I appreciate the depth with which you responded. And, perhaps I wasn't as exact as I might have been in posing the question. I'll give a "for instance" on my part to help clarify. I'm into fairly rough sex (as a top). When I first began my journey in coming out and just getting around and enjoying casual encounters, I was always of the mind that sex was this gentle, perhaps passionate thing - but rough, hard, brutal was just never something I'd be into. But that changed, and rather quickly one day. I was watching some porn, and saw a totally new guy I'd never seen before. My first and immediate reaction was thinking "Wow, I'd love to slap him around if I had the chance." He just evoked that response in me, and the video itself was very basic suck and fuck. In other words, I shocked myself in thinking that. But from there, I explored and found myself very into the more aggressive and rough sex I thought I'd never be wanting.