Frustrating Group sex

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Dnvr,

Sounds like a better plan! Sometimes you run into couples playing together at a bathhouse and bare too. Hot if you can bottom for them. A rare find, but still possible!

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On 5/12/2017 at 5:14 PM, constructionguy said:

Threesomes are difficult; somebody always feels left out or unsatisfied. Even sex with a foursome already changes the dynamic considerably. I avoid threesomes

i have managed to host MANY BB pnp parties and the number seems NOT to be the deciding factor - at least at my place.  i make it a point to let my 'Regular' FB's have at the new ones FIRST.  they do that for me too.  My Portland is a particularly slutty fun place and my invite to host here is REAL!  i admit not knowing all answers as to why my BB FUCK EVENTS seem to be working well.  i have not been to Hawks (our bathhouse w cumunion...) in over a year!  walking distance from my place btw - Hawthorne, Morrison or Burnside bridges - all in line to choose from.

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On 5/5/2017 at 3:37 AM, bbinbpark said:

So frustrating and I don't know what to make of this.  

Yesterday while I was on my bareback adam4adam screenname I got hit up by a TopGuy that I've chatted with on and off for a couple of months.  It has never worked out to meet up, and I was trying to figure out if he was flaky or just not interested.  When I sent him my facepic, he told me he was trying to set up a group thing with one of his VersBuds, and long story short I agreed to meet them later in the evening when his friend got home.  I was expecting to get fucked by both, and when I got there, TopGuy was getting his cock sucked by VersGuy.  VersGuy was blindfolded and wearing a fetish outfit, and the scene had a lot of potential.  

It was tight quarters, the way the sofa, ottoman the guys were placed, and I crawled in to start sucking the VersGuys cock.  A couple times I tried to suck TopGuys dick, but his VersGuy wouldn't let up long enough for me to show my skills, and while I was trying to suck TopGuys cock VersGuys cock was neglected.  At one point when I came up to suck TopGuy, VersGuy grabbed my head and pushed it back into his crotch wanting me to suck him some more.  I didn't realize he was close, but he came shortly after and I swallowed his sweet load.  TopGuy seemed pissed about this and sat down on the sofa.  VersGuy was relaxing in the afterglow of shooting, and I tried to play with TopGuy, but he brushed my hand away from his cock.   I didn't know what to make of it, and I asked if he came, he said it would take him a while.  His body language was all off, clear he didn't want to play anymore, and the VersBud was lying back on the sofa, blindfolded with a satisfied smile on his face.   After a minute or so I decided to leave, because it was just awkward.

On the way home, I sent him a text and told him I felt awkward.  He texted back asking me, "what happened?"  I pointed out him pushing my hand away, and he apologizes saying he didn't mean to do it and made a mistake.  He also tells me that VerseBud loved my oral skills.  

I really don't know what to make of the whole thing, i don't know if I'm asking advice or just trying to get this off my chest, but I felt the whole situation was fucked up.  There's always the possibility during a group thing that two of the guys might not be a match, but if I invite a guy I at least make an attempt to play with them even if they aren't what I expected.  If they were really bad, I'd probably ask them to leave before the sex got going, but I can't say I've ever had to do that.

 

On 5/28/2017 at 0:54 AM, spermy71 said:

Hey,

thanks for the post on my message. Would love to hear more about who you have in mind.

interesting dynamics!  here's what i think and my take on your expweriences

GENERALITIES YES... it is good to remember -

1.  for the most part, we do not get to choose whom we are sexually attracted to!  poz smart tattoo'd oversexed dangerous gangbanger fucktards for me!  might be carryover from my Sailor days.

2.  Mercy-fucks - 97.4253% of the time are a VERY BAD IDEA.

3.  overthinking not a good thing! and  no need to fuck every time!  i am ENFP - i know this well!

4.  there are many manipulative game playing fags out there.  be out of their control and make a point of not conforming to their wants and wishes unless it works for you, too.

5.  come visit wicked wacky weird wonderful Portland Oregon! we gonna hike, fuck, eat best food, drink best beer! smoke legal grass THE BEST BTW.  then fuck some more!!!!!!!!!

[rawsatyr]

I used to be more awkward at group play. Somebody was always jealous or left out or partial to one or the other. My exes would just cheat but get angry if I got attention... dumb shit, petty squabbling! Converting over into the poz-camp and not being so picky certainly has helped a lot! Most of the time it is my man (who accidentally converted me) and I both go hunting together as a team. We go on the prowl on grindr, Scruff, bbrt and in the flesh... sometimes a dude gives one of us attention, sometimes both... some players will be sneaky like habitual cheaters, others bold about their preference. We try not to let all that derail us... 'go with it', I told my man. I have encouraged him to go 'slam-dunk' a cheating punk (still pretending to be goody-two-shoes, but known as a poz cum-dumpster) and encouraged him to go take a load from a dude when I 'couldn't wrap my head around his physical appearance' (daddies with big guts etc)

We are very similar in our kinkiness and full commitment to 'sports-fucking'. But physically we are very different... well he only slightly shorter, I have much bigger hands and feet, but his cock seems larger. But he loves how mine is fatter. He is MUCH younger, but hairier and doesn't tan like I do. I have full hair but he is worried about his hair-line... we both fit into size 31 jeans but he is self-conscious about a bit of flab.

He started the whole 'extra-curricula-sex' activity when I 'uncovered his plot' to get dickage on the side... after the initial rage I had a calm phase and proposed a 'total sports-fucking strategy'... with few rules. We incorporated predictable 'awkward moments' and bias from players... and decided to 'hang in' until the end of the game and then do the score with a stiff upper lip... maybe even volunteer to be side-lined and taken off the playing field... maybe even pretending a fake injury and let the other be a star... "Oh don't mind my man! He pulled a muscle yesterday and he LOVES to watch!"

We did one couple from Chicago (looked like total urban circuit boys/brothers) jaded, inked, professional players... but a line in the profile should have tipped us off for potential trouble: 'should be EQUAL attention to both and NO ONE LEFT OUT'... yeahhh, that seems to be a pre-existing condition and narrow parameters... turned out that one was a needy, nervous control freak who called a FOUL in the middle of the game when his more alpha-bro was tongue-kissing my man with one or the other having his raw cock up his hole... I don't recall, lol... I was fucking the other, I think, but his eyes were on 'guarding his man' making sure his lust wouldn't show too much enthusiasm... "NO KISSING!" he spurted out with nervous alarm and his man complied with what seemed to be a recurring problem with him... well they had issues... we played the game to the quick end for what it was worth and left with a great sense of 'team-spirit'

I don't have that problem with 'feeling neglected', trying to incorporate that into devising better game strategies, working on my strengths, my leaner physique, my penchant for exhibitionism... I can let a total jerk selfishly breed my man and kiss all they want... I only once pulled the fire-alarm when my man sat on the couch with a naked player AFTER THE GAME where he had already taken the player's load and then they were making out 'post-coitus' like little girls... I said: "Hey stop with your Lesbian shit!" I need to get over that!

I went to a sex-party by myself a few days ago, my man insisted I go - by myself!!! : group-sex performance ON STAGE. My man said: "Hey, it's your birthday and I don't like to be naked in front of a lot of people!" He lived vicariously through my blow-by-blow descriptions the next day... love how casual we have gotten about that. Turns out that one of the guys who comes over to breed my man at home when I step aside was the best fuck of the night ON STAGE for me there... but I have gotten so jaded that I didn't even figure out WHO he was until the next day when my man said: "Yeah you know Tim!! he has been over a few times but you never seemed interested!" No sometimes I just like my man to get all the attention, the dick and cum and just watch... but catch myself watching some movie on TV instead lol... Hey, not every game is exciting!  

Edited July 31, 2017 by rawsatyr

[misneach]

some guys are just rude and selfish and then pretend it was otherwise. If I were you I would chalk it up to experience and do not go back. Men who do not understand that guys relax a bit after cumming don't understand how the male orgasm works on us.