polyglutton

Yes, it is a construct!  From a European/Western/Colonial context: it was only in the late 1880s that the concept of homosexuality was invented. Before this, sexual orientation was not medicalised. 
 

Sexologists and anthropologists show that the majority of humans fall within a spectrum of bisexuality, with extremes of exclusive hetero- or homosexuality as a small minority. 
 

A majority of pre-colonised (by Europeans) indigenous cultures worldwide didn't/don't have norms of exclusive heterosexuality. 
 

I highly recommend these books for more on this:

Sexual Hegemony by Christopher Chitty

When Brooklyn Was Queer by Hugh Ryan

Bad Gays by Huw Lemmey and Ben Miller

Dawn of Everything by David Graeber and David Wengrow

Beautiful! 

7 hours ago, Bottomsub8989 said:

But why is so addictive. I just crave to be totally submissive to males. And still baffles me. 

We evolved for this. Sexuality is a much larger part of human need than our culture or conditioning allows for. 

(😇) try to see if an injectable PrEP like Apretude works better for your side effects

(😈) continue taking all loads regardless

So hot! Please continue

Sorry you're going through this. I would try to see a proctologist if you can. Sometimes a specialist can make all the difference. 

This may be TMI but it might be useful to some:

I first started having sex with men at 22 in 2001. I was really excited to get fucked, since I started arse play already at 12 years old. I had worries about faecal matter, but I guess when I was finally about to get fucked, that worry slipped out of my mind. Back then I’d never heard of douching and I don’t recall it coming up as a practice in any of my web searches on anal play at that time.

It turns out that I was lucky because up until age 33, I’d only had two experiences where there was any faecal matter present when I bottomed. Both instances were because I'd only eaten cashews all day, the other was when I’d only eaten mangoes all day. 

Tops in my 20s never asked before hand about my preparation, and my gay friends never brought up the subject, so I just assumed that all those derogatory terms like “fudge packers” were just pure homophobia. 

When I started to douche in my early 30s it was because I was eating so many greens that sometimes little pieces of lettuce or kale would end up on the guy’s dick. So I got a shower hose douche attachment, and there was a learning curve. I had to learn that I was using too much water that went too deep. After my first time douching, I got fucked by a super hot guy who lived just down the street from me. 10 min in there was some tinged liquid coming out and sadly it was the end of that connection since he never contacted me again after that. It happened next with a big dicked guy and I had recently gotten into juicing beetroot with carrots; when the water came out he thought I was bleeding. Both times were mortifying. I soon after did some reading online and got used to douching effectively, and it didn’t seem to have any ill effects if it were done daily, as I was having a lot of sex back then.

8 years ago I moved to a rural place for my work, and sex is pretty rare for me here. Hose-end shower attachments are out of the question because the water is rainwater catchment and there are parasitic nematodes in the water. Eventually I figured out that if I swallowed a dozen psyllium capsules with each meal (I always drink a lot of water with them) I was good for fucking. The only times I abstain is if my bowel movements are irregular (e.g. IBS) or I can feel that there is a bm pending. I buy them in bulk at Costco and always have some in the car too. Only about 0.5% of the time is there any issue even with big cocks, and I don’t miss douching. If I lived in a place with safe municipal water again, I might use a shower douche again, but I am really glad that this works for me. I look back with gratitude on my 20s as a lucky time when my arsehole was magically clean.

It might be worth mentioning that I don’t eat meat, and aside from yogurt I don’t eat much dairy. I wish I had more greens in my diet these days, but it’s something I’m working on. I know that when I eat brown rice or muesli, my bms are the best.

I used to use loose psyllium (cheaper than capsules but too messy for eating away from home) which works well if I had a heaping teaspoon, but it is messy and where I live the humidity is always so high that moulds quickly.  
 

I've also used the loose Metamucil but don't like the flavours and somehow it doesn't bind things as tightly and cleanly as the larger size loose unground psyllium husks. Metamucil may be good for bm regularity but in my experience it doesn't cut it as a douching replacement.  

Such a hot story!

Thanks for bumping this up, it's hot

Really hot!!

Super hot story! I keep coming back this one.

Super hot story!

Hot!

When I top I want a goldilocks or looser hole, because if the hole is too tight I'll go soft. 

I don't want to fuck guys who are virgins or can't open up without a very slow entry, because it gets me in my head too much about their pleasure, and in doing so, I lose track of mine. When I top, I want to be in control, and I want to be able to pursue my own pleasure with a bottom who's able the to accommodate the sort of varied and intense fucking that I provide when I bottom. I want to fuck a bottom without resistance or conditions, and I want to cum inside (otherwise I don't want to top fuck at all).  

12 hours ago, Japbtm said:

Is it because it’s never enough? 

Humans are drawn to novelty. Ask anyone in product development or go down the snack/junk food isle(s) of US supermarkets 

3 hours ago, BarebackedBear said:

Too many flakes and weirdos when you're trying to find random. Too many no-shows. If I clean out my ass you'd better fuckin be here, and on time. And you never know if what you're going to get is quality breeding.

I keep a small circle of regulars that always deliver quality breeding. A couple of them are good for three or four loads in an afternoon if we've got time to hang out for a few hours and not just pull a quickie. You get to build chemistry. My regulars know what I like. When you get a few regulars who know each other and are friendly you can plan on two or three guys coming over to spend the afternoon pumping cum up your chute.

Plus it's more chill with regulars. I love being on my back with a good buddy slow edging in my guts, spit for lube, hole raw and torn because this is his third time in me that afternoon, sniffing the stiff, musky jock he wore mowing the lawn the other day and brought with him because he knows that's my freak. You don't get that with a random on Sniffies or Grindr.

There's a whole juicy spectrum of my sexuality that I can't access unless it's with a good-chemistry regular

Impossible question really, because some regulars can be average, build on the chemistry, or have an attrition of chemistry. Whereas randoms are just that: random luck. Who knows how good it will be? 

Basically since I started PrEP in 2014 I've avoided getting fucked with condoms, and just turned down condom sex even when I've been in dry spells. However last night in a moment of weakness/being tired I let a guy fuck me with a condom. Maybe it was slightly too big for his dick? I don't know, but it felt worse than I can remember (like being fucked with a plastic grocery bag). Never again; I'd rather go without and use my own dildo. I'm genuinely surprised at how bad the sensation was, despite plenty of silicone lube. 

Fucking hot 

On 10/3/2024 at 8:34 AM, Spunkinmyarse said:

Yeah, I kind of agree with that- it’s all part of the “bottoms are worthless trash, whereas tops are special” kind of narrative that I’ve never bought into.

In my experience there’s a pretty even balance- sure, clubs can get bottom-heavy towards the end of the night when all the tops have shot their wads and gone home, but to counter that, there are often more tops than bottoms in more natural settings such as cruising grounds.

Thanks for sharing this. I have also found this to be true. 

Until I see peer-reviewed data, I put this "more bottoms than tops" stuff down to confirmation bias and internalised bottom-shaming. We have a long way to go with these two problems.

Love the creativity! I laughed a lot and stayed hard the whole time, a rare combination. 

It depends on the cock shape 😉

10 minutes ago, PigBoyDallas said:

Love it…always praying they don’t wanna stop and will just load me. Most do, but some don’t…so sad when they’re true to their word. Same if topping. I know it’s non-consensual but will have “An accident” and cum inside them. Love to hear them change their minds and beg for my load. At a wedding in Hilton Head and have bred some straight/bi fratty boys who were so drunk they never asked my status, didn’t ask me to wrap, or didn’t give a shit. Loaded their slutty needy holes.

So hot! 

Very hot!