Total Black Out Party Freak-out

[Rawdawg13]

I'm just wondering if anyone else out there has had the same experience.  My partner and I went out last night looking for hot fun.  One of the local 'dark back room' bars had a total lights out black out party and that sounded hot to us both.  We've been to this bar many times and had a great time.  I've watched him get loaded and vice versa...its always a good time.  But when we walked in....when I say COMPLETE black out I mean I literally kicked over a barstool because you couldnt see shit!!  You couldn't even see a shape of a body until they touched you...and even then it was like playing the Helen Keller game!  The tvs that usually play porn was off, the light from the bathroom was it and it wasn't much.  I kinda freaked the the fuck out.  I know thats the point.  Total and complete sensory depravation and you just have complete anonymous interactions.  The first guy to rub my crotch lent in to kiss me and his breath smelled literally like rotting meat and I almost tossed it...then I realized who he was, just somebody I've seen around, someone who is completely the opposite of what I find hot.  My partner hooked up and got a few loads, had no problem, and was having a great time.  Me on the other hand, I jumped if someone touched me.  Has anyone else out had somewhat the same experience where fucking around in a dark room is a-okay, but a totaly black out is not.  I want/need to have some semblance of what I'm tangling  with.    As much of a slut as I think I am, there is still about 10% of people I want nothing to do with period.  My partner was great about it, I stuck it out as long as I could because he was loving it- but he eventually said lets get you out of here and somewhere else and we did go to another bar and it was fine.  But I really wanted to enjoy it so much and had been looking forward to it AND I ended up a neurotic mess out of nowhere simply because I couldn't see a fucking thing.  Does this mean I'm really a prude or simply I'll just never play the lead role in "The Miracle Worker"?!?

[alexej2]

I think my reaction would be identical to yours as a/ I'm picky and b/ I would not like to even get touched with a stick by certain people!

[Rawdawg13]

Thank you alexej2!  All I needed was one person to agree!  I'm by a prude to say the least...but complete darkness freaks me out esp since that first guy who, I'm so sorry, but I find repulsive.  I can't help that I just do.  Then it became the same thing everytime..."who is this, who is that"- it kinda fucked with my head a little.  but anyways thank you, thank you, thank you.  I feel better!!  kisses

[tallslenderguy]

lol, love this post and your sense of humor about it. 

I don't think this experience identifies or qualifies you anywhere near "prude."  The truth is, a complete blackout does not constitute "complete sensory depravation," just visual. You still have your sense of touch, sound, smell and taste.

In this case, it seems like your sense of smell did you in, and it also even took you back into a place of 'seeing' because it allowed you to identify the person trying to kiss you and you still had a picture of him in your brain. So, in a way, you 'saw' him. My guess is that ignited your imagination in the wrong direction, and all you imagined was unattractive to you? 

In some ways I think of myself as very "piggy," but many a 'pig' would disagree because I don't like strong smells.  If someones breath is "bad" to me, I am turned off, same with pits or crotch. Same with taste. If a guys cock or ass tastes like it hasn't been cleaned in a week, I find it pretty disgusting... though, if I have a guys cock in my mouth, I'm not gonna give it up because of taste or smell, i will still suck it in hopes of being bred or at least getting his load lol, but I won't enjoy it quite as much. But I'll turn away if it's his breath, pits, ass or any other part of him.  

[Guest Upstateguy518]

I'm the same way man. I wouldn't even touch a guy like that if he's gonna show up to a sex party and can't even bother to brush his teeth.

[Rawdawg13]

Thank you very much!  I don't know why I used the term total sensory depravation...I know what that is.   Trust me, I wished I  had been deprived of that smell!  I've always been kinda funny about kissing random people, some anyway.  You can stick your dick in me, but not your tongue!  Sounds silly I know, but fuck it, its the truth.  Later that night, someone else went in to kiss me and I hit my head against the wall backing away so hard I almost knocked something off the wall!  Its funny now but at the time I was bugging out.  Hell, just two weeks ago I was in the same bar in a jizz soaked t-shirt from sucking dicks and taking a load over a toilet while my partner egged the guy on.. so no, a prude I'm not.  I just need to know what the fuck I'm dealing with...and even if I'm wrong!  My hand to god this is true,  a few weeks ago we were at another bar and I thought I was making out with what I thought was a blond hair, blue eyed frat boy that ended up being a Japanese business man in a suit.  WTF?  Probably had more to do with being fucked up but either way I was cool with it.  Walking back to the car last night I told my partner that from here on out Blackout night was officially his and I'll gladly stay home with the dogs..brushing my teeth with the lights on!!

[einathens]

at least now you know total blackout is not for you, and you have a funny story to tell about it.

and congrats on having a partner who cares enough to recognize that you weren't into it.

[Guest Dickmagnet]

You're not the only one who gets freaked out by total black out, I remember a few years ago i went a fickstutenmarkt party even though it's not total blackout but the bottom's have to be hooded so cannot see a thing. I hated it & left after an hour. I like to have visual stimulation too.

[Rawdawg13]

Oh, I have the best partner in the world, I can't deny that at all.  He knew I wasn't comfortable before I said anything.  I guess I wasn't my usual self.  He says that he can see rather well at those light levels which proves my theory that he is regressing in age and therefore a superhuman.  (No shit, his eyeshight has actually improved over the course of three-four ophthalmologist visits.  The dr. said he never seen that and can offer no explanation as to how or why!)  And dickmagnet, I never thought about it in the context of liking/needing visual stimulation.  Thats a huge part of the fantasy really.  I mean if you can't see anything, you might as well just stay home and beat off with your eyes closed.   And fuck a hood (in that situation, anyway!)  My partner gets off on seeing me get fucked and we've talked about throwing a party where he oversees me getting fucked in a blindfold....but thats different, in that its just that, him watching me getting fucked while blindfolded in a "controlled" situation.  Its not like Ray Charles spun around in a multi-level bathhouse with a pool!  Scary and unnerving!    

[mancuntt]

2 hours ago, kimhore said:

Oh, I have the best partner in the world, I can't deny that at all.  He knew I wasn't comfortable before I said anything.  I guess I wasn't my usual self.  He says that he can see rather well at those light levels which proves my theory that he is regressing in age and therefore a superhuman.  (No shit, his eyeshight has actually improved over the course of three-four ophthalmologist visits.  The dr. said he never seen that and can offer no explanation as to how or why!)  And dickmagnet, I never thought about it in the context of liking/needing visual stimulation.  Thats a huge part of the fantasy really.  I mean if you can't see anything, you might as well just stay home and beat off with your eyes closed.   And fuck a hood (in that situation, anyway!)  My partner gets off on seeing me get fucked and we've talked about throwing a party where he oversees me getting fucked in a blindfold....but thats different, in that its just that, him watching me getting fucked while blindfolded in a "controlled" situation.  Its not like Ray Charles spun around in a multi-level bathhouse with a pool!  Scary and unnerving!    

Lol Ray Charles...or maybe Stevie Wonder hahahahahhaha

[fuckrogerbb]

I don't think anyone should go to Lights Out if you are going to be picky. Now horrible breath or weighing 500 lbs would be a turnoff to me. When I was younger I went to a sex club that had a sling and I decided to strip and get in the sling and let ANYONE fuck me. It was very hot and very liberating. I discovered that man who were not perfect were actually very good fucks and appreciative.

[BlindRawFucker1]

Maybe you sighted guys will now have more respect and impathy for those of us who are actually blind.

 

It can really suck, and not in a good way, when I am ignored just because I'm blind.  I know the type of guy I like, but can't "look around for him.

 

If you see a blind guy at a bar or bathhouse, just say hi.  Who knows what could happen.

[Rawdawg13]

I hear you fuckroger, I can totally appreciate that..but I just need to know.  I don't think I'm overly picky, I don't even have a favorite "type".  I like a silver fox just as much as I could eat a twinkie until I have to be surgically removed from his ass.....I just know what I don't like.  And it usually a strong opposition.  But your right, even if you are kinda picky--Blackouts are not for you...or me!

[Rawdawg13]

OMG!  I am totally and completely sorry about any thing or any jokes I might have/did make.  If you knew me, you'd know that is not something I would ever do intentionally, I swear on my dog's life.  And I will do just that...I will approach and speak to the next blind guy I meet in a bar.  Thanks for the big ass shift in perspective.