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I never met him myself but my (female) flatmates had a classmate they called the "cottaging fascist".  Fascist was probably an exaggeration, cottaging certainly wasn't.  He would tell them all the details as they ate their formal dinners. 

Does it make much difference in the end?  Unless Im missing something, we all have a roof over our heads - and in fact live more comfortably than people have done ever. More fucks and less chance of being killed off in some war than pretty much anyone ever.   It's not all bad.  Mind you, Trump v Biden isn't one I envy you.   I'd rather have Xi Jinping (and I'd vote for him too...)

It's. a bit far back for me to remember, but I was stealthed a couple of times when I - really - didn't want raw.
Later when I just said I didn't want raw, it was dead easy.  Like others have said -  take condom off, fuck, cum inside.  No complaint, just an appearance of loving it
Ultimately any top who tried hard enough could probably do it any time. It always turned me on and seemed a compliment even when it scared me.   Only a very few got dragged along to the STD doctor - feigning (as I now suspect) innocence.  At the time though both me and the doc seemed to believe it.

2017.  Bareback.  

I think I may be struggling to find a Craigslist replacement.

Everything can be reclaimed. Everything takes its meaning from context.  It is not insult which makes reclaiming difficult either - insult makes it worth the challenge.

What makes it difficult is when the term makes you a laughing stock.  It's why - in my view - the right response to things that annoy us (racism etc) is not to take offence.  It's to laugh at them as absurd. 

Hyacinth Bucket and Roderick Spode are the answer to our problems [sorry can't think of any less British or more up to date examples - I was probably  socially distant long before we had to be]

Like others, I don't myself use it much - I don't mind it either.  They can call what they like as long as they fuck me (within reason - the guy who insisted I on calling me a young girl -- was a bit creepy (but imaginative - I'm a bloke and the best part of 50 ). I ignored it - didn't stop the fuck, obviously.

Like others have said, it's not a problem you'd encounter with me.

Even in the days when I didn't do bb, I found it so hot when people did somehow manage to cum in me.  I'd pretend to be pissed off - but I suspect wasn't fooling anyone.

Like others have said too the "safe only" bottom who does take loads is a far more familiar figure.  Also, say what you like about pulling out, it can make for some hot vids afterwards...

[think before following links] https://www.xtube.com/video-watch/creampie-white-pussy-by-mistake-18624412

My bf was the first guy to fuck me bb. To this day he thinks I’ve made that up - I was way too slutty not to have done it before apparently.  So I’m guessing he was ok with it - and I took it as a great compliment (at least the slut bit, not the liar). 
Like others have said quite a lot of guys like a slut - especially when it’s a surprise. 

My guess is slightly different - revenge against those he saw as not taking him seriously as a man.  He was a Indonesian Catholic guy, short and described by those who met him with words such as "meek" and "inoffensive".  One guy who got a bad vibe and escaped later said " he seemed so small and inoffensive that I thought I would have no problems if I had to take him on."

I reckon it was about getting back at those he thought didn't take him seriously or treated him as small and inoffensive - showing that he would have the last laugh.  The fact that he went for straight guys (who might be more dismissive as they weren't on the pull) might suggest this too.  A sort of power and revenge thing.

I know you're not meant to say this sort of thing, but he couldn't have raped me - but, if my guess is right, that would probably mean he wouldn't have wanted to either.

I'm Catholic too, no baggage that I'm aware of.    I thought it was funny (once I'd worked out I wasn't going mad).   I've got a Theology degree too if that helps.  

By "s" do you mean Sarah Palin?

Doesn’t it depend on context?  Nobody can object to “black bitches” if you’re selling labrador puppies or “rape” if it’s your crop for next year. 
I don’t think banned words would really work either - “sex with miners” etc etc

...or having to explain that blindfolds and long whatsapp exchanges are alternatives. They can have one or the other but not both.

99hackneyguy on xtube.  unfortunately my tranny friend whose load I take quite a lot has got new bf so those cant be public any more.  Good at filming too. Used my leg and foot which was up in the air to keep my face out of shot when filming the cum in my hole.  I agree with what others have said about showing face.  I just feel a bit silly wearing mask etc

a petulance of grindrs...

a familiarity of fuckbuddies..?

Straight pub at closing time? 

No, disgusting.   Glad that Craigslist has shut down too.  Feel so much better when I don't have cum in my hole.   And of course I prefer the happy memories to the video.

Obviously nothing is going to be CL but Locanto seems quite promising... 

Apparently, what we really regret when we look back on our lives is what we don't do. 

Try and you might like?

I'm always amazed at how hot the guys are who come along to fuck always seem to be.  You would expect mingers.  You get superhot.  Or at least that's been my experience.

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"MILD TO WILD":  I can't count the number of times I've seen someone's profile say: ... "into everything Mild to Wild"  ...  followed by a long list of everything they aren't into.

Funnily they seem that interested in the "mild" end of the spectrum either.  Come to that, what is mild sex? 

"Always do what you are afraid to do."  - Ralph Waldo Emerson.

There are some obvious exceptions but I don't see this as one.

It's the lack of imagination that's depressing. So stereotypical, so predictable what's going to happen and who is who. As formulaic as John Nettles in Midsomer Murders - and about as exciting too.  Don't you ever find yourself thinking "why am I watching this?"   It doesn't have to be crap - but for some reason it always is.

I know there's only so much they can do - but they don't even do that.   Miss Marple and straight porn prove that better is possible, limitations notwithstanding.

Both/and I say. Never seen it as an either or.  Anon is super hot.  Yet if you just want to end the day with some cum inside, reliable regular (who may have started off as an anon fuck) is usually the best bet.
Hottest of all - apologies I know I've mentioned before - was when guy who was a (not particularly close) friend replied to my slutty CL post for anon not knowing it was me.  I sent him requested facepic. He pointed out he knew me and said who he was.  I pointed out that he still wanted a fuck.  Everyone happy 🙂 -
Admittedly I don't think he's spoken to me since - but I'll settle for that.

On 9/21/2019 at 1:08 AM, Guest POZitiveBoyZ said:

This is AWFUL and prohibited 🚫 by LAW!

At least to me, "AWFUL" seems the better argument.  The law's interaction with human desire is never entirely satisfactory.  Don't get me wrong - I don't disagree with most of what you say - I'd just put it in consent and trust terms. I wouldn't do something the other guy hadn't agreed to, because, apart from anything else, it wouldn't turn me on.  I wouldn't be giving him something he wanted but taking something he probably didn't.
Problem is that when it's the other way around - it's my consent that is the issue and some selfish top ignores my wishes or goes ahead not caring, I would be lying if I said it didn't turn me on.   Some of the hottest encounters I've had may be illegal - I'd have consented if they'd asked.  But I'm still more turned because they didn't. Telling me it's illegal doesn't really help.

It was illegal to be gay once, written consent forms might help from a legal perspective yet only a very few could be turned on by the idea....the whole apparatus of law is a bit of an intruder when it comes to sexual desire.  A necessary intruder, sure but I'd still keep it to a minimum.

Mercifully neither - I'm not given the vote. I was brought up in a world where America meant freedom.  It showed that if you trusted the people and allowed them to go about their business undisturbed you not only had a happier populace, you had a richer and militarily more powerful one too.  It saw off the  dictators of the thirties, the central planners and above all perhaps made politics about "what is the right thing to do?" not just "what's in it for me?" 
It was the envy of the world whether it was the ideals or the money you were after.  Or sex - nutrition and sunshine beat tweed jackets and socialism every day. Of course, not perfectly or without exceptions.
And I know I'm growing old too.  Even so Trump v Biden is as unappealing a choice as it is possible to imagine (ok, I know it could be worse, there's Mike Pence, Nigel Farage, Jeremy Corbyn, Silvio Berlusconi etc). It's  a big country with a lot of very able people.  Surely you can do better than that? A school bully who hasn't grown out of it (whose personal and public definitely do not say small hands to me) and the bloke who nicks Neil Kinnock's speeches  (right down to the childhood memories of Aberystwyth bit). 
Is is just me or is the tone of the debate part of the problem?  Everyone has to believe the other side is corrupt/evil not simpy wrong/mistaken.  Any who isn't thinks sod this, I don't have to take this and leaves.   
What I loathe about Donald Trump is that his default assumption is bad faith and makes accusations of serious wrongdoing for effect.  
But then I think of Biden going to church on Ash Wednesday and getting the priest to use a coalbucket and his entire hand (and not the traditional more modest dab ot ash a little sliver thingie) so that anyone who is Catholic doesn't forget he's one of them  (shudder) ....although funny that, I could have sworn he was an aetheist from Bedwelty.  
And like someone said I only came on here for a wank (eeew now there is horrible thought)

On 8/21/2019 at 10:27 PM, BB4fking said:

over 4 days at Babylon I’ve fucked 30 times at the bathhouse (ie disregarding Grindr and BBRTS hookups in my room)

Wow! You're getting your money's worth.  I agree with your point and ratio - but I'm a bit worried my efforts are statistically insignificant.  My Thai friend who fucks me a lot likes to say it was me who introduced bad habits. Even if it's true, I didn't see much resistance.

Being gay/bi (etc) is about who you fuck. 

Being conservative (etc) is about who you think will run the country best.

They seem obviously different questions to me.

The facts (almost infinite permutations/combinations) seem to confirm it too. Isn’t the real problem our desperate desire to categorise people?

I’ve mentioned “cottaging fascist” before (a nickname for a guy at law school and, I think, self explanatory). It’s an unusual combination, sure, but that’s all. Consistent too if the freedom he believed in was the freedom to take loads in the early hours on Hampstead Heath. Another example might be Oscar Wilde - whose views on the morality of what he was accused of (as opposed to whether he did it) seem closer to those who prosecuted him than those who defend him today. 

I used to think I was straight.  One of only two in my (boys boarding) school in my year who didn't play with guys - the idea of it really repelled me.  Took me ages to work out (a) I did like sex and (b) wasn't straight. Another friend of mine knew he was straight but decided guys were better than nothing. 400 times he reckoned when it was guys or nothing.  None since.  

I don't really see what the the problem is here either. If that's what you like, go  for it.  I wouldn't worry too much about the theory of what they "really" are.  Just see what you like and do it.