Ageism in sex clubs / saunas

[NicNorth]

On 2/16/2025 at 9:52 PM, jd13 said:

Early 40s here. I agree that confidence helps things along. Me I tend these days to lock my towel away in my locker and cruise the place naked. In a place where everyone is nearly naked, being the most naked guy is a lot of fun, and being playful about it gets attention. Ever since I was young I have always tried to give my ass away in saunas to whoever wants it. The joy of sex is just too fantastic tonot be shared with everyone. 

But yeah, I get the ageism thing and it is bullshit. These days, at my age, I tend to focus on the guys who actually want to fuck me, regardless of age, rather than the guys who I'd really love to fuck me. The number of twinks in saunas and batrhhouses who just seem to want to parade and be picky. And be rude to us oldies. Well, honey, you'll be us one day.

Karma's a bitch. I've always thought: be sharing, be generous with your body - and now I am in my 40s, it's givedn me a very carefree attitude about the ageist young ones. They bore me. Older guys often fuck better anyway. All that experience pointed straight into my ass. Fuck yes 😉

(Sorry if this is just random bits. The ADHD is particularly strong with me today!)

Completely agree with all your points particularly when you say concentrate on those who want to play.  Also reminded me of an old saying - ‘youth is wasted on the young’.

[DarkBone]

As a young black guy in my 20s  - 30s I found other guys my age to be very picky and kind of bitchy,  but I could fuck all the guys I wanted if I was willing to look outside my age category.  

[NicNorth]

I’m closer to 70 than 60.  I do find I have acquired the super power of invisibility with many younger guys.  Plenty of guys are still up to play however and confidence and friendliness helps.  Rudeness is ugly and makes the rude person what ever their age very unattractive.

[Poles&Holes]

I can be guilty of ageism sometimes. I am late 30's and love my older guys so I tend to ignore the youngers.

[Cuteguy69]

Me i play with a daddy before young one

the sex is great and long session are Even better

[jd13]

1 hour ago, NicNorth said:

Completely agree with all your points particularly when you say concentrate on those who want to play.  Also reminded me of an old saying - ‘youth is wasted on the young’.

Ha yeah I've heard that phrase. I was lucky in that respect, I had something of a mentor/lover/fuck buddy when I was 14 who taught me to enjoy my youth as much as possible, and to share it sexually. Passed me around his friends, taught me so much about life too. He turned me into the promiscuous, sharing guy I am today, and I'm so grateful for that.

Anyway, the point is, because he gave me a 'heads up' about youth while I was still very young, I now look back on my youth and think 'well I partied my youth, played it and used it beautifully and fully'. I did everything youth is supposed to when young, didn't waste it (ha, but got wasted!) and I have no regrets 😄 

[jd13]

Also re: ageism in saunas, sex clubs and in (gay) life in general. Something that the right wing media seem to hate: some younger guys are super into older guys. That's always good to see.

[SpectreAgent]

1 hour ago, jd13 said:

Also re: ageism in saunas, sex clubs and in (gay) life in general. Something that the right wing media seem to hate: some younger guys are super into older guys. That's always good to see.

I agree. As I get older, I’m always pleasantly surprised to be hit on by guys much younger than myself. I do try to keep in shape as much as I can by working out regularly, though, and maybe that’s the trick? 

[BathhouseCumdumpDC]

At 53, I still get a lot of action at sex clubs, where I am a frequent visitor. I walk around the club completely nude, or I am in my room with face down and ass up. Hole is always lubed and ready to get fucked. The guys who approach me are usually my age or older. The older you get, the harder it is to attract younger guys - there is no denying that - and that is okay with me. I am attracted to men of all (legal) ages, and I give it up freely. When you're older, it's better if you are more open about who you engage with at clubs.

[BlindRawFucker1]

There is nothing wrong with rejecting or being rejected.

 

There is absolutely no reason to be mean, rude or bitchy about it however.

 

A simple “no thank you” and “have a good night” is the polite and humane way to handle things.

 

We all age, may gain weight for reasons beyond our control or could become disabled.

 

Just be nicer people.

 

Who knows, you might not want to fuck him, but he could become a friend.

 

Couldn’t we all use another friend?

[jd13]

BlindRawFucker1, that is just excellent. Agree 100%, and so well put 😘

[Bbbtmws]

16 hours ago, hntnhole said:

I just hit the darkrooms .... no one can see anything about you, if they even care .... 

One thing about Ft. L. - if you can fuck & breed, they don't give a rats ass how 'experienced' you are.  

I do the same. Have gotten pretty lucky at 321 lately even in the back where there is some light. Seems I get more fucks as I have gotten older and a small bear belly. 

[Throattopman]

For me it's less about looks/age than attitude. You can be 20 or 80 but it's that mode of extreme submission that gets me hard. You can be the best looking guy in the world but one whiff of "bossy bottom" and I'm gone. When I think about some of my best fucks I couldn't even tell you what the man looked like. 

[RawNYTop]

On 2/16/2025 at 8:21 PM, partying.hard said:

I get rejected.  And it used to be humbling.  But these days, I focus my attention of the guys who appear interested in fucking with me. And I’ve learned that “no” is ok. It’s not my place to question why.

Who would reject you? Especially with that whale of a cock! 

[partying.hard]

42 minutes ago, RawNYTop said:

Who would reject you? Especially with that whale of a cock! 

I’m human.  I’m not defined by my cock (but it does have its advantages.  I get rejected like everyone else.  I’m not fit enough.  I’m uncut. I’m not the ethnicity they want.  I’m too old.  I may be partying.  Even at the baths or clubs, I have passed over, even for a quick fuck.

and I’ve learned to be ok with that!