For bottoms: Are you using tops to get satisfaction for yourself?

[Guest UserDeleted0419]

I get off by having loads blown in me. So I think it is a win-win. But I am not a slave. I decide, how many loads and when....

I completely agree with this - great response cumslut!

[not_sure_bb]

my pleasure is the top using me for his pleasure. my end goal is to get him off. i can jerk off later.

[norcalraw]

I get off after the top has busted his nut inside my ass and ditched me. I'll finger my hole and play with the top's cum as I stroke myself. Once in awhile I'll blow my load while getting fucked, if rhythm is right and the top's cock is hitting my g-spot I can't control myself and I'll shoot a big load without having stroked myself off.

[bb4ever]

Of course it's about the bottom's satisfaction too. I get great satisfaction out of being used as a fuckhole for another guy to dump his load inside of. Enjoy watching him thrust into me, hearing him moan with pleasure, and feeling his throbbing cock reward my hole with warm poz seed. I don't have to cum when a guy uses me, because it's really about helping him get off inside me. But that give me great pleasure too when I know I fulfilled my purpose of taking his seed, his strain and maybe his other bugs. Denying that I use tops to please myself and my craving to be bred would be a lie. I need them inside me as much as they need a hole to cum in.

[kinky_hot]

I agree with you NLbear and with cumslut. This has been an issue for me too: I can be a piggy bottom, craving cocks and cum, always asking for more cum in my hole, but I'm NOT submissive whatsoever. Some tops think it's the same. I get a lot of pleasure from seeing a top enjoy my hole, make him lose control and dump his load. I kind of compete with the top to make him cum faster, I love it when they'll say "oh please stop moving or I'll cum", then I'll squeeze him. Somehow I feel honoured and flattered to be able to possess his cock. So in the end, I get pleasure through his pleasure. But my pleasure is ALWAYS first. I can be quite commanding when having sex. If I like what he's doing, I'll let him go. But we'll never do anything I don't like (such as fingering or rimming my hole, I hate it).

With some tops I've gone too far and it's really obvious that I'm working their cocks with my ass just to get the load. Once that's done, it's over, good bye leave my home now.

Seriously, it sounds egotistical but that's how it is in my mind. I'm nice to them, but this is it.

[lioilk]

Of course it's about my pleasure TOO! can't understand those who think that being a bottom is just about being a submissive guy or just a hole here to serve a cock. It takes 2 to make a good fuck! I want the guy to give my pleasure and do not hesitate to go take it!

[Guest btchbyl]

totally. once i get the load up my ass he can drop off the planet. i could care less about the top.

[NLbear]

totally. once i get the load up my ass he can drop off the planet. i could care less about the top.

Unless he is hot and so good at topping you want him for another session :-)

[PissPigBrooklyn]

I think when a bottom says, "No its not about my pleasure I am here only to get the top off." it is often a passive/aggressive expression of disdain for the tops. Tops too want to know that they are good sexually too that they can please a bottom guy. If all they are doing is blowing their load inside an ass it makes for a very cold situation that eventually brings no pleasure to either participant. I think there is a place for bottoming and topping like that in a role play situation but really if a bottom gets no pleasure in feeling the raw cock entering the hole, pounding the hole and releasing that sweet cum in the hole what is the point of doing it? Even a feeling of degradation, if that what is sought is actually a feeling of satisfaction though I believe that a steady diet of only degradation starves the erotic soul.

[bearbandit]

I think when a bottom says...

Yep, with you on that one. If that's the case then I've got a number of strokers that can do just that. Similarly if I'm in a bottom mood, I've got plenty things to sit on. Who needs men?

Well, I do for one. It's about interaction, about making him feel that he's the only man (or they're the only men) in the world that matters, whether you're topping or bottoming (or somewhere else inside the pack if we're talking a group situation). The guy I'm after isn't necessarily the best looking guy there, but he's got something about him that makes want to get up there or else spread 'em.

I always work on the principle that the first time's going to be pretty much of a disaster. He's only the perfect fuck in a porno. Sex is something you learn to do. How do you learn that that's precisely the way I like to be rimmed? Or that's precisely the way I want your ass muscles squeezing my dick? Practice, that's how. I don't have anything against the quick handjob in the bushes - it's just that I like a more practised approach. The quick wank can have its appeal, especially when it's somewhere you might get interrupted.

Two things I never say: "I'm only here for you to use." And "I don't give a stuff about how much you enjoy it". Firstly, yeah right, if you're a good fuck, can make me piss or cum with touching myself, I need you, and secondly I care very much if you get off or not. It's not as though you're going to come back for more an encore if it doesn't work the first time, is it? If you're good, I want you back, maybe pass you around my friends or all have you together.

"Don't give a stuff how much you enjoy it..." Of course it's important! Again, it's appreciation of the other(s). You pulled me into this circle and I wanted you primarily, but your friends as well. Again, we've got the thing of not knowing each other's tastes, so we learn as we go along. Could be I'll end up with someone else entirely. It's about each pleasing the other, not about "you do realise I'll walk out of your life in the morning" or"as soon as I can I'll be through the door". That's for porn stories (and offers a good way of getting a particular sex act into the story while getting rid of the character(s) involved out...

[jizzpig]

I have been on this site for a little over a year. And I was wondering. I see a lot of Bottoms making it clear that they are only there for tops to be used, regardless what they get out of a session. They say "It is not about me, it is all about satisfying the top" or something similar like that. They don't seem to care about their own satisfaction of having sex with someone.

Am I the only bottom here who disagrees with that? I can understand there are tops who just want a hole, fuck it, dump a load and leave, without caring if it was good for the bottom as well. Or Bottoms who just want to get fucked regardless if it satisfies their own needs. I am not talking about anonymous bathhouse or club fucks (that is obvious, that is just about fucking regardless), but 1-1 or maybe threesomes etc. at someones's place.

But cannot it not be the other way around as well? A bottom using a top in the same way?

If I, as a bottom, am horny and want to have sex then I want something out of it too. Not just being a hole for a guy to dump a load in, leaving you with a sore ass and no satisfaction. I want to get something out of it too. There's two to tango. I may even want to cum more than once from getting my ass plowed. If I want a top to fuck me the least thing he can do is make sure I get my part of the satisfaction too. I want to feel satisfied as well, just like the top.

So in that sense the bottom would be using a top too to get what he wants: satisfaction from getting fucked and one or maybe more orgasms.

Are there more Bottoms who think that way, or am I in the minority here?

It really depends on the persepective of the top and the bottom. As a bottom (though slowly exploring the versatile side of things, and remaining a real bottom at the core), I definitely use tops, but in a submissive way. My satisifcation is not usually about my "orgasm" though. I am usually satisfied by being rewarded with the tops cum, either in my ass or down my throat. It's a mental mindfuck in some ways. The more I get fucked; the more I suck; the more cum I get; the more I am used by a masc agressive top to get is rocks off, the more I feel whole. As this happens I feel my own orgasm is of less importance or desirable.

I know WHO and WHAT I am in my soul. It's even more intense when you share this with a special person.

Recently, as I started to explore the TOP side of things, I am still a bottom in a mindfuck way. It's all about my partner getting off and using me/my cock to do so. He WANTS/NEEDS me to fuck or suck him, I will. I feel satisfied that he is satisfied. I may have a great orgasm, but it not the focus. I'm there to serve my man and nothing else matters.

I guess you can say I am true sub.

[natefuller]

Being a sub bottom who likes to serve is nearly impossible to explain to someone who isn't A) a sub bottom himself (in which case he already understands) or a dom top (in which case no explanation is necessary). That's why I keep that part of my life separate and only share it with people who I know will understand and won't judge. When I've told the wrong people I've heard things like "how can you be like that" or been called a slut or worse. There's no way I can explain to that person that I'm only doing what feels natural and right, following a drive I've had since before I even became sexually active. Hell, it took ME a long time to understand and face being a sub bottom, thanks to the fact that to many people it's not "normal. When I started seeking out guys for sex, I always told myself I wanted to find nice guys. But guess what, the ones I wound up bottoming for were the ones who TOOK, not the ones who asked. Then when I finally realized that I was pretty much ONLY seeking out the ones who took, I finally made myself face the truth: that it simply brings me the most pleasure to please men and be used by men. All the sweet, caring, gentle lovers in the world can't equal the intensity of one dom top fucking me purely for his pleasure. So I can either deny that fact and be unsatisfied, or I can say fuck it, go to steamworks and get as much cock as I want, from the kind of guys I want it from.

Anyhow that's my take on the subject. We are who we are and we might as well accept it.

[Dongorongoro]

I think the way the OP's post is worded is a bit close-minded in terms of thinking that "satisfaction" has to come in the form of an orgasm and cumshot right then and there. Though for him that may be the case, I think for many of us, or at the very least myself, there is a dual satisfaction that occurs by taking loads and not getting off until later, especially if you take several in a night (or longer!). Even for the guys that are are into chastity, there is clearly some sort of satisfaction for them-- if there wasn't, they wouldn't willingly be doing it.

As a personal example, when I was living in NYC where it was very easy to find more than a few guys to breed me in a single night, I would often either only slowly and gently stroke my cock while getting reamed, building up as much tension as possible without actually getting off, or, preferrably, wearing a jockstrap and massaging myself with my hand-- built up so much pressure but couldn't make myself cum unless I pulled my cock out of it. After I finished up with the guy, I'd head home and get right back on BBRTS or A4A and find another guy to fill me up ASAP. After a few times, I'd either decide this particular guy was going to be my last for the night and edge myself until he cums and unload myself, or, the more usual, just go home, toke on a bowl, shove in a plug and beat off furiously, thinking about how much seed there was deep inside me.

For me, doing this made my final orgasm at the end of the night 100,000 times more powerful and amazing than it ever would be if I just got off while getting fucked. The longer you wait to get off, the better it feels when you finally do. Though I love a top to tell me he's just using me to unload and doesn't care if it feels good or not because I'm just a slut, the simple truth is that as long as I get his spunk in my ass I'm using him just as much as he thinks he's using me.

Edited March 29, 2014 by Dongorongoro

[AgentColby]

I have been on this site for a little over a year. And I was wondering. I see a lot of Bottoms making it clear that they are only there for tops to be used, regardless what they get out of a session. They say "It is not about me, it is all about satisfying the top" or something similar like that. They don't seem to care about their own satisfaction of having sex with someone.

Am I the only bottom here who disagrees with that? I can understand there are tops who just want a hole, fuck it, dump a load and leave, without caring if it was good for the bottom as well. Or Bottoms who just want to get fucked regardless if it satisfies their own needs. I am not talking about anonymous bathhouse or club fucks (that is obvious, that is just about fucking regardless), but 1-1 or maybe threesomes etc. at someones's place.

But cannot it not be the other way around as well? A bottom using a top in the same way?

If I, as a bottom, am horny and want to have sex then I want something out of it too. Not just being a hole for a guy to dump a load in, leaving you with a sore ass and no satisfaction. I want to get something out of it too. There's two to tango. I may even want to cum more than once from getting my ass plowed. If I want a top to fuck me the least thing he can do is make sure I get my part of the satisfaction too. I want to feel satisfied as well, just like the top.

So in that sense the bottom would be using a top too to get what he wants: satisfaction from getting fucked and one or maybe more orgasms.

Are there more Bottoms who think that way, or am I in the minority here?

A couple of things. One, take everything you read on this site with a grain of salt. A lot of guys come on here and are either making up stories or embellishing.

Second point. Every bottom is getting satisfaction but satisfaction can come in many different ways. It could be physical, it could be emotional, or it can be mental. Yes, there are bottoms, when getting fucked are about the physical satisfaction; the feeling of getting fucked and then cumming. That being said, there are bottoms do not necessarily get physically satisfied but do so mentally or emotionally. It also doesn't mean he is submissive either.

I myself am vers. I am about 60% top and 40% bottom. I only bottom for guys that are hung. When I do bottom, it is because I have a need to feed. For me, the physical feeling of getting fucked is great but it actually is secondary. I certainly wouldn't call myself a sub but when I do bttm, I am more interested in having my hole used for someone's else need and pleasure. I am more satisfied that my hole is giving someone pleasure and my hole is going to receive cum. Yes, in the role as bottom, my focus is more on HIS pleasure and him getting what he needs. It is mental and emotional satisfaction I get primarily. The physical is great but it isn't the immediate satisfaction for me. When I bottom, I have no desire to rub my dick, no desire to cum b/c that isn't what I am thinking about or aiming for. Last time I got fucked, which was about 2 months ago, it was with a guy that really took a long time to cum. After about 45 min of fucking me, my hole was getting tired but I didn't stop him or squirm or tried to get him to cum. I was feeling a bit uncomfortable but I put it aside and just focused on making my hole take it and relaxing til he's ready to cum. 20 min later, he did and my satisfaction was seeing him feeling good and relaxed.

So yes, there are bottoms where fucking is physical satisfaction and about getting theirs and there are bottoms where it is something else.

[Titus]

Perfectly said, Agent Colby.

I love the physical sensation of cock and cum in my ass. But my desire to get fucked is always driven by the emotional fulfillment it gives me. And in that sense, yes, I most definitely am seeking my own satisfaction, even though my sexual encounters rarely involve an orgasm of my own.