Self respect and humanity

[BootmanLA]

I would just throw out, for consideration, that for a lot of members of this site, the whole thing is one big masturbation exercise, and they get turned on writing things like "he treated me like worthless trash for the ten years we were together, and i loved it" when in reality, they'd throw a foot-stomping bitch-slapping screaming hissy fit if "he" failed to text that he was going to be late for dinner.

In other words, not only is the idea of being treated this way a fantasy for some, it's probably largely a fantasy that it even happens at all. As I've written before, there's a wide swath of members here whose every post is some version of "Look at MEEEEEEEEEE, Daddy!" - cries for validation in the only way they think this site can provide, by pretending to be the most degenerate, trashiest person on the site - only to be topped shortly thereafter by the next member saying "Me too plus this...". 

I've reached the point of not taking seriously any of these people who claim to enjoy that kind of treatment. I'm sure a small percentage of them are real, but honestly, there are too many fakes to bother with sorting through to find the ones who might genuinely benefit from support.

[littlemarcus]

i think it comes back to the "safe, sane and consensual" thing. 

In public / real-life i'm confident and have no self-esteem issues. 

In sexual play, i love being at the absolute bottom and being treated that way. i love being humiliated and degraded, i love it when a Top treats me as an object,  mere fuckmeat, when they use me for their pleasure without any consideration of their own. 

If a Top knows that someone has low self-esteem or self-respect in the first place and uses sex to push them down even further though, then that's cruising over into abusive behavior in my opinion.