Guys that claim they go for Quality over Quantity

[NWUSHorny]

I had the misfortune (or fortune depending how you look at it) of hooking up with a guy that claims he wants "quality over quantity" in his sex life, again last night. Terrible fuck, he would only get fucked in on his side, did little for me and seemed to be extremely uncomfortable for him, but he's "built that way," so that is the only way he takes it, he also only gets fucked in the dark. Anyway apparently it was "good" for him, he wants to get together again in "few weeks."

This fits with my past experience with guys that say this, for what ever reason I fit the perception of their ideal guy, so he wants to hook up. Unfortunately they hook up so rarely that it is almost like fumbling around with a virgin, and an extremely inhibited virgin at that. I'm not looking for a boyfriend or monogamy, because I'm not "wired that way," but I'm pretty sure he sees me as boyfriend material. Even if he is willing to settle for just being a fuckbud, is there any point? I find him hot, but will someone like that ever let their inhibitions go enough and have sex often enough to actually get good at it?

I'm not even sure why I'm considering it, nor do I think he will accept the idea of being just a fuck buddy, but anyone else have this experience and how would you handle it?

[xxww]

anytime i had a bad hook up i never hooked up again but thats just me

[Guest GoodExercise]

Fuck him again. You think he is hot. Maybe you can relax a bit as well and try to enjoy it the way he likes it. Meet him half way -- and breed him.

[PERVERSATILE]

the math is easy-

time and training required to turn that hole into a good poke,

verses

availability of on-call good fucks in your zipcode

[NWUSHorny]

the math is easy-

time and training required to turn that hole into a good poke,

verses

availability of on-call good fucks in your zipcode

That's the problem, this guy seems to be the norm for this area, in other places I've lived and most places I travel to regularly I wouldn't give this guy a 2nd chance. Unfortunately I have yet to have a local guy like him turn into a good fuck, he doesn't want to do it again for at least 2 weeks so it will be a very slow education at best. I have been messing around with another guy here who is both a a good bottom and top, he claims he only has sex once a week, unfortunately he goes out cruising practically every day (but only wants to jack off if he has had sex in the last week), but I guess if you fuck around once a week for 20 years you can get good at it (but who wants to wait that long). Me I want to fuck around a couple of times a day, I leave when I sated.

It is also a problem that everyone seems to be looking for a boyfriend, even at the bathhouse, adult theater, outdoor cruising spots, bookstores, and etc., not a lot of gratuitous promiscuity. I've had too many guys get pissed off at me if I fuck them or let them fuck me 5 or 10 times at the baths and then don't want to become their boyfriend.

I did breed him, wasn't easy and it was obviously painful for him, how do you get someone with a hangup like that to try a new position, maybe if it was enjoyable he would want to get fucked more often.

Edited July 23, 2013 by NWUSHorny

[PERVERSATILE]

''Math is hard" - Malibu Stacy

I personally have always found Portland to be a real raunchy-easy sleazy fun town.

But then again I'm really raunchy-easy sleazy fun too.

-Do you think you might be giving off some sorta "house w/ a white picket fence" vibe?

-Have you considered wearing a wedding band while out cruising;

to show up front your lack of long term availability?

[NWUSHorny]

''Math is hard" - Malibu Stacy

I personally have always found Portland to be a real raunchy-easy sleazy fun town.

But then again I'm really raunchy-easy sleazy fun too.

-Do you think you might be giving off some sorta "house w/ a white picket fence" vibe?

-Have you considered wearing a wedding band while out cruising;

to show up front your lack of long term availability?

I don't seem to have the problem, anywhere outside the Pacific Northwest. I thought hooking up in bathhouses, adult theaters, and parks was usually a good indication by itself?

Just curious, where did you find the raunchy-easy-sleazy guys? I've lived here 6 years, can easily sniff out hot spots to hookup with guys most places I have traveled and everywhere else I've every lived, but I haven't found it here.

[PERVERSATILE]

all the ABS in the downtown area

the porn movie theatre downtown

portland bath/ steam

XES Is that still around?

24hr gym can't remember the name

Macy's top floor men's room

a couple of the parks

the university

I use to job in several times a year for work, last time 2008

hate to think it's changed that much.

[NWUSHorny]

The places that are still around are hit or miss, mostly miss.

XES is gone, downtown Portland bath is closed. I quit going to Steam (there was enough activity there when I 1st moved to keep me from completely going nuts, but it tapered off to nothing), lot's of guys late nights on weekends, but no one ever seems to hook up I very rarely saw, heard or any other kind of evidence that guys were fucking.

New bath called HawksPDX has some activity, but it seems like fewer and fewer guys are visiting (that's where I hooked up with the latest Mr Quality).

Downtown theater has moved and has some activity, mostly guys that want to jack off together but keep your hands to yourself. I've fucked a twink (not really my type but anyone willing becomes my type when I'm not traveling for a few weeks) there several times recently, that just moved from LA, he is ready to move back if he can't get laid more. I'd do the same if I wasn't traveling regularly.

I seldom go the ABS's but haven't seen anything that would keep me coming back when I have been, guys stand around put enough money in the machines to keep the employees happy and wait for Mr. Perfect.

Parks, rarely see anyone actively cruising and if you do it's the same as at the theater (watch each other jack off).

I don't get it, lot's guys saying they live the gay lifestyle in this town, but almost no fucking.

[Bottom Jim]

I have never been to Portand but am planning to go in sept. any good place to get fucked?

[NWUSHorny]

HawksPDX is probably your best bet. Followed by the Paris theater and any of the downtown bookstores.

[fuckboy20]

Well very interesting. I like the title but the your predicament and the title seem to be a little misleading.

You say he's almost virgin like to where he can only really do one position and not too well and you think he wants you to be your bf. What I find interesting is that you asked yourself, "Don't know why I'm considering it.". I will say that although some guys do like virgins and guys who aren't as experienced some don't. Some like an easy lay where it's easy to get in cleaner, and the bottom is more experienced. I'm sure most on here would prefer more uninhibited, kink, instead of someone who is more vanilla. It never hurts to keep an open mind if you like him and find him hot you could always sort of , "train him", especially since he's younger and if he likes you he might let you. You never know if he opens up his mind and does more positions and he gets better he might be a much hotter lay and much closer to you too.

As for him and others wanting relationships besides just fucking. Could just be your area. In my area must guys just like to go to the clubs and bath houses or book stores to fuck, get fucked, or just get off. And of course some go..and don't even do anything but probably get off from being in a place like that.

As long as the guy you like isn't too clingy (had those before) if you keep having sex with him he'll probably get better especially if he isn't with others. I was a slut..so I got plenty of practice. But not everyone is like that. And if he gets too clingy you can always just break it off or just make it clear. Also, everyone has their own philosophy on this but some don't play where they work. Also you start to see the same guys over again. You could try taking a trip somewhere to where there is a better area of people who want "just sex" and go hog wild if ya want. Hope you find more guys though. I always find it interesting to read about different cities and areas and compare it to where I live.