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Interesting. How was your roughest fuck if you don't mind sharing?

Maybe a weird question, but I'm sure there must be some experts around. I'm top but I love sucking, and I like sucking tops. However it happens that many guys want to fuck too. Any tips on approaching guys for oral only? I mean, I get some guys that are ok with it or even thrilled by the idea. But many don't. Don't really have a strategy. What does work best for you? Being slutty from the beginning? or do you test the waters? I'm sure it's different for every person, but I'm curious about what other people do.

just curious, you use it as lube frozen?

Thanks for the info, rawfuckr. You're right, it seems other STIs should be more of a conern. I have all my vaccines and do checkups periodically, so i'm not gonna worry about it.

Thanks for all the info. One problem I see with these numbers is that usually it is not clear how the ejaculation went on (outside, face, mouth, throat...), and I've found pretty difficult to find a guy who wants it in the mouth (not that I was really looking though), so maybe most of those blowjobs didn't entail cum in the mouth. I don't know if that's specified somewhere else... I suppose most of the guys in this forum swallows or makes swallow or will do it soon. But I think most guys out there don't (at least in most places where i've lived). Anyway, I think checking periodically for STIs and mantaining good oral health should be enough. I know if I'm sucking a guy a like I'm gonna have him cum in my mouth, and since in most cases I won't really know his status I might probably end up with some poz guy, probably without treatment. So it seems stupid to not take this one, especially if he really is undetectable. Anyway, he didnt reply my last message, maybe he's fed up with me giving him this shit and just wants the blow and not so much drama. Also I will never suck a cock with a condom!! mint or chocolate!! no way!!!!

Thanks for you replies. Do you guys know some statistics like "oral receptive sex is less dangerous than anal insertive sex with condom"? that one's always comforting... Imgameu41, What do you mean it just takes the first time?? The first poz load? After this I'm not sure whether I should ask the status of guys i just intend to blow. I mean, if the risk is so minimal in any circumstance, knowing their status might just make me anxious... Yes, bearbandit, I need to do a check up soon. Also before I decide to go on PreP or not (I think I should...). I tend to have sores in the mouth (biting tongue or cheeks), even if not open and not all the time. Otherwise I think my oral health is ok. So that's also to take into consideration. wow, that is a bold statement i really want to believe. :/

Hi everyone. I think it's the first time i post here. Although i read and try to get info here from time to time. I'll try not to make this a masturbation post, but I need some feedback here. So I'm a neg top, although I haven't been topping much lately for several reasons (including not being so happy about using condoms). Anyway, I enjoy facefucking and love to feed a guy who really wants it. However I also love sucking. Though I suck even less often than topping for another set of reasons. Whatever. Lately I'm approaching guys to blow them. Still nothing has happened, and I also passed on some opportunities, but it is going to start happening and I'm pretty sure I will want to taste their cum in my mouth, although not necessary swallow. I'm pretty ok with that in risk terms, I guess. Being in this situation, I met a greek-god guy online, nice cock, etc. So he likes my cock but reacts when i ask if he likes to get good head, and asks me if i like cum. I say i do, but ask about status and he says he's poz under treatment without viral load. I try to be sensitive about it cos it's the first time it happens to me and i'm not too informed. He tells me he wants an oral sub to please him. I say I like that and he asks if I swallow. I ask about risk and he says it's low risk and to check online (which i already had done). Ok, that's it. Now, I'm thinking: I've read the news about the PARTNER study and stuff like that and seems that undetectable (I guess that's the same as no viral load, right?) guys won't transmit the virus. I also now that oral sex is also a low risk activity per se (few or none documented cases i think? like 1 in 2500? I'm not sure if that 2500 would all be poz though). So if at some point I'm gonna find myself sucking some guys who probably don't really know their status, it seems stupid to not suck an UD guy off (it might be safer), but I also feel pretty anxious and like i'm might be behaving self-destructively. The guy also asked again if i swallow. So i guess he's got some kind of fixation about it too (I understand). I don't know if i could convince him or stop him from feeding me... and anyway is there a significant difference in risk between swallowing or not? It all seems so relative. On the other hand I recently learned about PreP and I'm considering it. For this (probably nor worth it because of minimal risk?), but also for topping. So I might do that before. I just don't want to regret it later or feel scared when he cums. Also I'm thinking, if we like it we might do it again and again and the risk overall would probably be higher. Also he might not actually be undetectable (knowingly or not). And I definitely want to stay neg. I'd accept without thinking if it were someone who I "know" or believe to be neg. And I don't want a poz fetish. I know I'm overthinking it, but I can't help it. I think I know most of the facts, but I still feel unable to see things clearly. Any insight or tip or something? Thanks! tl;dr: an undetectable poz wants to use my mouth and feed me his load, i'm probably irrationally scared (or not), calm me down, thx!