First, to be clear. I believe it's the job of a true bottom to be the reief and focus of his tops pleasure. I dote on my top. Where and how he chooses to cum is 100% up to him. My orgasm isn't important to me and is his choice.
Having said this, my top, my bf is very timid in bed. He takes my moaning for pain. He believes making love should be slow and tender. He never will just pound me roughly
I have tried talking with him about this. My desire to sometimes get a good hard fucking. He's tried on a number occasions, but ha always backs off and ends up slowing things down
It's caused a few disagreements. With him pointing out that I'm there for his pleasure. Which I agree with. And he also says he feels like he would hurt me if he let loose.
How do I unleash the animal in him?