Want to leave/quit as soon as I cum, any tips?

[frenchbbtop]

Basically title says it all, my ass is out of comission for the time being (hpv surgery not too long ago), so I decided to top for the time being but I have a problem with feeling dirty and running away as soon as I cum.

I only frequent bath houses and up until now I only got fucked so not cuming was easy, but even then if I did I would leave right away, anyone deal with this issue as well?

On an unrelated note, I also have a question about beign a "visible top", basically because I'm young I feel guys always think of me as a bottom, the only times I've topped were with guys who had already fucked me. Is there a way to let people know that I want to top right off the bat? should I feel their ass instead of their dick?

[rawTOP]

Basically title says it all, my ass is out of comission for the time being (hpv surgery not too long ago), so I decided to top for the time being but I have a problem with feeling dirty and running away as soon as I cum.

I only frequent bath houses and up until now I only got fucked so not cuming was easy, but even then if I did I would leave right away, anyone deal with this issue as well?

I wouldn't think leaving as soon as you've cum is a problem in a bathhouse setting. Bathhouses are sorta made for pump-n-dumps. I guess I'm not understanding your problem.

On an unrelated note, I also have a question about beign a "visible top", basically because I'm young I feel guys always think of me as a bottom, the only times I've topped were with guys who had already fucked me. Is there a way to let people know that I want to top right off the bat? should I feel their ass instead of their dick?

You could "flag". It's old school and a lot of guys won't get it, but some will. Tops flag left, bottom flag right. So get yourself a leather wristband or armband and put it on your left arm.

Being a top is a lot about attitude. If you act confident and assertive it'll help guys see you as a top. [Notice I said assertive, not aggressive - don't be a cocky jerk.]

I'd also suggest putting a cock ring on and finding ways to display your hard cock (rather than your ass). So sit places in the bathhouse stroking your cock. Maybe take a Viagra or Cialis before you go - even if you don't really need it. Bottoms are drawn to hard cocks like moths to a flame.

[frenchbbtop]

Thanks for the tip! Will try the wrist band thing.

I understand that bath houses are made for a pump and leave but here in paris it's 15-20 euros to get in and on a student's budget I can't really go several times a week.

Being confident and stroking my cock sounds like the best bet, being shy is probably what drove people to my ass, I'll give it a shot over the week end and let you know

[hungry_hole]

... but I have a problem with feeling dirty and running away as soon as I cum.

First, as a bottom I love it when in a bathhouse I get some guy to fuck me and breed me and leave right away without saying a word. It's so hot because it makes me feel like a real cumdump.

frenchbbtop, from your point of view, and you are young, you can just make a small effort to after you cum, go to the steam, or relax in your room, and in in a matter of minutes you'll be ready for some more action. Just don't leave the place right after you cum.

[Guest faggot hole]

Those of us who know our true purpose in life know that this is not about love or affection. It is about taking that load, relieving the real man, moving on. There is no need for small talk, whispering sweet nothings, even for setting up another time and place. Whether it is in a bath house, or a party, or in my bedroom, or (best of all) in some public place, give me Your load and move on. Make room back there for the next guy, who, hopefully, is coming along real soon.

[younghot]

I completely understand that feeling as I will get the same way. The only advice I can really give is to make yourself wait five or ten minutes before you leave and get yourself hard again, once your hard it should be relatively easy to stick around again.

[GermanFucker]

Being confident and stroking my cock sounds like the best bet, being shy is probably what drove people to my ass, I'll give it a shot over the week end and let you know

The most important thing about being a top is attitude. The way you carry yourself has to say "I want to invade you", not "ravish me". Not all of that can be learnt. But the basics are simple. One thing is positioning. Easy to get wrong but just as easy to do right: Deny access to your ass while granting easy access to your dick. E.g. leaning against a wall is a classic cruising posture for tops: You can't get to the ass, but the cock is accessible at an 180° angle.

[Titus]

If I'm understanding you correctly, the issue isn't so much that you feel like parting ways with the guy you just fucked; it's that you feel like leaving the bath house altogether. Is that correct? I've experienced that myself, which is why I usually don't allow myself to cum until I know I'm ready to leave. But on those occasions when I have cum a bit too early into my stay at the bathhouse, and I feel like I haven't gotten my money's worth, I'll usually just head to my room and close the door. My libido always comes back before too long... especially when it's busy and you can hear other men fucking all around you. Just fight through the urge to leave. It'll pass. And if you find it takes you longer to get back in the mood, you can try bringing a book, an MP3 player (if thieves aren't an issue), or even bring some ear plugs and take a nap. Good luck!

[frenchbbtop]

Napping in a bath house sounds hilarious!

I honestly would love to hear other men fucking all around me but for some reason all the bath houses I know have really loud techno masking the sex sounds, I hate that

[Titus]

I've napped plenty of times, especially when I'm staying overnight in another city. If you've got a limited amount of time, it can save you from having to choose between getting fucked and getting some sleep.

The baths I frequent also play music, but fortunately, they usually keep the volume pretty moderate. I can often hear everything that's going on 3-5 rooms in either direction.

[melvin0095]

Hearing guys in the area is part of the charm of baths!

I can sleep anywhere after a good fucking.

[frenchbbtop]

I should look into a bath house without music, hearing other men fucking sounds like an amazing turn on and a great way to want to keep going

[sentry75]

Among the many reasons I like to get a room at a bath house is a place to recover.

I think most guys feel that way after cumming and it varies how long recovery

takes. I would take a shower amd a steam for about 15 minutes then lie down for 45 or so. Generally those are the times it takes me to even tolerate any physical stimulation or really want more sex.

My favorite bath has 20 channels of porn in room, so maybe that helps

[sentry75]

So I actually am at a bath now. I wrote the above about 20 minutes ago then walked down the hall and found a black guy strokinghis thick 8 incher who iinvited me in.

I started sucking his big cock amd hoped he would fuckme but surprised me by coming fairly quickly, shooting his load on my face then pushing it into my mouth.

After a couple of minutes of squeezing the last drop of cum into mymouth he got hard again. I sucked him some more but he wasn't ready desire wise.So I lreft him to rest up.

Bottom line, give your cock and desire time to recover

[cumslut23]

I have the same feeling from time to time. I either go to the bar and have a drink, watch some normal tv, or go into the hot tub and close my eyes. Sometimes, if the fuck was intense and I can't hold it in anymore, cleaning myself in the bathroom and feeling that lose hole gets me going again.

Alternative: Many places offer a pass out. You can come back within the next 2 hours. I always get one, and have a drink nearby to see whether the urge comes back