Jerking off while thinking about...nothing?

[SlamBttm773]

Whenever I ask my BF what he thinks about when he jerks off, he tells me something along the lines of "not really anything." He says he just likes the feel of it and wants to get off. I'm pretty sure he's bullshitting me, mostly because I can't imagine cumming without thinking about *something*--usually I'm remembering times I've watched him getting fucked really good by a hung top, or when I can, watching videos of same. And he loves hot, nasty, uninhibited bareback sex. It sucks because I get really turned on by the idea of him fantasizing about another guy who fucked him, or who he wants to fuck him. One guy in particular, total daddy stud hung like a horse, gave him hands-down the best fuck of his life. (Hottest video ever--I've written about it here.) I know he thinks about that guy at least sometimes. He just doesn't feel comfortable telling me he does, i guess. I'm like, dude, I'm the one who set that up, remember? But if I press the issue, the conversation gets awkward, so I just drop it...but unfortunately that drives a wedge between us, because I fantasize about that shit all the time and I can't share it with him. It's stupid, really; we're both probably fantasizing about exactly the same thing, yet we have to hide it from each other.

Anyway, my question is, do any of you jerk off without thinking about anything? I want to take him at his word, but I think he's just hiding his fantasies from me so I tend to do likewise, which pretty much kills my desire for one-on-one sex with him. Thoughts?

[Guest GoodExercise]

OMG, I have an entire catalog of jerk-off replays from real life plus many sick, filthy and taboo fantasies.

[Bttm2go]

Sometimes in the shower I jerk off remembering a past encounter.

[nastybottom]

If I've ever thought about nothing while jerking off, I can't remember doing so. I'm greedy and want the most intense orgasm I can squeeze out, so of course I choose the best porn I can find.

[Idigholes]

We are all different and unique, SlamBttm773. While most of us get off on fantasy or memories of past fucks, that may not be the case for everyone. Masturbation is mostly about stimulating your cock and maybe your nips or ass. Sounds like you have provided him with plenty of amazing fucks and maybe replaying them in his mind doesn't do them justice. It could be that he just goes with the physical sensation and gets off on that alone.

[SlamBttm773]

We are all different and unique' date=' SlamBttm773. While most of us get off on fantasy or memories of past fucks, that may not be the case for everyone. Masturbation is mostly about stimulating your cock and maybe your nips or ass. Sounds like you have provided him with plenty of amazing fucks and maybe replaying them in his mind doesn't do them justice. It could be that he just goes with the physical sensation and gets off on that alone.[/quote']

Of course it could. It could also be that he's thinking about being raped by a bull moose while bent over the altar of a Baptist church in Tulsa.

Cut the Dear Abby crap--"maybe" is not an answer. I'm not just going to throw up my hands and say "everyone's different, so who knows, whaddya gonna do" because a) it affects me directly and I'm pretty well convinced he's simply too inhibited to share his fantasies with me. His whole "i wasn't thinking about anything" bit is exactly the kind of bullshit i used to run on my prying psycho-bitch girlfriend in college, to avoid telling her that i was really thinking about her brother's ripped wrestler body and monster cock bulging in his tighty-whities.

Look, I get it: Gay guys are so used to hiding what they're thinking that they often don't know how to stop. Don't worry, I'm not gonna badger him into confessing his dirty secrets. If he's being inhibited, that's something we can work on. If he's being honest, I can deal with that too, but first I have to believe him. I want to believe him, but right now I just don't. Which is why I asked about it here--can anyone back him up with something other than "maybe"?

[GermanFucker]

I don't do it often, but yeah, I sometimes jerk off thinking of nothing, mostly when I'm not in an especially sexual mood, but would like to enjoy my cup of endorphines before falling asleep. Sometimes it's kind of a zen thing. Just wanking without a special goal or purpose. But mostly I jerk off to the memories of good fuck dates.

[whiteslutbttm]

I usually jack off to porn, or I'll get into a nasty fantasy while I jerk it. But sometimes I jack off without thinking about anything. I can watch TV and be jacking off and the two activities are separate (multitasking lol). I'm not being aroused by what's on TV, I'm just relaxing/having a good time while I watch. Or I'll just jack off in the shower, staring off into space without thinking about anything in particular.

Your boyfriend might be fantasizing about something crazy and not wanting to share the details with you. But he could be like me and honestly not be thinking about anything at all when he jacks off.

[SlamBttm773]

Thanks, whiteslutbttm. Curious, do you "jack off about nothing" all the way to orgasm? If not, I'd say you're just playing with yourself, not to put too fine a point on it. I'm referring to blow-a-load JO sessions lasting maybe five minutes.

BTW, if my hunch is right, he's not jacking off to some "crazy fantasy". He's thinking about one of many guys who fucked the shit out of him and bred him while I was standing right there, watching and taking video.

Edited August 29, 2013 by SlamBttm773

[whiteslutbttm]

Usually when I jack off (whether I am jacking off "about nothing" or not) I cum. Not always, but usually.

[NWUSHorny]

Maybe he just bored and his dick is hard. Happens to me, I'll just start casually stroking while I'm reading or watching TV.