First Time Nerves

[NJBiGuy]

How did you get up the nerve to get bred the first time. I don’t think there’s anything I desire more sexually than for someone to breed me, so know we have that bond. I have a friend that we fuck raw, but for some reason I always get nervous about him cumming inside me. We’ve been fucking off and on for over 20 years, so I know him and let’s face it, he’s fucking me raw anyway, so I can’t figure out why I can’t commit. 
 

Any advice on getting out of my own head. At this point if feel like I owe it to him to let him be my first. 

[BootmanLA]

10 hours ago, NJBiGuy said:

How did you get up the nerve to get bred the first time. I don’t think there’s anything I desire more sexually than for someone to breed me, so know we have that bond. I have a friend that we fuck raw, but for some reason I always get nervous about him cumming inside me. We’ve been fucking off and on for over 20 years, so I know him and let’s face it, he’s fucking me raw anyway, so I can’t figure out why I can’t commit. 
 

Any advice on getting out of my own head. At this point if feel like I owe it to him to let him be my first. 

This is a tough one. If you're essentially monogamous with each other (I'm reading between the lines here), or at least you two don't have bareback sex with anyone else, then risks are low - not zero, by any means, but low. Go on PrEP, recognize that it works, and just tell him up front not to warn you he's about to cum and not to pull out when he does. Once you've done it once, or a few times, you'll find it easier.

But if you are NOT limited for raw fucking to one another, I can understand a little hesitancy - even though pulling out is not a guarantee of safety. Again, get on PrEP. There's no reason not to, unless you have a wife or live-in girlfriend that you'd have a hard time explaining it to (and even then, unless they're privy to your finances and/or health paperwork, you don't have to keep the medication where they can see it). 

All that said, there's no shame in NOT letting someone cum inside you. Regardless of what you read on here, it's YOUR call what you allow to happen, and if you're not comfortable with it, maybe that's a sign you aren't ready for that, at least not yet. 

[theplayerking]

Even if you’re been fucking raw, getting bred is crossing a big emotional and psychological line. Before I went on PrEF, I would get caught up in the moment and fuck raw but never knowingly got bred. I recommend going on PrEP.

[Pigforcum]

Go on Prep and start taking loads. It's so much fun