topblkmale

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4 minutes ago, blackrobe said:

Consensual Non-Consent.

Another oxymoron. 

🤷🏾‍♂️

What is CNC?

I’ve heard of bi/DL but str8 guy on DL seems like an oxymoron. 
 

Lodge New York

Sex parties for men in New York City
All events are open-door (all men are welcome). 18+

[think before following links] https://www.lodgeny.com/

On 6/25/2025 at 2:45 AM, RubberAustria said:

A twinks with a nice smile and perfect white teeth.

Olds with a grin and no teeth.

2 hours ago, blackrobe said:

Interesting. Only Xtra and Unlimited are available in iOS. Even looking at Grindr's web subscription page there is no mention of Core or Plus. Seems like they are old plans that if you didn't get them at the time, you can't now. 

After doing some research, it looks like just 7% of the overall monthly user base of Grindr have any kind of subscription (including paying for boost) at all. No wonder they are putting the screws to users to raise more revenue. Annoying the crap out of 93% of monthly users doesn't seem like a great way to turn them into subscribers. 

Grindr Core & Grindr Plus plans:

• From an iOS device go to the App Store.
• Tap on your account icon in the upper right corner.
• Tap Subscriptions >> Grindr >> See All Plans>

23 hours ago, topblkmale said:

 

Grindr

Four dollars and ninety-nine cents a month.

Yes. $4.99/month.

 

19 hours ago, blackrobe said:

Huh? Do you have some grandfathered in plan?

Grindr XTRA is $19.99 month

Grindr Unlimited is $39.99 per month

There's Grindr Core which only removes ads and Grindr Plus.

On 6/22/2025 at 5:45 PM, topblkmale said:

 

a4a is mainly for mature guys looking to join a book club, knitting group, a bid whist partner or take long walks in the park

 

And how could I forget: cuddling. Especially those PNW profiles.

6 minutes ago, Tiboer said:

What hookup sites are worth paying for?

Grindr

Four dollars and ninety-nine cents a month.

Yes. $4.99/month.

1 hour ago, NWUSHorny said:

Maybe the HorseMarkets work because they keep out all of the sides, slut shamers, gear models, posers and all the other types of guys that don't like fucking, that make up the majority of bathhouse goers here and wind up being cockblockers? Has anyone been to one in the PNW and one in somewhere like Chicago, San Francisco or Los Angeles where guys are more into bathhouse/sexclub group action to do a comparison?

I've been to Club Z in Seattle in the early 2000s. I walked there from downtown. I remember walking up a hill to get there. It was nothing to write home about.

Now Los Angeles was my go to. I miss Midtowne Spa in DTLA. It was filled with sexy Latin and black guys. Midtowne had not one, but two darkrooms for group action. Plus the rooftop area which functioned as a third darkroom at night time. There was also 1350 near Long Beach and a hidden gem: KLYT bathhouse also in DTLA which catered to Latin men as well as homeless guys from nearby Skid Row.

21 minutes ago, Justaholeff said:

If a top has HepC then how does washing his dick keep it from being spread?

The top doesn't have HepC in this scenario. It's spread from hole to hole via the top's dick.

This was discussed in the HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues Forum where I learned it.

Perhaps the two local bottoms in the OP's post read that thread also.

a4a is mainly for mature guys looking to join a book club, knitting group, a bid whist partner or take long walks in the park

The local "go wash your dick first'" bottoms don't want to contract HepC and perhaps are aware of some local cases.

I can't blame them.

But they shouldn't be buck naked - ass up at the gay bathhouse during Pride week if that's the concern.

On 4/23/2025 at 7:28 PM, JesseAaron1385 said:

When I started having sex I was traditionally the bottom. I feel this can be attributed to the fact that I am a passive and submissive person rather than an actual desire to be a bottom. Well, at this point in my life I can't bottom due to a combination of various reasons and situations so I am trying to become more of a top in order to maintain a satisfying sexual life. However, I am very shy about topping and have very little confidence when I do get the opportunity, I either cum too quickly or I tend to get lost in my head and overthink every little detail (finishing too quickly, making myself last longer, is my partner enjoying, ways I can be better, what I can do differently, etc) which results in performance anxiety. I have tried:

• Numbing spray with lidocaine - didn’t really do anything
• Numbing lube with benzocaine - more numbed their ass than my dick or numbed too much and couldn’t keep my wood
• Jerking off and cumming before sex so I’m not so sensitive
• Slowing down and pausing to prevent myself from cumming
• Wearing a condom - made it impossible for me to stay hard and cum
• Thinking of distractions/daydreaming - this just leads to me losing my wood
• Focusing on other things around me like music or the tv
• Wearing a cockring - they are generally uncomfortable and make my balls ache but this only results in me once again losing my wood
• Antidepressants - didn’t really do anything
• Downers - just resulted in not being fully hard and making it impossible for me to cum
• Stimulants - didn’t affect my ejaculation any other than making me sweat and feel like I was running a marathon trying to catch my breath
• Being stoned - this was fun but did nothing other than make me easily distracted
• Being drunk - fun but sloppy and usually prevents me from getting completely hard or cumming
• Other pharmaceutical categories like benzos, muscle relaxers, steroids - benzos do nothing until I take enough to fall asleep, muscle relaxers do nothing until I take enough to feel jello-y, steroids not sure what these would do but I’ve tried em
• Poppers - these just make my head swim until I either get nauseated or go soft
• Pain stimuli - to distract me from the feelings of pleasure
• Frequently changing positions - to differ the stimuli as well as have a mini break from the stimulation
• Relaxing myself/muscles to slow down climax - breathing evenly, releasing any tension I’m holding, basically meditating while I have sex
• Tensing my muscles - squeezing, tensing, clenching my leg, groin, and ass muscles in order to prevent myself from shooting

It seems like everything I try either doesn’t work or does the opposite, making me feel impotent, and neither of those results help me gain confidence in myself or my actions. It's really starting to get to me…does anyone have any suggestions or advice?

Let me help you.

You left the most important thing off your list for a top.

Attraction.

18 hours ago, Poz50something said:

I think he’s in Canada? Not sure which city. 
and it might be a bit difficult to deport someone who’s not in your country….

Hungarian

11 hours ago, Poz50something said:

I think he’s in Canada? Not sure which city. 
and it might be a bit difficult to deport someone who’s not in your country….

He's visiting Jackson Hole, Wyoming, USA

His dirty talk is sexy with that accent.

Eastern European maybe. But deport him to Canada.

The guy is not even an American. Maybe his culture is different.

Don't tash each odder.

Deport this guy.

26 minutes ago, BlueSaphir said:

And what has exactly this old mentally unwell president accomplished!? 😂

Sleepy Joe or Orange Man Bad?

3 hours ago, FJLinNYC said:

I’ve been to the Milk Chocolate parties before. They are basically sex parties that are for black men and their admirers.

The guy that runs them is incredibly nice and the people that go are always a good vibe. 
 

Which Milk Chocolate party are you referring to?

I'm honestly wondering if you might be referring to the old Jacks of Color parties.

I have never heard the host of the Milk Chocolate parties described as incredibly nice.

4 hours ago, RawNYTop said:

Is this like the old Jacks of Color parties?

Not at all.

On 6/17/2025 at 2:31 PM, Tiboer said:

 

 

What did you first try or see at a bathhouse?

 

 

Serosorting.

I learned how to tell the difference between HIV+ and HIV- guys.

Answer: You can't.

On 9/13/2021 at 10:36 PM, mascraw said:

my 1st time in rambles was in 1978 - old school aids here - lol 

My first time at the Rambles was in 1994.

MilkChocolateNYC

NYC's Hot Interracial Men's Play Party

[think before following links] https://milkchocolatenyc.com/nyc

Sounds like one of the guys used an alcohol-based cleaning wipe on his dick before you sucked it.

Maybe he got sucked and/or fucked someone's ass. Then 'cleaned' off his dick with one of those wipes...and you sucked him.

I know from experience those wipes cause a burning sensation on the penis. Especially the head.

On 3/3/2025 at 3:57 PM, theplayerking said:

In a big gay Mecca like New York, it really depends on your looks and your willingness to put a face pic in your ad. If you’re young and hot you can put an ad on Sniffies and have guys lined up around the block waiting to load you up. If you’re average, you’ll have a hard time competing with the gorgeous muscle cumdumps (including minor porn models) offering their fuck holes for free. 

On 3/6/2025 at 5:29 PM, Eastvillagefun said:

I second that. I've had a hard time being a cumdump here but go to other cities and I can get a good number of tops to load my ass

In New York you have to situate yourself in a busy working-class area outside of Manhattan. New Yorkers rarely travel outside of their borough for sex.

Atlanta is a way better option since its a car-centric city and already has the reputation for being sleazy.