fantasy is way better than reality

[1000GUYS]

i just reached 100 guys... i mean, i had sex with 100 guys in my lifetime and reached that goal this week... but what annoys me is that when im in the club, sex club, sauna etc, i dont get as horny as i get when im here reading the storys... tbh i only had orgasm once during all that time. I watch these whores and cumdumps have lots of pleasure, orgasms and etc... why dont i have the same? why dont I enjoy as much as they do?? whats wrong? i can for sure lay down and have as much as 10 guys fucking me but i dont get physical pleasure, i dont get hard... i feel anxious and dirty

[jeff238]

Im the same way. Any sex doesnt do it for me unless im mentally engaged. More mental than visceral i guess.  That doesnt make anything "wrong" with us, you just like what you like. I would suggest not forcing yourself. Just look around until you make a connection with someone. It may not happen every time you go to a certian place either.

Just my 2 cents...

 

[Guest]

Imagination is always the top sexual attraction for me - more important than looks, muscles or dick size. There's gotta be a mental connection (and kissing too). Otherwise, I'm much happier bating with porn and my own sick, twisted thoughts at home.

[Close2MyBro]

Maybe you're overexposed to sex and you've become desensitized from it. Try taking a break and see if that re-energizes your sexual desire.

[LetsPOZBreed]

Also, understand that fantasy is all your own doing.  You can have fantasies about how you envisage your sexual experiences going, but the reality is heavily dependent on one factor that you can't replicate when you're home alone:  the other guy(s).  Sometimes you can be pleasantly surprised, other times you can be disappointed.  

Wonder if you need to reset your own expectations of what might happen in a real-life hookup?  

[UpstateNYexplorer]

Fantasy is always going to trump reality because it allows us to meet the high expectations we crave to be met but often never are. I thinking toning down these expectations would help a lot as the disappointment of not having these expectations met just leaves you kind of empty inside.

[evilqueerpig]

In my experience, the opposite is true.