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I think "ask me" is a perfectly valid answer. If I read "ask me" I will ask and I will only write "ask me" if I'm willing to give you detailed information. The problem is that nowadays noone says what he means and means what he says. It's a sad testament to the state of the barebacking community if "versatile" means "bottom" and "ask me" is interpreted as "don't ask me" or "poz", for that matter.

So my only advice would be: Be a real man. If it's none of another person's business, say so. If you want to be asked, be able to explain. If you don't want to divulge certain information (picture, hiv status, drug habits, whatever) that's perfectly fine as well. But don't act all insulted if someone decides not to have sex with you because that person would have liked to have that information. Be comfortable with your decisions. Not everyone's a fit for everyone.

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The problem is that nowadays noone says what he means and means what he says.

QFT. Only quibble I have with this statement is that guys online have NEVER been honest about their appearance or interests. Remember AOL inches?

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One or two "ask me"s are fine. I think people genuinely need to be asked. It the entire profile is ask me then I'm not interested. Also, take the time to complete your profile and give me an idea as to what you are looking for.

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Weird. When I'm in LA, I get laid all the time using BBRT.
hey man cool if you do. I guess I could get plenty of action on bbrt however I am never that thrilled with the conversations from other members and/or their profiles are too brief. Im the kinda guy who asks questions and wants a little chit chat before I hop into bed with a guy. and bbrt is very cut and dry. And when I peel that onion by talking a bit, I find out the bloke is either not serious or he is so tweeked hed get fucked by a woman with a strap on. I have too many offers on a4a to actually care what happens to me on bbrt. maybe thats my problem.....just sayin
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hey man cool if you do. I guess I could get plenty of action on bbrt however I am never that thrilled with the conversations from other members and/or their profiles are too brief. Im the kinda guy who asks questions and wants a little chit chat before I hop into bed with a guy. and bbrt is very cut and dry. And when I peel that onion by talking a bit, I find out the bloke is either not serious or he is so tweeked hed get fucked by a woman with a strap on. I have too many offers on a4a to actually care what happens to me on bbrt. maybe thats my problem.....just sayin

That might be the difference. I do not live in the US, so I make things as short as possible and very straight to the point. A4A works for me, but it's not as good as BBRT. In FTL, I have fucked 8 guys on the same day :D-. The other guests at Inn Leather thought I was an escort. I guess I should some day.

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That might be the difference. I do not live in the US, so I make things as short as possible and very straight to the point. A4A works for me, but it's not as good as BBRT. In FTL, I have fucked 8 guys on the same day :D-. The other guests at Inn Leather thought I was an escort. I guess I should some day.

Don't forget that when you're visiting a city, you're always going to get more action from the locals. You're the new meat in town and you're also a limited time offer....

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Yes and no, MascMountainMan.

I spent 10 weeks in Denver metro, not exactly a local, but neither a shiny new toy for the locals after some time there. Again, BBRT was my best hook up site, followed by Adam4Adam. I spent months in New Orleans, same thing.

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i hookup online most often, offline quite rarely. i have not had sex in exactly 2 weeks as i had surgery on 1/25, and i'm feeling like a bat gnawing thru the gates of Hell right now. back in my manhunt days, "ask me" was only useable in terms of HIV-status, and was nearly universal code for "i'm poz but i'm being coy bcuz..." out of several hundred manhunt hookups, two of the "ask mes" were HIV-negative and politically conscientious (one worked for an ASO)...all others were poz, n many wagged their finger at me for being so open about my own status.

on BBRT the proliferation of "ask me" answers is a reliable sign of flakiness...but my first priority is determining if they will take my load. i myself list "ask me" when stating whether i take loads anally or not, and to be blunt, by "ask me" i really mean "the only way u get my ass is if i'm vaguely in the mood AND i deem u worthy of seeding my ass, or it's one of those annual things where if i dont get some dick up my ass i'll turn into a werewolf n kill someone".

what never fails is that whenever i completely write bottoming off for good, within a week i get swarmed by alpha tops...some manage to hang around my buddy list long enuff to get a shot at my ass eventually. i can count on one hand the number of times i've gotten fucked that approach the kind of fuck i give....what i cant seem to do is predict b4hand who will actually get the job done. also, in the 3+ years since i've been with my husband i've had 2 of those 5 hyperpower-fucks...both times, the top got offended that i wasn't emotionally available for romance after those shattering sessions.

woe to the top who throws any swagger my way if (like most) his fuck was/is a yawn. luckily for them, most seem to understand this instinctively. however, here in NYC, Adam4Adam is more ghetto than BBRT, and i have had cause to castrate the souls of a few fools. their meltdowns r always tasty, and their threats such comedy when a real-life encounter occurs by coincidence. one guy actually took it maturely, which i found very honorable given how far he'd overextended himself in his previous email.

anyway, all of that was my way of defending my own use of "ask me" in terms of taking loads anally. i also have it for both giving n getting oral loads, as i cant stand most blowjobs and it's very rare that i'll suck a dick myself.

i definitely prefer online hookups to offline...vastly less expensive, a much wider range of guys, a much wider range of adventures and misadventures, and it's been quite educational. i have dealt with such a vast array of flake-out scenarios that i find myself able to read the situation far ahead in the last 5 years especially.

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