To Bareback or Not to Bareback?

[hairytop90069]

I'm top guy who has been barebacking for awhile now, but I'm still not fully comfortable with the risk of becoming HIV Poz. Up until now, I have not tested Poz, but I am aware (intellectually) that there is a likely risk of HIV even if I only top (which is the case for me). Emotionally however, I feel very drawn to barebacking. It feels primal to me. It really turns me on & I have taken those risks because of that.

I am reaching out to you other men who might have had this similar conflict. How did it resolve for you? What advice if any do you have regarding this kind of conflict?

I appreciate any discussion with guys who have been in this place. I think I need to figure it for myself so there's no longer a conflict about it.

Thanks

[bed10]

Was the same, barebacking is primal, intimate n connects sexual partners in everyday... I was ok till someone I thought was a boyfriend kindly omitted to telling me he was not only pox, but also scrubbing his ass up deliberately to convert me as a vers top... In short, you could get away with it forever, but itll only take one fuck up or someone else who's fucked up to spoil the party... That said, it's not the end of the world, just means you've got to be more careful with your choices...

[slutboy30]

Here's what I think. We're lucky to live in a time where STDs including HIV either have cures of really good treatments. I am neg, but from what it seems like, you can be poz and still live a totally normal life. So what is so risky about HIV?

Barebacking is natural and healthy. It is primal and after all, we humans are just animals too. And unlike heteros, we don't actually get pregnant from raw sex. We're lucky. We can fuck raw all day and night have see no consequence.

I say fuck raw as much as you can. If you become poz, get your ass on treatment and fuck more. 'Nuf said.

[bed10]

Well said )

[versastud]

An answer to you by way of a few questions, hairytop90069..

You are neg and don't want to become poz. (I've been poz since 1985..)

OK..

The question. Are you an exclusive top, or do you bottom also?

[hairytop90069]

An answer to you by way of a few questions, hairytop90069..

You are neg and don't want to become poz. (I've been poz since 1985..)

OK..

The question. Are you an exclusive top, or do you bottom also?

Hey Versastud-

I am an exclusive top. I don't enjoy bottoming (from the few times I tried it years ago), so I never do it. Just doesn't get me off.

Great to hear your POV since you have been Poz since 1985. How has your journey been?

[hairytop90069]

Was the same, barebacking is primal, intimate n connects sexual partners in everyday... I was ok till someone I thought was a boyfriend kindly omitted to telling me he was not only pox, but also scrubbing his ass up deliberately to convert me as a vers top... In short, you could get away with it forever, but itll only take one fuck up or someone else who's fucked up to spoil the party... That said, it's not the end of the world, just means you've got to be more careful with your choices...

That's unfortunate, bed10. Your point is taken. It's always a gamble each & every time. So, are you Poz now? And if so, for how long? How has that been for you?

[hairytop90069]

Here's what I think. We're lucky to live in a time where STDs including HIV either have cures of really good treatments. I am neg, but from what it seems like, you can be poz and still live a totally normal life. So what is so risky about HIV?

Barebacking is natural and healthy. It is primal and after all, we humans are just animals too. And unlike heteros, we don't actually get pregnant from raw sex. We're lucky. We can fuck raw all day and night have see no consequence.

I say fuck raw as much as you can. If you become poz, get your ass on treatment and fuck more. 'Nuf said.

I hear you, slutboy30. Have you always felt this way? Or did you once have reservations/conflict about it like I do? I will say however that some Poz men have cautioned me that HIV is manageable but still life altering, even today. I think that is a bit of a hang up for me.

Thanks to all you guys. It's great to have a place to have this discussion without judgment from others. I tend to be less impulsive and more analytical - I think that's why I've had to wrestle with the issue. Helps me to talk it through with guys who understand & have experience around it.

[slutboy30]

I hear you, slutboy30. Have you always felt this way? Or did you once have reservations/conflict about it like I do? I will say however that some Poz men have cautioned me that HIV is manageable but still life altering, even today. I think that is a bit of a hang up for me.

Thanks to all you guys. It's great to have a place to have this discussion without judgment from others. I tend to be less impulsive and more analytical - I think that's why I've had to wrestle with the issue. Helps me to talk it through with guys who understand & have experience around it.

I wasn't always of this opinion. I used to think getting HIV would be the worst thing. I was always very attracted to raw sex though. I'd see a guy getting bred in porn and my whole body would get horny. So I started talking to guys in the scene and by proxy meeting poz guys and almost all of them said that they still live normal lives, they just take a pill everyday. I think maybe someone who became poz in the 80's would have a much different perspective because they've been though the shitty treatments which probably left them feeling negatively about their status. These days we don't have to deal with that. You get on a treatment plan and more likely than not you'll be just fine.

When I become poz (considering how much raw cum I take in my hole, I am certain it will happen) that is what I will do. Get on treatment and live my life the same as I did before.

[BC_Bottom]

Bareback sex is highly addictive. Once you start is is nearly impossible to go back to condoms.

So, from what toy wrote it is probably already too late to stop hairytop90069.

I say enjoy the ride.

[uncut23]

As a bottom, I'd have to say that if you are OK with the risks, there are plenty of holes out there who would much prefer the chance to take your load

[Slut4anyload]

You are on the BB track and you will never go back so try to enjoy it without fear. Only you can decide what risk you are comfortable with, but you have to accept the risk and stop worrying about it.

[hungry_hole]

I used to think that I was at risk for HIV because I was a very hungry BB bottom (taken hundreds of loads). But a year or so ago one of my BB top fuckbuddies notified me that he had pozed. We had definitely fucked while he was poz but I never got infected. According to him he probably infected from fucking cum-filed holes.

I haven't used a condom in 15 years and I doubt I'll ever have sex with a condom again. I really prefer not to get fucked rather than having to wear a condom.

[bbottom26]

Here's what I think. We're lucky to live in a time where STDs including HIV either have cures of really good treatments. I am neg, but from what it seems like, you can be poz and still live a totally normal life. So what is so risky about HIV?

Barebacking is natural and healthy. It is primal and after all, we humans are just animals too. And unlike heteros, we don't actually get pregnant from raw sex. We're lucky. We can fuck raw all day and night have see no consequence.

I say fuck raw as much as you can. If you become poz, get your ass on treatment and fuck more. 'Nuf said.

that basically about covers it haha. look, while maybe less likely to get stds when topping you are still at risk so you've got to make a decision: wear condoms every time from now on? or throw your hands up and enjoy a lil skin on skin? up to you.