Any straight guys been pozzed?

[Rubberpoz]

I am married, but started to view gay porn. Overtime I wanted to see what it would be like with a man, I started to look for guys to meet, just to explore. The gay community was so open and full of guys looking for sex, it was a whole new world to me. At first I tried topping then  tried bottoming -  took a load, guess what happened …pozzed.  
I am still not sure where to go with this, no woman will have me, and I’m don’t think I’m actually gay, 
So I am lost, and I don’t know what to do at this point. 

[BootmanLA]

1 hour ago, Rubberpoz said:

I am married, but started to view gay porn. Overtime I wanted to see what it would be like with a man, I started to look for guys to meet, just to explore. The gay community was so open and full of guys looking for sex, it was a whole new world to me. At first I tried topping then  tried bottoming -  took a load, guess what happened …pozzed.  
I am still not sure where to go with this, no woman will have me, and I’m don’t think I’m actually gay, 
So I am lost, and I don’t know what to do at this point. 

There's a lot to unpack here.

You're married, but "no woman will have you"? Seems like one woman will. Are you looking for other women while still married to your wife? If so, that might be more of a problem, actually, than being poz, because an awful lot of women aren't interested in a married man.

Your profile says you're a bottom, but you say here that you took one load and now you're poz, and you don't even think you're gay. If you're not gay, you're not a bottom. One bottoming experience does not a bottom make.

And all this came about because you "started to view gay porn" - which I guess just fell into your laptop unbidden and unwanted, right? - so you started trying to meet guys because gay men are generally more open about sex, not because that "gay porn" turned you on, but because you "wanted to see what it would be like" with a man.

And this is your first post on this site, and yet you've already identified enough with the leather and rubber communities enough to choose a handle reflecting both those AND your "recent" pozzing status - communities that actual gay men often have lots more hangups about exploring (but not the straight married man).

Color me unconvinced, at best, but on the assumption that this is all 100% true:

1. Figure out your marriage first. That's a shit-ton more important than anything else.

2. Accept that, if you're straight, yes, some women won't want to have sex with you, even if you're on meds and undetectable. There are gay men who won't have sex with undetectable poz men. Nobody owes us sex - we accept a smaller pool of options, and we move on.

3. If you continue to pursue men for sex, consider that, at best, you may be bisexual and not purely straight. I've literally never known any completely straight man so curious about what gay men do, having sex, that they would bottom for fucking just to find out, and in any event, you said yourself you enjoyed the attention and the vibe and the porn. That's a sign of at least bisexuality (or pansexuality, for the more modern among us), not heterosexuality.

4. Figure out what you want - a man (or men), because men are more comfortable with casual sex? A woman, so you can settle down into a reasonable approximation of a standard heterosexual pairing? A wife that lets you explore your interest in men? Once you decide what you WANT, you can see whether it's reasonable to find it out there. But whatever it is, in a city the size of Toronto, you should be able to find it.

[Pozme1981]

I am married to a woman and I am a bb bottom and wife plays bb with men it’s more fun and feels better to us bb 

[Bimarried001]

I am married to a woman for over 30 years. I’m a bottom and I’ve been poz (I believe) for as long as I’m married and my wife still has no clue I’m bi. 
Yes she knows I’m poz (she is as well) but I convinced her that I got it from female prostitutes. 
 

[GreedyBBbttm]

On 6/29/2023 at 6:52 PM, Barebacker831 said:

I’m married to a woman, and I pozzed her because I take anon loads almost daily and never got tested. 

Married to a woman for ten years I’ve been blowing loads in random holes and accepting any and every load I could deep in my hole no questions asked haven’t been tested since 2012 

[austin_submale]

On 1/22/2021 at 1:42 PM, austin_submale said:

I am a married guy who is a bb bottom.  I go to the bookstore booths and theater and also sometimes meet guys from various other sites.  Not poz yet as far as I know, but I refuse no load and I don't get tested.

 

 

Still the same for me a year around a year and a half later...

 

[Guest]

On 1/21/2021 at 3:44 PM, bocini said:

I know of two pozz guys locally that were married and straight. But came out when they were pozzed. Same basic story. The wife closed her legs after a couple years of marriage.  They both wanted sex. Hit the beats and basically with in 3 years pozzed. Sad thing is i really do not think either is truly gay. But no choice now for them.

men adapt to their environment.