Anyone else notice a big uptick in racist and misogynist rhetoric in cruising?

[tr4veler]

I mostly use sniffies, and I don't know if it's just a vibe or actually an increase, but I feel like since January I've been noticing more and more guys stating preferences that are very racialized and others that are very misogynistic. Things I've noticed:

- a lot more guys explicitly stating racial preferences for partners, in all directions (e.g. no whites, no blacks, but also parties that are black tops/white bottoms only, white bottoms who express a preference for black tops, etc. etc .) or who state their own race in their posts, as though it's part of their own sexual identity (e.g. come fuck my white/asian/latin ass)

- a lot more guys who equate submissive with feminine and female.  Lots more "turn me into your little fem sissy bitch" or the like.  

I'm not trying to yuck anyone's yum, but I do feel like there's a trend here that goes along more broadly with the rise of hate and categorizing people by race, gender, etc ., in the country, and that the pushback I used to see in gay spaces around racial preferences seems to have evaporated, at least in the spaces I've been looking at.

Is this just me? I'm finding this depressing and want to see if it's a bigger trend.

[flipfucknfunguy]

depends on the location, really. Have always seen that type of positioning, but see it less in major cities. 

[tr4veler]

6 hours ago, flipfucknfunguy said:

depends on the location, really. Have always seen that type of positioning, but see it less in major cities. 

Yeah I’m in DC

[viking8x6]

On 9/16/2025 at 12:10 PM, tr4veler said:

- a lot more guys explicitly stating racial preferences for partners, in all directions (e.g. no whites, no blacks, but also parties that are black tops/white bottoms only, white bottoms who express a preference for black tops, etc. etc .) or who state their own race in their posts, as though it's part of their own sexual identity (e.g. come fuck my white/asian/latin ass)

- a lot more guys who equate submissive with feminine and female.  Lots more "turn me into your little fem sissy bitch" or the like.  

I'm not trying to yuck anyone's yum, but I do feel like there's a trend here that goes along more broadly with the rise of hate and categorizing people by race, gender, etc ., in the country, and that the pushback I used to see in gay spaces around racial preferences seems to have evaporated, at least in the spaces I've been looking at.

YMMV (never more true than in the online hookup world).

I completely agree about the prevalence of fem/female presentation, though I see it even much more so on Grindr than on Sniffies. To the point where (apparently) cis women have profiles on there. And there has been an increasing prevalence of male-presenting guys who are explicitly and exclusively seeking transfem, CD, or fem-presenting male. I don't see this as misogynistic so much as an unexpected consequence of the increased visibility of trans (and especially transfeminine) people, enhanced by the echo chamber effect of the internet (where prevalence of a particular meme in an environment causes people interested in the meme to post more and to seek out that environment).

I also see a vastly higher proportion of race-oriented content here in majority-black Baltimore (where I moved a year ago) than I did in West Virginia (90+% white by my estimate).

[dirtyarizona]

No, I haven't noticed that at all.

[swoll]

They're trying to decide people more than ever now.

And unfortunately, they're doing a really good job of it.

[will_zeis23]

Given im a host only guy I get a lot of chub and size bias. I get over that. But I live in the SF bay area so its not usually good for racists around here.