clean and let the dust settle. If it does, good and if it doesn't you'll know what to do. Why are you with him if you can't control the urge to cheat on him?
As far as 'love' is concerned, if your love for him isn't strong enough to make you give up your current....indiscretions... then, you need to be alone to figure yourself out first. And I'd say that's what YOU need to do for a while because its obvious that you have no intention to quite cheating on him so far.
I hope this help you

[barehole4use]

The more i think about this discussion the more i have to laugh, I have cheated myself a few times in the past but don't do it anymore because my relationship is now open but i fuck around a lot with guys who have a boyfriend, Sometimes they tell me about it & sometimes it's also an open relationship but i know a few guys who are cheaters. I think at the end of the day if you can't be honest to yourself you have little chance of being honest to the one you love & are just fooling yourselves.

[JJ978]

I could never stop...and no I would never tell!

[eightndeep]

Ive been coupled going on 28 years. Back in olden times when we were first together, I think most gay couples, us included, emulated straight couples aka 'monogamy'. I didnt realize 'the seven year itch' is a real thing, and I started wanting to fuck around in year six. I learned most gay couples we knew (and in DC that was a lot) lived by a sort of 'dont ask dont tell'. That is almost no one was monogomous, just no one admitted it. Monogamous gay couples are RARE. Like people who say they dont watch tv, a large number of gay men who say they dont cheat are lying.

Nowadays, it seems like everybody is 'open' anyways. I wonder if you can't talk plainly to your boyfriend about your sexual needs, or even about your need to have a sex life outside of yours and his, is he really a good boyfriend for you?

The thrill of cheating on the other hand, well that is a fetish or an addiction unto itself. Maybe you hang onto an inappropriate boyfriend for you because the thrill of having someone to cheat on makes sex that much more dangerous and fun?

[fskn]

BF is not open to open relationships or even threesomes He doesn't even like porn with more than two guys. He thinks it's dirty...and he doesn't like dirty. So opening up relationship isn't an option. Well I mean admittedly opening it up.

You obviously enjoy cheating, you've been responsible by getting on PrEP to protect yourself and your BF from HIV, and your BF can't countenance an open relationship, so there really isn't much of a choice. Have fun, keep it discreet, and get tested for STDs regularly!

I went through phases of my domestic partnership/same-sex marriage when I didn't cheat, but this had more to do with lack of opportunity or lack of time than with an intention to stop cheating. He never found out, and I never told until the very end, when it didn't matter amymore.

Now I'm with a wonderul man who is as much a slut as I am. We have a great sex life at home and we're open to playing together as well as apart. We realize that our connection has to do with more than our dicks.

Don't be hard on yourself. You're satisfying a basic human sexual need, you're protecting your BF from the main health risk, and you're protecting him emotionally by keeping it secret.

There is nothing "dirty" about sex with multiple partners. Someday your boyfriend will learn that, when a forbidden cock is about to spurt in his mouth or he is about to breed a stranger's ass. At that point you can talk about opening up the relationship. As others have said, there is never any reason to confess past exploits to him; just couch it in terms of future desires.

Edited October 26, 2014 by fskn

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

Open relationship is the only way to go, especially since mine have often been with verse boys and I'm 99.9% bottom so I can't fill his, well hole.

[Jakelc]

I have had relationships where I have been cheated on and been the one cheating. I was very naive wen I first came out and when I was cheated on it hurt but it opened my eyes. Until very recently I have been quite happy just being a slut, I'm not hurting anyone's feelings and I was happy being single. Now I'm in a relationship with one of my fuck buddies, he knows my addiction to cum and he did all the chasing. He accepts who I am and what I am and has only asked that I include him, tell him what I have done and cut back on the amount of guys I let fuck me, including stopping the sauna. I understand that he will fuck other guys if her wants although at the moment I am the only one but I'm more than happy to hear about him breeding some other cumslut like me. It might sound strange given that it's early days but it's working. I have enjoyed being with him and he is wonderful, I haven't been fucked as much admittedly but I have made up for it with my boyfriend. He knows there are two of my regular fuck buddies that I will never give up and one of those he watches me with anyway. A good friend told me that I am clutching at straws with this relationship but I'm happy. we are both honest with each other and it doesn't feel as limiting, emotionally and sexually, as other relationships I've been in

[fskn]

Now I'm in a relationship with one of my fuck buddies, he knows my addiction to cum and he did all the chasing. He accepts who I am and what I am and has only asked that I include him, tell him what I have done and cut back on the amount of guys I let fuck me, including stopping the sauna. I understand that he will fuck other guys if her wants ...

... I haven't been fucked as much admittedly but I have made up for it with my boyfriend.

You shouldn't give up the sauna if you enjoy it and if he's free to fuck other men. The odd trip to the sauna wouldn't hurt anyone!

[sinfuljock]

So the attempt to stop has been entirely unsuccessful. BF went out of town for almost a week, and I had to entertain myself...

[fskn]

So the attempt to stop has been entirely unsuccessful. BF went out of town for almost a week, and I had to entertain myself...

On the contrary, I'd say it was very successful: you're back in the game, getting your needs met!

[PutridCunt]

I've never cheated in my life - because I never ever was in a relationship where my partner could possibly think of putting limits on whom I am allowed to fuck (and vice versa, actually).

 

In my (maybe too strong) opinion, if a guy dares to insist on you being faithful, cheating is exactly what he deserves. Ok, if he finds out it probably will be painful for him. But important lessons in life tend to be painful.

 

Also, in this particular case - limiting a butt as stunningly gorgeous as one presented by sinfuljock to just a single cock should be considered a crime against humanity.

[Guest 120DaysofSodom]

I was in a relationship for 7 years and from month 1 I was cheating. After awhile, it sort of developed into a fetish.

[sinfuljock]

Completely agree that cheating is a fetish for me. I love getting fucked and loaded...but cheating while doing it makes it even hotter...and the best is when the guy fucking me is also cheating.